Division of Weekend Visitation Between Parents

I apologize, I’m not sure what you mean by “position of strength”. And yes, I apparently don’t seem to understand that if I don’t know what that defines.

I don’t plan on going into this meeting planning to necessarily “negotiate”. Yes, I would love to have more time with her, but at what cost? Knowing my daughter as well as what we’ve established here, I think she’d benefit most from the stability and consistency of keeping Mom as the primary residence. Could she thrive in a 50/50 or every other week scenario (should my girlfriend and I move closer)? Possibly. I think if that were to happen, a more developmentally mature human being (adolescent/teen) would be more appropriate. Should that happen, Mom and I would revisit and discuss.

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Quoting GladDad

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I apologize, I’m not sure what you mean by “position of strength”. And yes, I apparently don’t seem to understand that if I don’t know what that defines.

I don’t plan on going into this meeting planning to necessarily “negotiate”. Yes, I would love to have more time with her, but at what cost? Knowing my daughter as well as what we’ve established here, I think she’d benefit most from the stability and consistency of keeping Mom as the primary residence. Could she thrive in a 50/50 or every other week scenario (should my girlfriend and I move closer)? Possibly. I think if that were to happen, a more developmentally mature human being (adolescent/teen) would be more appropriate. Should that happen, Mom and I would revisit and discuss.

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Well, sitting down together to try to work things out requires negotiating. Otherwise there is no point in sitting down together because no one can come to an agreement without negotiating.

What I mean by "position of strength" is that mom has no obligation to agree to change anything, and you have no compelling reason why a change is needed. There is nothing going on that requires a change, its just that you want a change. If you had some compelling reason why things HAD to change, like a change in your work schedule that made the current schedule totally unworkable, or mom started working every weekend and therefore could not spend time with the child on weekends, then you would be in a greater position of strength.

Also, I am not dissing you for wanting a change. I am simply saying that you have no compelling reason for needing one.