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  • 04-18-2018, 06:27 AM
    casper646
    Is it Illegal to Kiss a Child on the Lips
    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: TX

    Is it against the law to kiss a child on the lips. I personally think it's gross and I don't kiss mine on the lips. Maybe something is wrong with me, idk, but I feel like it's just something you do not do.

    The reason I ask is because a few years ago I had to speak with CPS regarding my neighbors at the time. The CPS lady asked me if anyone kisses their girls on the lips. When she began the question, she said "it's a silly question, but I'm required to ask." I disgustingly said no, and I don't either. So I have been wondering all this time if CPS had to ask that because it's a law, or what.

    Plus, the grandmother of mine does kiss on the lips. I thought it was gross with a 2 year old, and she continues as the kids are getting older. And I seem to be the only one with a problem with her open mouth kisses against my children's mouths.
  • 04-18-2018, 07:37 AM
    flyingron
    Re: Kiss on the Lips
    It's not against the law, but it's a potential sign that something more than a simple social kiss is going on. CPS has a whole slew of things they ask about which are not crimes themselves but indicate whether they should investigate further.
  • 04-18-2018, 08:22 AM
    qwaspolk69
    Re: Kiss on the Lips
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    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: TX

    I asked this on Avvo but got no response. I am just curious if it is against the law to kiss a child on the lips. I personally think it's gross and I don't kiss mine on the lips. Maybe something is wrong with me, idk, but I feel like it's just something you do not do.

    The reason I ask is because a few years ago I had to speak with CPS regarding my neighbors at the time. The CPS lady asked me if anyone kisses their girls on the lips. When she began the question, she said "it's a silly question, but I'm required to ask." I disgustingly said no, and I don't either. So I have been wondering all this time if CPS had to ask that because it's a law, or what.

    Plus, the grandmother of mine does kiss on the lips. I thought it was gross with a 2 year old, and she continues as the kids are getting older. And I seem to be the only one with a problem with her open mouth kisses against my children's mouths.

    My daughter is 3 1/2 and sometimes she will give me a quick kiss on the lips. I don't open mouth kiss her and she doesn't do it very often anymore. There's nothing sexual or gross about it. Would I do that as she got older? Probably not but some families do that. It doesn't mean anything sexual unless there is something more going on behind closed doors.

    The reason that CPS person asked is probably because the neighbor was being investigated for some kind of sexual abuse or someone in the home was. Because I had CPS come talk to me about a domestic violence incident and she never asked me any of that kind of stuff. At all.

    What do you mean your grandmother open mouth kisses? Like does she French kiss your kids or something? If you have a problem with the way anyone has contact with your kids YOU can stop them. Tell your grandmother it makes you uncomfortable and if the kids don't like it tell her that. Didn't you ever talk about boundaries with your kid? They should be telling her no if they don't want to do it. People should teach their kids any unwanted touching is not ok regardless if it's family even.
  • 04-18-2018, 08:27 AM
    jk
    Re: Kiss on the Lips
    Have you never noticed all the humor based on the anxiety of a child when they know grandmama is coming to visit? Grandmas are notorious for kissing their kin square on the lips.

    It tends to be a family thing. Some families do it, others don’t. In itself I see nothing improper about it as long as those involved are not uncomfortable with it.

    Now in your last line you brought in open mouth kissing. That is something quite different than a quick peck. I feel open mouth kissing does suggest a more intimate relationship and even I would be wary of such actions.
  • 04-18-2018, 08:52 AM
    casper646
    Re: Kiss on the Lips
    Replying to all. Thanks. I've been wondering why CPS asked that question all these years. Yes, they were being investigated for that type of thing. It was all bunk; merely a custody battle going all kinds of crazy.

    Then now, it applies in my own family. I've had to dismiss how ex-wife's mother conducts herself, as it's family but not how I was raised, but my oldest is now 7 and I feel it's unacceptable. My daughter can act a little strange sometimes, all kids do, and goes all open mouth at her for a kiss, and she's done it to me - the difference is I don't allow it and tell her to act appropriately. I've got a rather disturbing picture taken by someone else I planned to send to my lawyer depending on your answers here where they're kissing and mouths are open. No tongue, but I didn't think it was right at the time of the photo, and especially allowing now at her age.
  • 04-18-2018, 09:20 AM
    qwaspolk69
    Re: Kiss on the Lips
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    Replying to all. Thanks. I've been wondering why CPS asked that question all these years. Yes, they were being investigated for that type of thing. It was all bunk; merely a custody battle going all kinds of crazy.

    Then now, it applies in my own family. I've had to dismiss how ex-wife's mother conducts herself, as it's family but not how I was raised, but my oldest is now 7 and I feel it's unacceptable. My daughter can act a little strange sometimes, all kids do, and goes all open mouth at her for a kiss, and she's done it to me - the difference is I don't allow it and tell her to act appropriately. I've got a rather disturbing picture taken by someone else I planned to send to my lawyer depending on your answers here where they're kissing and mouths are open. No tongue, but I didn't think it was right at the time of the photo, and especially allowing now at her age.

    You do not have to dismiss the way anyone acts because they are "family." Open mouth kissing seems odd. So that's why you need to talk to the grandma and talk to your ex wife about it too. If anyone is uncomfortable it's wrong. No matter if it's family.

    Just like if my grandma wants a hug from my daughter and she says no, I don't force her. Or anyone else in my family. If she doesn't want to hug someone she doesn't have to hug them.

    Have you talked to your ex wife about this?
  • 04-18-2018, 12:28 PM
    casper646
    Re: Kiss on the Lips
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    Quoting qwaspolk69
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    You do not have to dismiss the way anyone acts because they are "family." Open mouth kissing seems odd. So that's why you need to talk to the grandma and talk to your ex wife about it too. If anyone is uncomfortable it's wrong. No matter if it's family.

    Just like if my grandma wants a hug from my daughter and she says no, I don't force her. Or anyone else in my family. If she doesn't want to hug someone she doesn't have to hug them.

    Have you talked to your ex wife about this?

    I have talked about it, but she sees things differently saying that that's her grandmother. I haven't since we started this whole divorce thing though. But I don't see how it's appropriate behavior as our daughter is old enough to know better IF someone reinforced proper behavior. That's why I was kinda wondering if there was something wrong with me, but guess I am not the only one to think it's odd.
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