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redtoy92
well come on you don't have to go that far.. Don't hate yourself. We all make stupid mistakes.. as long as you learn from this and never do it again then you will be alright. I am sure you were not raised like this. But it is up to you if you can keep this from your mom evertime you see her. I really do believe you feel bad for this but you saying you THINK your not going to hang out with her anymore... ,that makes me think something is not right. If you really are a good person you must and would separate yourself from her asap. Good luck and relax and learn.
Yeah, it's just hard when you've been friends with the person since 8th grade. But we do have completely different morals. She is also blaming this on me since I let the officer search my purse (I didn't have anything to hide) but she had the sensor gun in her bag and she said that I didn't have to let them take a look in my bag. And it is very hard to keep this from my mom. I am also trying to keep it from my boyfriend but it's driving me crazy since I tell him everything. I know I'm probably overreacting a bit, but I honestly am scared to death.
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Yeah, it's just hard when you've been friends with the person since 8th grade. But we do have completely different morals. She is also blaming this on me since I let the officer search my purse (I didn't have anything to hide) but she had the sensor gun in her bag and she said that I didn't have to let them take a look in my bag. And it is very hard to keep this from my mom. I am also trying to keep it from my boyfriend but it's driving me crazy since I tell him everything. I know I'm probably overreacting a bit, but I honestly am scared to death.
well you are still very young and trust me when i tell you this...... friends will come and go! It seems like you can keep your best friends forever at your age but you will see over the next 5 years they get married move on etc. So you letting her go is only what will happen with time anyways. But it saves you from getting in trouble. And a true friend would not be mad at you. Well good luck with telling or not telling. If it was me I would tell my boyfriend and mother. YOu will feel so much better and not to have to lie over the next few months about court dates and where all your money is going.
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redtoy92
well you are still very young and trust me when i tell you this...... friends will come and go! It seems like you can keep your best friends forever at your age but you will see over the next 5 years they get married move on etc. So you letting her go is only what will happen with time anyways. But it saves you from getting in trouble. And a true friend would not be mad at you. Well good luck with telling or not telling. If it was me I would tell my boyfriend and mother. YOu will feel so much better and not to have to lie over the next few months about court dates and where all your money is going.
Yeah...my mom will be furious because of all of the charges and what-not. My boyfriend HATES my friend that I was with and is always telling me not to hang out with her because she's a bad influence. If I tell him what happened, all I'm going to hear is "I told you so!!". I know it will make me feel a lot better if I tell them, though. I might tell my boyfriend tonight.
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Oh trust me...I will NEVER do it again. I felt like such a criminal and like the biggest low-life ever. I am so embarassed and REPULSED by my actions. I was not raised like this, which is why I don't know if I can bring myself to tell my Mom about it. She would be so disappointed in me...which she SHOULD be! Because I am disappointed in myself. Actually, I HATE myself right now. I feel like the biggest piece of s*** on this planet, even though there are people out there who commit WAYYYYY worse crimes than I did. I do not think I am going to hang out with the girl I got caught with anymore.
You'll never do what again, get caught?
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Yeah, it's just hard when you've been friends with the person since 8th grade. But we do have completely different morals. She is also blaming this on me since I let the officer search my purse (I didn't have anything to hide) but she had the sensor gun in her bag and she said that I didn't have to let them take a look in my bag. And it is very hard to keep this from my mom. I am also trying to keep it from my boyfriend but it's driving me crazy since I tell him everything. I know I'm probably overreacting a bit, but I honestly am scared to death.
For one, the officer would've searched your purses anyway, so that's not your fault. Secondly, you need to disconnect from this "friend" immediately! The first time y'all got away with it, so the second time it became a little easier for ya....then you got caught.
Now is the time for honesty!!! Tell your boyfriend and your mom ASAP! Does your mom like your boyfriend? If so, try telling them together. Then you need to get a lawyer. You are 19. A conviction will haunt your future for many years to come. I'm sure that you plan on seeking some sort of gainful employment sometime down the road, well they all do background checks. A lawyer can help you possibly get the charge(s) reduced, or get into a diversion program.
Lastly, you mustn't internalize this. All that'll do is create more problems for you. You sound like a good person influenced into a couple of bad decisions. Now is the time to do the right thing, take your 'lumps', and get this all behind you. Good luck to ya.
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For one, the officer would've searched your purses anyway, so that's not your fault. Secondly, you need to disconnect from this "friend" immediately! The first time y'all got away with it, so the second time it became a little easier for ya....then you got caught.
Now is the time for honesty!!! Tell your boyfriend and your mom ASAP! Does your mom like your boyfriend? If so, try telling them together. Then you need to get a lawyer. You are 19. A conviction will haunt your future for many years to come. I'm sure that you plan on seeking some sort of gainful employment sometime down the road, well they all do background checks. A lawyer can help you possibly get the charge(s) reduced, or get into a diversion program.
Lastly, you mustn't internalize this. All that'll do is create more problems for you. You sound like a good person influenced into a couple of bad decisions. Now is the time to do the right thing, take your 'lumps', and get this all behind you. Good luck to ya.
Is that you, Oprah?
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cissycicle
Is that you, Oprah?
No smartbutt, it's not.....it's the new & improved souperdave. Like it? :)
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souperdave
No smartbutt, it's not.....it's the new & improved souperdave. Like it? :)
Please comeback souperdave!
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You'll never do what again, get caught?
No, I will never shoplift again.
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souperdave
For one, the officer would've searched your purses anyway, so that's not your fault. Secondly, you need to disconnect from this "friend" immediately! The first time y'all got away with it, so the second time it became a little easier for ya....then you got caught.
Now is the time for honesty!!! Tell your boyfriend and your mom ASAP! Does your mom like your boyfriend? If so, try telling them together. Then you need to get a lawyer. You are 19. A conviction will haunt your future for many years to come. I'm sure that you plan on seeking some sort of gainful employment sometime down the road, well they all do background checks. A lawyer can help you possibly get the charge(s) reduced, or get into a diversion program.
Lastly, you mustn't internalize this. All that'll do is create more problems for you. You sound like a good person influenced into a couple of bad decisions. Now is the time to do the right thing, take your 'lumps', and get this all behind you. Good luck to ya.
Thank you. This helped me alot! :) I plan on telling my mom and my boyfriend, I just don't know when and how to. I'm so scared. And as for the lawyer thing...they are expensive!! And I'm already going to have to pay a big fine.