What Happens at a Hearing on Contempt in a Child Support Case

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Quoting bcr229

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Someone halfway decent at Google could figure out that there are four cases on the docket and who the OP's ex-wife's attorneys are.

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His attorney is listed also, the one he was assigned. OP also didn't black out his one document well enough and you can see part of his first name. Apparently he doesn't understand how much information can be found.

Readyrolove. Thanks for clarifying that jail time would not happen. The problem is that everything was okay by me giving her money in cash. When I went to court for custody the judge asked if she wanted child support and she said yes. I stated I gave her $70.00 the judge didn't even bother to ask for my bank acc nothing. $70 was enough for one child a week. But she wanted the child support. I was depositing money to her via western union she never picked up because she wanted everything thorough child support. And you guys still think im the bad guy

She doesnt have an attorney

I said MAY not happen. Not that it WOULD not happen.

And it should go thru child support. Because then when your deadbeat butt stops paying, she has recourse, which is exactly where you are at now.

You pay through child support so there is a record of it being paid. You stated that you should not pay anything because your child doesn't live with you and the step mom makes a lot of money. If she didn't pick up the money from Western Union, she didn't receive anything. You pay it the way the court says, when they say. Go enjoy your vacation, and hope that Mr. Brown is an adequate attorney for you when you return.

Oh my god yes I started paying via child support but I was depositing the money via western union and she didn't pick up because she wanted her way via child support. So I stop paying as she didn't pick up at western union means she didn't need it. My son is in private school has his own bedroom and she doesn't work. And also wants my money?

YOU PAY THE PAYMENTS VIA CHILD SUPPORT, NOT WESTERN UNION. You are responsible for him, even if your son's stepmother has a better job than you. Your ex wife could marry Bill Gates and you are still responsible to help take care of him. You should be glad his new step mother takes such good care of him instead of being bitter that you aren't as well off as she is.

So step mom wants to take me to court to ask back all of the money she spent on my child for the past three years. And you guys think she is a good person.

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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So step mom wants to take me to court to ask back all of the money she spent on my child for the past three years. And you guys think she is a good person.

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Your court hearing is for you not paying child support for months. Don't try to shift the blame to anyone else. Nobody said she was a good person, we just said you were a poor excuse for a father. No amount of trying to defame her is going to change that.

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Oh my god yes I started paying via child support but I was depositing the money via western union and she didn't pick up because she wanted her way via child support. So I stop paying as she didn't pick up at western union means she didn't need it. My son is in private school has his own bedroom and she doesn't work. And also wants my money?

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You are an idiot, and you have the maturity of a 3 year old taking a tantrump on the golf course.

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Quoting Dogmatique

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You are an idiot, and you have the maturity of a 3 year old taking a tantrump on the golf course.

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I see what you did there...

Back to OP... Your child is the responsibility of you and his mother - not stepmom. It is generous of her to pay for private school. And that is something you should be grateful for.

Im back. Court is on Tuesday. Arrears $1650. I can’t pay. I was assigned a lawyer. What can i do to get out of this?

This really is a fascinating thread! 14 pages of an idiotic OP yammering about mom, custody, CS and everything else? This is better than the soap opera my family life has been of late!

OP, I don't know what your deal is. I can't really tell, through this thread, if you're willfully thick or if you're a troll. You oscillate through worry of legal sanctions being imposed to crowing about how the legal system can't touch you. Well, least assured that the legal system can and will touch you though I suspect they'll wear some protective gloves. That they assigned an attorney to you is peculiar as this is an administrative procedure and not a criminal. It's also peculiar that you believe that the purpose of that attorney is to just give you explanations.

In the above post you claim, after taking a 2 week vacation including international travel, that you are not able to pay your arrearages in spite of the fact that somewhere back there you said that you paid all of the arrearages off and therefore you should just be allowed to walk.

You make little sense. Your posts are muddled and confusing. Why this thread has grown to this length mystifies me.

You can do nothing to get out of it, by the way.

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Oh my god yes I started paying via child support but I was depositing the money via western union and she didn't pick up because she wanted her way via child support. So I stop paying as she didn't pick up at western union means she didn't need it. My son is in private school has his own bedroom and she doesn't work. And also wants my money?

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Of course she wanted it via child support. That's how EVERYONE wants it. Through the state. That's how every NCP should want to pay it. Not through WU. "Also wants my money." Wow just wow.

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Im back. Court is on Tuesday. Arrears $1650. I can’t pay. I was assigned a lawyer. What can i do to get out of this?

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Stop having kids you can't afford for one. For two - listen to your lawyer. Also better figure out how you're paying those arrears. That is really not that much. My ex is like 16000+ in arrears for four kids.

You were assigned the same lawyer that everyone gets. You better hope he's decent. You claimed you had no arrears before. I think your exact words were "no arrears no punishment", is that right? Your stories are all over the place. You are so broke, but you just went on vacation out of the country. You said it was your first hearing in one post, then you called it "another hearing" in another. You're either a troll or a compulsive liar. Maybe both. If you think the court doesn't know this, and won't take it into consideration, you are nuts. My ex husband was found guilty and one of the things brought up was him traveling and spending money on tattoos while he was $7000 in arrears. He said he had "extra money" and then was reminded that when you are $7000 behind on supporting your children, there is no "extra money". He got sentenced to 30 days in jail if the arrears aren't settled by a specified date. This is his first contempt on child support hearing. The courts get tired of dealing with deadbeats, especially ones who like to brag about not going to jail and think they are exempt from punishment. Clearly you need the constant attention or you are totally clueless about life.

If you're looking for sympathy, pal, you're in the wrong place.

