How to Take an Extended Holiday if the Other Parent Won't Trade Visitation Dates

I want to take 2 weeks vacation with my son and travel out of state. I have full custody (both). My Ex husband has visitation court scheduled for every other weekend. Therefore, if I travel, He would miss a weekend. I am willing to switch and give him 2 weekends in row when we come back, but he is not.
What can I do?

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: maryland

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Quoting Sue.mel2006

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I want to take 2 weeks vacation with my son and travel out of state. I have full custody (both). My Ex husband has visitation court scheduled for every other weekend. Therefore, if I travel, He would miss a weekend. I am willing to switch and give him 2 weekends in row when we come back, but he is not.
What can I do?

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: maryland

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Does your court order address vacation at all? If not, you may have to take it back to court to get the schedule modified to address vacations. Your ex is being inflexible. Does he have a particular reason for that or is he just being inflexible to be inflexible?

Why not offer the two weekends before you leave and the two weekends after you return. Since he only might benefit one you return, he should be suspicious that you will not comply. Give him more time to make up for him accommodating your vacation. After all, he only gets them every other weekend.

Or go from the Mon after his weekend until the Fri before his weekend; that is 12 days and a pretty nice vacation.

Has he ever asked for the same and you refused? Have you ever accommodated his requests to change dates?

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Quoting llworking

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Does your court order address vacation at all? If not, you may have to take it back to court to get the schedule modified to address vacations. Your ex is being inflexible. Does he have a particular reason for that or is he just being inflexible to be inflexible?

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Given the very scant details provided, how on God's green earth did you come up with *that* conclusion?! We don't know if Mom has done this at the very last minute, we don't know if she's messed him about with HIS parenting time before, whether he has made plans of his own during HIS parenting time this time around, or anything else for that matter.

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Quoting OKisNotOK

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Why not offer the two weekends before you leave and the two weekends after you return. Since he only might benefit one you return, he should be suspicious that you will not comply. Give him more time to make up for him accommodating your vacation. After all, he only gets them every other weekend.

Or go from the Mon after his weekend until the Fri before his weekend; that is 12 days and a pretty nice vacation.

Has he ever asked for the same and you refused? Have you ever accommodated his requests to change dates?

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Thank you for at least asking questions first.

He is being inflexible. However, I specifically asked if he had a reason for being inflexible. Such reasons might include prior bad behavior by the OP, already made plans himself for that time, etc. Or did you simply not thoroughly read my question?

So anyone who abides by the court order and doesn't agree to allow the other parent to violate it is being inflexible?

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Quoting cbg

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So anyone who abides by the court order and doesn't agree to allow the other parent to violate it is being inflexible?

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Of course. That is the very definition of inflexible. Inflexible is neither good nor bad, it just is. This dad is choosing to be inflexible. He may have a good reason for being inflexible or he may simply prefer to follow the order to a T. When that happens, and there is a valid issue arisen, such as vacations, then the solution is to go back to court to try to get the order modified.

We all have things about which we are inflexible. Some by choice, some by necessity.

My point is that when you tell a poster, "Your ex/bf/gf/parent/child's teacher/what-have-you is being inflexible", the implication is that the ex/bf/gf/etc is being unreasonable. Which is not always the case. Words matter.

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Quoting cbg

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My point is that when you tell a poster, "Your ex/bf/gf/parent/child's teacher/what-have-you is being inflexible", the implication is that the ex/bf/gf/etc is being unreasonable. Which is not always the case. Words matter.

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If I meant unreasonable I would have said unreasonable. With the question I asked directly after the statement I do not see how someone could have interpreted "inflexible" as "unreasonable".

It's because you don't see that, that I pointed it out to you.