Emancipation in Virginia and Looking for Help

:wallbang:that is what i feel like doing every time my mom calls my name. its always something negative, something i didnt do right, something i failed to do, something she didnt do, so now i have to, something that is a character flaw with me, always, always bad. and im sick of the emotional and verbal (and some physical, though all evidence would point to me being the aggressor, even though it was in self defense (although, self defense of a 160 lb teenager against her 110 lb mother doesnt seem like self defense, now does it?)) i have scars. so does she. she keeps degrading me, and telling me im no better than robin(who is my bio mom and a prostitute, f\drug addict, alcoholic, depression, schizophrenia, adn bipolar, adn abused all four of her kids(myslef included) adn now pam is opening a;ll that up again, and i wnat nothign to do with it...:wallbang::wallbang::wallbang:

If your being abused then report it to CPS or talk to a teacher, couselor, Doctor etc all are mandated by law to report suspected abuse

Who is Pam and how did you come to live with her?

pam is my aunt... i came to live with her because i was bounced from foster home to foster home in louisville, kentucky from the time i was born till i was eight, adn then she and my bio uncle found out, and she convinced him to 'take us in' adn my ten year old brother and i have been living with ehr and him ever since. adn finally, on may 30 last year, we were adopted, adn to answer the other persons question, i cant report it to anybody. she and i get into fist fights every now and then, adn i almost put her in the hospital the last two times. i gavea hera concussion, adn she has too many scars to count, adn yeah... so, i could bring up the slef defense argument, but shes 110 lbs, and im 160. adn 3 inches taller than her. shes a stick, adn im just not... even though i have scars. adn ive been to the guidance counselor, twice, adn he hasnt done anything. police have been called twice, adn i have a therapist that says all the violence is jsut a result from stress at home. i dont think so. but i hate the person she and cody(my brother) have made em into. im not blaming them, im jsut saying. so i spent since thursday at my friends house, because my brother and i got into a fight, adn then i told her id call her in half an hour, adn i walked out. stupid decision on my part, i know. and its against the law. i ended up at my best friends house, adn spent teh enire weekend there. adn then i had to go back last night. and tings were ok. but she was only being nice because if i leave, so will cody. and he walks on water to her. he gets away with everything-- because to her, everything he does is my fault. every cuss word, every punch trown, every i hate you. its all my fault. grrrr...its so frustrating!:mad:

Quoting Virginia Code § 16.1-331. Petition for emancipation.
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Any minor who has reached his sixteenth birthday and is residing in this Commonwealth, or any parent or guardian of such minor, may petition the juvenile and domestic relations district court for the county or city in which either the minor or his parents or guardian resides for a determination that the minor named in the petition be emancipated. The petition shall contain, in addition to the information required by § 16.1-262, the gender of the minor and, if the petitioner is not the minor, the name of the petitioner and the relationship of the petitioner to the minor.

thank you... but what about living in my house until then? (dec 22) do you have any tips?

ok... now its 10/5 and ive been getting a ride to school from my boyfriend and a friend of his. yes, that is going against moms wishes, but i REALLY dont feel like riding the bus, and dealing with the crap that people go through on the bus, particularly mine. everybodys always cussing somebody out, and three girls in particular think they rule the bus and can tell everyone else what they can and cant do. i dont feel like dealing with it, and if i tell my mom, shell just say ignore it. and its to the point noiw where theyre trying to boss me around, and i will eventually end up telling them to f*** off, and then ill get in trouble. so, im trying to avoid that problem, but mom wont see it that way. shell see it as me trying to go behind her back and do something she doesnt want me to do, or me just(yet again) doing what i want to do and disregarding her "rules." she seems to make up a different rule everytime i do something wrong. adn half the time, ive never heard of the rule she says im breaking! its not fair! she said shes going to take me today to get an application for a job, but how long do you have to have the job before you can say you can support yourself? thats one question i have. also, where would i go to petition for an emancipation? is there a form i have to fill out or something? ond one last question: do you think that i would be able to get one in the guidance office at school if there is a form? please and much thanks. and thank you for putting up with my complaints and taking the time to read them. ;):rolleyes:

Nothing you have said supports emancipation it does warrant a CPS report which you have already been told. By the way disobeying authority is yet anotehr nail in your coffin for emancipation

thank you... i understand the fact that you said nothing ive said warrants emancipation, but what does?

Use this site find your state and find your answers

thank you... but where would i find emancipation on there? i looked, but didnt see it.. and i looked on several links..
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If your state has a statute it will list the article and chapter to read

Here is Virgina's

Title 16.1, Chapter 11, Article 15

The law has been quoted in part in this thread. What exactly is the point of this exercise?

i have a question... what do you mean when you ask what is the point of this exercise? panther10758 is trying to help me out... i dont understand what exactly the law says... so panther10758 is trying to give me the source, so i can see the context of everything... and if you read all of the previous postings, then it will say somewhere in there that someone quoted the law, and then i said i didnt understand. so, panther10758 showed me where it was. and im trying to find it, but i cant. sorry if this seems confrontational... thats not what i mean... this is hard when a person cant talk... but, yeah. thats the point of this exercise.:)

would abuse (emotional and physical) be considered grounds for emancipation, if i can support myself, and can have a place to live on my own? the abuse is ... i guess you could say constant:(, because my mom is always throwing in comments in every conversation that cuts me down, or is directly calling me names:mad:, adn lashes out physically and verbally when she gets stressed (even when im no the one that made her mad in the first place...):mad:, or when she gets upset with dad, who is living separately from my brother, mother, and i while my she and dad are in the process of getting a divorce. i am at a loss for what to do. and while i do have a therapist/counselor, when i tell her whats going on, she says all this is just a result of the stress in the house. its frustrating. and ive gone to the school counselors about it, but beyond that, nothing happens. he says hell report it, but im not sure if he really does, even though hes required by law to. i am totally done with all of this crap, adn foster care is not an option for me. neither is living with my dad. so, im at a loss for what to do, and am looking for guidance and advice. :confused:

Abuse is grounds to file a CPS abuse report. Emancipation is about self support. You may think then related but they are not

thank you.

i have no idea what to do anymore... my ten year old brother rules the house, adn i get yelled at for everything he does wrong, and everything the dog tears up is somehow my fault, or i failed to stop the dog from doing something... its so frustrating! :wallbang: gr! and cody(my bro) screams like a little girl -- high pitched and until he runs out of air. when i ask him to stop, he doesn't. and he keeps going. eventually i end up yelling at him to stop, and then i get yelled at from mom, her saying "stop yelling at him for being a little kid!" "Being a little kid is ok, except for when it hurts my ears, ive asked him repeatedly to stop, and hes annoying me with it!" "well, too bad. Things ou do are annoying too." "yeah, well, im different. hes doing it intentionally to annoy me. and you dont do anything about it!" "dont talk to me like that!" "well then get control of your child and stop yelling at me when i correct him and you dont!" <- keep in mind i do that because shes disgusted with me, but doesnt seem to understand that as cody gets older, hes going to push limits even more than i do...