Thank you everyone. When I say next hearing I meant to say it was postponed. But this is my first contempt. Im very remorseful for my actions and wants to do it right. I just cant pay now. I will keep you guys update. Thank you for your time

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Im back. Court is on Tuesday. Arrears $1650. I can’t pay. I was assigned a lawyer. What can i do to get out of this?

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Pay it.

Forgive me if I find it difficult to believe that the same person who spent 13 pages boasting about how he was immune from any adverse action is now remorseful on page 14 when he just found out that he isn't.

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Thank you everyone. When I say next hearing I meant to say it was postponed. But this is my first contempt. Im very remorseful for my actions and wants to do it right. I just cant pay now. I will keep you guys update. Thank you for your time

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How did you finance an international vacation for 2 weeks if you are unable to pay child support? Why are you remorseful now when you mocked mothers for getting child support? Did you figure out that your attorney you were assigned is the same guy that every deadbeat gets assigned and he isn't going to do squat for you? You posted your documents, you were paying no child support for months and months and bragging about it. I imagine you will be in tears in court pleading for the judge to forgive you because you're so remorseful. If he is, you will be back here mocking the system for letting you go.

Im going to request a paternity test on the new born. We separated in January and she got back and married her wife in March. Newborn supposedly was born in February but I don’t buy that. The baby could be mine.

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Im going to request a paternity test on the new born. We separated in January and she got back and married her wife in March. Newborn supposedly was born in February but I don’t buy that. The baby could be mine.

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SO you want to be on the hook for MORE child support now? And if you separated in January that baby would have had to have been born months ago in order for it to be yours.

Maybe he was born before and she hided it. Wife is on birth certificate not me. Im not a sperm donor. I told all of our mutual friends that he is my son. Someone told her and she wants to accuse me of defamation. I dont know why so much harm on me. Can she do anything? Any recommendations om the paternity

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Maybe he was born before and she hided it. Wife is on birth certificate not me. Im not a sperm donor. I told all of our mutual friends that he is my son. Someone told her and she wants to accuse me of defamation. I dont know why so much harm on me. Can she do anything? Any recommendations om the paternity

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It would be very difficult for her to hide a child for months. You would be talking about her hiding the child all thru Thanksgiving, Christmas etc. And you certainly aren't financially supporting the child you do have, so I am not sure why you want to claim another one. You need to let your ex-wife go and you really need to move on. She clearly has. And you need to grow up and start supporting the child you do have.

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Maybe he was born before and she hided it. Wife is on birth certificate not me. Im not a sperm donor. I told all of our mutual friends that he is my son. Someone told her and she wants to accuse me of defamation. I dont know why so much harm on me. Can she do anything? Any recommendations om the paternity

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You were mocking her for getting a continuance for the delivery. You know when the kid was born. You are just trying to get back at her any way you can. What are you so bitter about?

15 Pages in this thread alone and senior members are still responding to this obvious troll.

This is not a troll. I provided proof already

Your story maybe based on a true story and it may even be your true story but you are clearly trolling.

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Quoting PMMH

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You were mocking her for getting a continuance for the delivery. You know when the kid was born. You are just trying to get back at her any way you can. What are you so bitter about?

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LOL You can't figure it out? He was left *for a woman*.

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Maybe he was born before and she hided it. Wife is on birth certificate not me. Im not a sperm donor. I told all of our mutual friends that he is my son. Someone told her and she wants to accuse me of defamation. I dont know why so much harm on me. Can she do anything? Any recommendations om the paternity

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Unless you have seen the child's birth certificate. You have no way of knowing what is on it. If I remember correctly she had the baby recently. Her partner would have to legally adopt the child in order for the her name to be on the birth certificate. This takes time.

If the child was conceived by artificial insemination. There is no name on the birth certificate under father. Unless an adoption is done

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Quoting jumanji

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LOL You can't figure it out? He was left *for a woman*.

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I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt that he wasn't a fragile male ego. I know, I know.

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Quoting readytoleave

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SO you want to be on the hook for MORE child support now? And if you separated in January that baby would have had to have been born months ago in order for it to be yours.

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Clearly math isn't his forte. He can't keep his arrears straight. He thinks he could be the father of a baby born 13 months after a separation...

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Quoting Mercy&Grace

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Unless you have seen the child's birth certificate. You have no way of knowing what is on it. If I remember correctly she had the baby recently. Her partner would have to legally adopt the child in order for the her name to be on the birth certificate. This takes time.

If the child was conceived by artificial insemination. There is no name on the birth certificate under father. Unless an adoption is done

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She is on the birth certificate a mutual friend saw it. How can this be possible. They are married so there is a presumption of paternity. And Im the dumb one

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I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt that he wasn't a fragile male ego. I know, I know.



Clearly math isn't his forte. He can't keep his arrears straight. He thinks he could be the father of a baby born 13 months after a separation...

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Im not after child support im after justice. If he is my child she has no right to be on that birth certificate

You aren't paying for the children you already have.

That has nothing to do with paternity

You cannot be sure of what the birth certificate says. Unless you read it yourself

They are both on the birth certificate

So what's your problem?

If im the father shes not suppose to be on it

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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If im the father shes not suppose to be on it

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Son - do you understand that "if" you're the father, you'll be ordered to pay support on THAT child, too? Are you really foolish enough to fight for *that*?

Shes not the mother shes a lesbian who think is a man.

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Quoting Mtxpro123

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Shes not the mother shes a lesbian who think is a man.

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You really don't get the point, do you?If it is your child, you're on the hook to support him/her. If it is not? None of your business who is on the BC in what space. Butt out.