My Boyfriend Wants To Be Emancipated

okayy my boyfriend wants to get emancipated. . .we both had lived in ohio but he had to move to north carolina with his mom after his parents got divorced. I ended up moving from ohio as well to live with my mom in oklahoma. him and his mom fight a lot. sometimes she threatens to hit him with pans. . .she has stopped hitting him though because when she used to he would pretend it didnt even hurt. but lately they have been fighting alot. . .she also makes him do all the chores. I have met the lady and i feel she may need to get some help after everything she went through with her divorce. she is a very unhappy person. . .and almost never comes out of her room. she hates the thought of couples now and always tells my boyfriend to choose between me or her. He has been talking about running away to mexico and i thought that emancipation was probably a better option. i just dont know how to go about doing it. . .some laws say its better to be married and/or have a child. me and him have talked before though and we really dont want to do things for the wrong reasons. . .somebody plz help me get answers! :confused:

Emancipation is not to get out of your home.

If he is being abused, he needs to contact CPS.

Running away is a very bad idea, whether it be to Ohio, Oklahoma, or Mexico.

Getting married and/or pregnant to get out of the house is a really, really, really bad idea. And no, there are no laws that recommend that.

What is your boyfriend's plan for meeting his living expenses? Does he have a statement of his employment and wages certified by his employer? He's not going to be emancipated without them.

well hes never going to tell anybody that his mom hits him (or that she used to). . . he has a hard enough time just telling me. Within the last couple days after i posted this his mom told him he cant see me until he graduates. . .which is making him really push the whole mexico thing. Hes talking about powning his guitars so we will have money. . .i dont know how to tell him NO without making him feel like I'm against him too!:(

About the job. . . he is a MMA fighter. He has his first fight in Indiana on the 19th of October. Right now that is his only job. Which really doesnt look good for this whole thing. My mom has even talked to him about all this too (besides mexico. . .i didnt tell her about that)! hes so scared that his mom is going to keep us apart. . . and like my mom said. . ."if its meant to be, the distance will only make ur relationship stronger and the nobody will be able to tear u apart"

Your mom is right. You are both WAY too young to be pinning your entire futures on each other.

I love him more than I have ever cared about anything or anybody. . .I think I'm going to have to do this with him. . .:rolleyes: I know whatever we do as long as I'm with him I will be very happy :D

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I love him more than I have ever cared about anything or anybody. . .I think I'm going to have to do this with him. . .:rolleyes: I know whatever we do as long as I'm with him I will be very happy :D

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Okay, you are determined to run away with him to MEXICO, right? Now, let's just stop and think about this a minute, shall we?

How are you going to get across the border? Heck, how are you going to get TO the border?
Are either of your fluent in Spanish?
Do either of you even have a clue how to do something so simple as convert US currency to Mexican currency?
Where will you live?
How will either of you work?
How will you brush your teeth? (Yes, I am dead serious. Ever heard of Montezuma's Revenge? You get it from drinking the water. What a lot of people don't know is that if you so much as brush your teeth with the water, you're in for a world of hurt. I've had it. It's miserable.)
How do you think Mexico traditionally treats illegal immigrants (here's a hint, it's not nearly as nice as the US).
Have you ever seen or experienced Mexican prison (that is, if you are lucky enough to get tossed in prison before you are raped, robbed, maimed, or killed.)
Are you aware of the enormous gang problem in Mexico? Sweetie, these are not the piddly little boy gangs like you see on the streets of major US cities. Check out the Mexican Zetas, for one example. It's not a pretty picture.
If you decided that you just have to see your family, what do you think will happen when you try to cross back?

If you are not catching on, running to Mexico is a crazy, dumb, unrealistic pipe dream. Well, running away to anywhere is flat out stupid, but Mexico??? You're not going to be living out the crazy, free days of a romantic movie with sunsets, sand, and water. You are going to be hiding and trying to work for peanuts in a third world country.

Mexico is a beautiful country. Mexico is also an incredibly dangerous, corrupt country. You might want to seriously reconsider this.

How long do you think you will remain "happy"?

If you know your bf is being abused (or your mother does, or a neighbor does....) the one of Y'ALL contact CPS and report it. (in his county).

Andi, when I was your age there was a guy I felt like that about. Once I graduated high school I never saw him again - and never missed him.

The "class couple" - you know, the ones that had been together since seventh grade? They were divorced by the time they were 24.

I don't know a single soul that is still with the person they thought was the love of their life when they were your age.

I'm not saying you don't feel what you do; I know you do, and I know that to you it's real. What I am saying is that the odds are not great that it will last.

ESPECIALLY in Mexico.

well. . .i dunno. . .i do really love him and i know he loves me. . .and if anybody says anything about his mom. . .whats gonna end up happening??

In mexico. . .I honestly have no clue what we are going to do. . .he is planning on flying here though and then we are just going to drive to mexico from here.

I know people that have been together since they were 16 and they've been happily married for at least 20 years. . .It can happen and I really think I'm with my future husband right now.

I really dont have answers to all your questions though.:( \

hmmm. . .im just so cunfused.

How do you think that two unaccompanied minors are going to get across the border?

There really is nothing to be confused about. Running away will NOT solve his problems and most certainly will not make your life together better.

Nobody is questioning the fact that you love him. If you truly love him, you will give up the idea of running and help him realize that this is NOT an answer.

If CPS is contacted, they will determine what needs to be done. Nobody can tell you that CPS is going to go in and move him out of his home. They might, but they might not. At the very least, if they find evidence of ongoing abuse, they will attempt to help fix the situation.