I was in a very brief relationship (4-6 weeks) with a guy and broke up with him. Shortly after, I found out I was pregnant and the guy moved outta state. I got married and my husband took on full responsibility of the baby. Was with me through the whole thing and his name is on the birth certificate. My son also obviously has our last name. He is now 17 months old and the bio father has found out and wants my husband's name taken off the birth cert. and his name put on and also wants my son's last name to be changed to his. We have an attorney and everything is in the works, but I'm just curious if anyone knows if the judge will make us do that. The guy is very unstable emotionally and every other way. That's why I ended the relationship. Just curious what we might be facing. We are in Oklahoma. We invited him to our home to see our son and he had agreed to sign adoption papers at that time to let my husband "legally" adopt our little guy. We paid to have the papers drawn up and after he left our house we didn't hear from him again until 2 months later when I got served papers being sued by him for the things I just spoke of. He admitted himself that he could'nt handle being a dad and that I did the right thing and all, now all the sudden he's forcing all this other stuff on us and of course refusing to go through with the adoption now. Anyone got any comments of any kind or know of anything similar?
Biological Dad Wants Child's Last Name Changed To His
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09-07-2007, 12:29 PMrodeogirlBiological Dad Wants Child's Last Name Changed To His
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09-07-2007, 04:29 PMXenaRe: Biological Dad Wants Child's Last Name Changed To HisHas the bio father filed in court to establish paternity?Quote:
Quoting rodeogirl
Has a DNA test been done yet?
If he is the bio father, the court will base the decision of name change on what is in the child's best interests. In most cases, the courts believe that it is in a child's best interests to have the father's name or a combination of mother's and father's names, hyphenated. -
09-11-2007, 06:07 AMrodeogirlRe: Biological Dad Wants Child's Last Name Changed To His
Yes, he's hired a lawyer and wanted a dna test. We did that this week, just waitin the results which will be that he is the father because there was noone else. I understand he will be entitled to visitation and all that, but I 'm just wondering about havin to change the birth certif. and his name. My husband is the only Daddy he knows, and it just doesn't seem fair. My son was born 2 months premature and my husband never left his side the whole time he was in the NICU. Heck he hasn't been away from him yet and he's almost 18 months. : ) They are two peas ina pod. Thanks for replying. I welcome anyone else's comments good or bad.
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10-22-2007, 11:37 AMbecca80Re: Biological Dad Wants Child's Last Name Changed To His
I understand where you are coming from, but the way you really need to look at it is, maybe your ex realizes that he needs to stand up, be a man, and a father to his child. Every father in my opinion should have the right to his child carying his last name, unless he gives up those rights. Your child is 17 months, not 17 years old, so he won't grow up thinking that his daddy was never in his life. That is, if his father really does start making an effort to being in his life after all this. I think that you should give him the chance to be his father and hope for the best. If you didn't want him to have anything to do with his child, you should have had him sign over his rights from the begining. I hope the best for you. Maybe things will work out for the best!!
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10-22-2007, 11:57 AMNeal1421Re: Biological Dad Wants Child's Last Name Changed To His
Were you married to your husband at the time of your child's birth?