Re: Child is Going to Therapy
Should I go to the game activity? I dont want them saying I violated a court order. Any advise?
Re: Child is Going to Therapy
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Whenever child support goes over $500 my license get suspended and I work in transportation. So I have to pay.
Should I go to the game activity? I dont want them saying I violated a court order. Any advise?
If you were invited to go then go. BUT do not go near mom, do not try to talk to mom do not even look at mom. Do not go near step mom, do not try to talk to step mom and don't even look at her either. Do not make comments to others about them. Just stop antagonizing the situation and mind your own business, and watch your son play his game. If you can't do that, no matter what might get you fired up, then you shouldn't go. Because knowing what we do about you, then you will just end up making your situation worse.
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If you were invited to go then go. BUT do not go near mom, do not try to talk to mom do not even look at mom. Do not go near step mom, do not try to talk to step mom and don't even look at her either. Do not make comments to others about them. Just stop antagonizing the situation and mind your own business, and watch your son play his game. If you can't do that, no matter what might get you fired up, then you shouldn't go. Because knowing what we do about you, then you will just end up making your situation worse.
I disagree and say don't go. Court orders are court orders. OP or Mom can't trump court orders and say they don't count.
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Phmn thanks. I dont get your examle can you explain better why I should not go? She is inviting me because court is in two month. I want to see him and my child wants to see me to. But as you mentioned I dont want court order violated. I mean I violated a phone call and Im being called “manipulative” but is okay for me to go because they say so? You know what I mean
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Phmn thanks. I dont get your examle can you explain better why I should not go? She is inviting me because court is in two month. I want to see him and my child wants to see me to. But as you mentioned I dont want court order violated. I mean I violated a phone call and Im being called “manipulative” but is okay for me to go because they say so? You know what I mean
I do not think that you should go, because I do not think that you are capable of behaving yourself. You knew it was totally wrong to call your son's phone an hour after bedtime, but you did it anyway. You knew it was wrong to let your phone ring 6 times without answering it, but you did it anyway. You knew it was wrong not to pay your child support, but you did it anyway. You knew that domestic violence was wrong, but you did it anyway. etc, etc, etc.
Until you can demonstrate, to yourself, that you know how to behave properly, I do not think that you should go anywhere near mom.
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Phmn thanks. I dont get your examle can you explain better why I should not go? She is inviting me because court is in two month. I want to see him and my child wants to see me to. But as you mentioned I dont want court order violated. I mean I violated a phone call and Im being called “manipulative” but is okay for me to go because they say so? You know what I mean
I never said it was ok to violate because they say so. I said not to violate a court order ever. You're manipulative for purposely calling your son after his bedtime and complaining that nobody answered. I think you should NOT show up, even if they say you can. If the court order says no, you don't do it.
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I can’t stop from going because she will say I refused to see him in person. But I also understand everyone point.
Although it looks like Im manipulating everything I am not. But I know she will use prior history against me. For example, there was one instance where she filed two harassment complaints. First was because she refused drop off at her home but baby sitter house. We ended in a physical fight she didn’t call police but filed a report. Second, she did another report because she wanted to divorce and I out of anger told her she had to speak with me first or I would hurt her with the most important thing. After this, she dropped the files. She separated from wife ( who was a girlfriend)
And we got together for a month as she wanted to get back to her. This is when domestic violence happened. We got back together six month later for a month and than she wanted nothing from me. She refused to communicate directly because I insisted on talking about personal matters. Her sister step in but since most of the time she didn’t answer step mom agree to give her number and be the one to communicate and drop him off. Now I find out she recorded a conversation where I badmouthed about Mom and she told me to refrain my communication on the child only. After this I stopped calling him and decided to do everything thorough the court.
Mom is saying she was with me those two times out of fear that I would take our son from her and that she will use the recorded conversation in court. Can they do that?