I don't really know how to start this but whatever ... I'm 13 and I live in Manitoba and I really want to be emancipated from my dad . My parents are separated and I don't want to live with my mother and her boyfriend .
I want to get emancipated because I can't stand my dad anymore . He doesn't physically or sexually abuse me , it's verbal and emotional ... we had to move out of our house because he went bankrupt and we got a 3 bedroom apartment . I got the biggest room , and my mom doesn't think anything of it . She says it's because my dad wants to make me happy , but it's not . It's so that he can get mad at me later for it . I got my hair done yesterday , all he can do is yell at me for how I didn't deserve it and I should be doing things around the house . He buys me things and does things for me so he can yell and get mad at me for it later .
For summer vacation from school , for almost a month I went to my grandma's with my sister , and my grandma's unfit to handle a 6 year old , so I was watching my sister day and night . My dad said I deserved it .
I have no time for my homework , I try to do as much as I can around the house , so my dad won't yell at me . He does anyway , he'll find anything to get mad at me about . ANYTHING . If I've done everything right that day then he'll get mad at me for not answering him or for looking at him wrong . Last night he was yelling at me for not being home 10 minutes later than 9 , even though he didn't say a time to be back , plus I was only volunteering at the pet store ! And then he's like "Tomorrow you're not going anywhere . You're going to do some stuff around here . Chores ." And I'm like "Mhm ..." then he's like "BUT ARE YOU REALLY GOING TO DO IT ?! " then I said " I will !" Then he's like "But YOU NEVER DO , how am I supposed to believe you . Nevermind , I'll just do it ." So then I'm like "No I'll do it !" then he's like "NO I can't trust you to be responsible about ANYTHING." And he'll continue to get mad at me about how he has to do everything . He got mad at me for saying 'yes , I'll do what you're telling me to do .' Which is the stupidest thing ever .
Now he says he either wants me in a foster home (but he doesn't really , he says they'll make me do chores and I'll be like a maid , but I know that's not true .) or I have to move to my grandma's , or go to the school across the street . He said that just because I don't want to go there . I actually CARE about my education and don't want to get started on drugs like everyone at that school . Which is why I don't want to move to my grandmas , she lives on a reserve and the education is crap .
I really want to be able to live on my own , I could get a job at the pet store I've been volunteering at , or one of my friend's parents could get me a job where they work . I could hold up a cheap apartment ... but I'm not sure if it's legal at 13 . I have a 93% average in school and I'm not in any gangs nor do I do drugs or drink . I'm very mature and responsible , so I think I'd be fine . Also , I was wondering if I could hold against my dad the fact that before me and my sister were born , he's been in jail several times for murder , drug abuse , drug distribution , DUI and possibly other things (also , recently , about 7 months ago when I was at a school camp he overdosed on something which was thought to be some sort of crack cocaine/meth mix .) And , he threatened to kill me today . He obviously won't kill me , but you do start to feel uncomfortable and insecure when you're living with someone who's constantly threatening you and telling you you're lazy , worthless , a bitch , telling you that nobody wants you and drinks all the time . And now he may have an aneurysm and be dying , and guess who he blames it on ? Whenever something happens , it's my fault . Whenever something DOESN'T happen , it's my fault . Whenever nothings wrong , there's SOMETHING that's my fault ! So , considering my options , and the fact that I care about my future and plan to have one , I think it would be in my best interests to be emancipated ...
Sorry for such a long post , but this is the first time I've ever really said all this to anyone , and I feel a little bit better ...
I just found out I'm finally getting to go to my grandma's in the country for the Thanksgiving (I couldn't stand spending another holiday/occasion with my dad . For my birthday , all he did was take $20 out of the $60 my mom gave me so all I got from anyone for my birthday was $40 , and last Christmas sucked .) but , I know that when I get back my dad will complain and criticize me on how I was selfish going to my grandma's and leaving him here and how I got everything that I wanted again , even though I apparently don't deserve anything at all . It's the same thing he did to my mom . Except my mom could leave ... I'll be back on either Monday or Tuesday , I hope to have someone reply by then .