15, Living In New York, and Wants Out

My best friend is 16 as of June and is currently living with her father and her stepmother. Her stepmother is over controlling and holds something over her head and is really, just a bad mother. She favorites her children over my friend and spends thier gas money on things like her dogs surgery. And her father just lets her step on him and control his daughter, and even though we know he loves my friend, its not a healthy home for her to live in. The step mother has pulled her hair in the past, that I know of. There may be more instances but I'm not sure.

My friend wants to move in with me and is on the verge of running away, but the cops will just bring her home, and that makes things ten times worse. My mother is willing to take care of her, but her parents won't even let her come and visit. She wants to get emancipated but cant wait any longer and her parents won't concent. My uncle told me that since she's 16 she can just say she's moving out, but I don't think thats true. I need advise... I'm so confused and upset, and I need my friend back before something bad happens. I really didn't mean to turn this into a sob story, but she is like my sister, and I need her back before she goes insane.

We don't want to get in trouble, but I'm seriously about to just go and pick her up, which is of course kidnapping in some peoples eyes ^.^

Please help us. :(

Thank you.
B~

NY doesn't have an emancipation statute. Nothing that you have described is illegal. If she is truly being abused, then call CPS.

Just to add...

Abuse is NOT a stepmother treating her children better than your friend. No, it's not very nice, but it's not abuse, in and of itself.

You know that I know that right?:confused:

You don't have to like the parent's rules. You don't have to like the parents. You don't get to dictate how the parent's spend their "gas" money.

She's gone to guidance councilers, who contacted CPS, but all they said was "there's no proof" so they couldn't help her any. So what, we wait until she leaves a mark? Cause none of us can bear that... I know what I said doesn't seem THAT bad, but its the little things. There are so many things more then that, that make her not want to live there, its just the father doesnt see she is on the verge of a breakdown, and the grandmother doesnt want to get involved. When she tries to talk to them, Stepmom gets involved and nothing happens. She plays games with people because she can, she says things that aren't really abusive, but make my friend miserable for weeks, and I'm just afriad for my friend. But there is nothing I can do, and thats the worst. I'm just trying to save my friend, which apparently is a futile effort. Thank you guys for the help, and if you have any more advise, could you please post it here?

Thank you.

B~

And also, the gas money thing was about school clothes and buying food, and everything, and I forgot to write that... sorry.

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Quoting moburkes

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You know that I know that right?:confused:

You don't have to like the parent's rules. You don't have to like the parents. You don't get to dictate how the parent's spend their "gas" money.

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Sorry, Mo, my comment was not directed at you. It was directed at the OP.:)

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Quoting DCMAQueen

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And also, the gas money thing was about school clothes and buying food, and everything, and I forgot to write that... sorry.

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Still doesn't matter, as long as she has something to wear that is appropriate (that does not mean it must be fashionable), has food, a roof over her head, running water, and a place to sleep.

So there is absolutely nothing I can do?

That's right. There is absolutely nothing you can do.

And, BTW, the age at which she can legally move out without consent is 18, not 16.