Child Support for a Child Living with a Grandparent

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Nevada

-Not quite sure how or where to begin'
My daughter divorced her husband and through out the whole time during the divorce she was going to school and struggling to find a part time job. In the all that was transpiring, the long divorce process going to court sweet and short she always got the end of the rope which got worse every time she went in her ex is military so therefore he would always use the military card and faught (did not want to pay child support).
At the end of the day it all ended to where the judge granted no child support for their 2 year old daughter.

I as a single grandparent aside from my own bills ended up having to support my 21 year old daughter and her 2 year old daughter, I pay for their daughters, child care, diapers, clothing, any needs that come with a 2 year old in the meantime. She is unable to get any welfare assistance reason being my daughter is jaded she thinks if she ask for help she will get into trouble with the court orders.

I dont feel I SHOULD BE PAYING FOR my granddaughters welfare when her father is getting away with $0 child support.

I sincerely wish I could get some kind of assistance.

You choose to help your daughter monetarily. You do not HAVE to help her. If you can't afford it then you tell her you can't afford it and she finds something else.

Why can't she get any government assistance? Usually someone can't because they make too much. Why would she get in trouble from the court for using assistance? Dose your daughter work? If she doesn't work I'd make her ass get a job or tell her to go. It sucks especially with the kid but she's an adult your daughter. She needs to figure shit out.

Again you are paying for things of your free will. You can stop at anytime.

Your granddaughter is your daughters responsibility. You are not doing your daughter any favors if you have not told her to go to work or get out. You also are not doing your granddaughter any favors by allowing her mother to not be responsible for her. The story about dad is not an excuse for your daughter being irresponsible. Countless single mothers raise more than one child without child support or assistance. It is not easy. But they do it

It was my choice to help and I am not making excuses, It would be easy to say I wouldnt help if she was not trying to better her future......I understand she is my daughters responsiblity but unlike my grandaughters FATHER i am not going to look the other way and ignore or look the other way when she is struggling day by day with all my grandaughters needs.
My daughter is going to school full time jobs she has aquired require her more flexability from her which she has tried. At this moment she has a part time job...Goes to school from 7am to 7pm after school goes to work from 9pm to midnight. During the whole situation the FATHER fights the court system not wanting to pay child support. Unfortunately she got a crappy judge which we where advised it would be tough he is prejudice to females and granted her no child support.

The only reason she is afraid to ask for assistance is because the court system has failed her. She did apply once and her ex husband found out cussed her out via text and told her he now was going to fight for custody of their daughter and why the hell did she go ask for help. She got scared and removed the request for financial aid.

It was my choice to help and I am not making excuses, It would be easy to say I wouldnt help if she was not trying to better her future......I understand she is my daughters responsiblity but unlike my grandaughters FATHER i am not going to look the other way and ignore or look the other way when she is struggling day by day with all my grandaughters needs.
My daughter is going to school full time jobs she has aquired require her more flexability from her which she has tried. At this moment she has a part time job...Goes to school from 7am to 7pm after school goes to work from 9pm to midnight. During the whole situation the FATHER fights the court system not wanting to pay child support. Unfortunately she got a crappy judge which we where advised it would be tough he is prejudice to females and granted her no child support.

The only reason she is afraid to ask for assistance is because the court system has failed her. She did apply once and her ex husband found out cussed her out via text and told her he now was going to fight for custody of their daughter and why the hell did she go ask for help. She got scared and removed the request for financial aid.

I understand your predicament however your daughter is choosing to go to school full time and work part time, and it seems that you are picking up the slack. That's not to say that she isn't working hard, but as a single mom myself, it might be a better solution for the three of you for her to work full time and go to school part time to help out with some more of the expenses for the household and raising her child.

I currently work full time and part time and am working towards my degree online. This allows me to maintain my household and raise my daughter, and continue to move forward towards building a better life for the two of us. It will take a bit longer to get my degree, however my priority is keeping a roof over my daughter's head, food in her belly and clothes on her back without relying on others to take care of my responsibilities and become financially burdened.

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Quoting grandma2

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It was my choice to help and I am not making excuses, It would be easy to say I wouldnt help if she was not trying to better her future......I understand she is my daughters responsiblity but unlike my grandaughters FATHER i am not going to look the other way and ignore or look the other way when she is struggling day by day with all my grandaughters needs.
My daughter is going to school full time jobs she has aquired require her more flexability from her which she has tried. At this moment she has a part time job...Goes to school from 7am to 7pm after school goes to work from 9pm to midnight. During the whole situation the FATHER fights the court system not wanting to pay child support. Unfortunately she got a crappy judge which we where advised it would be tough he is prejudice to females and granted her no child support.

The only reason she is afraid to ask for assistance is because the court system has failed her. She did apply once and her ex husband found out cussed her out via text and told her he now was going to fight for custody of their daughter and why the hell did she go ask for help. She got scared and removed the request for financial aid.

It was my choice to help and I am not making excuses, It would be easy to say I wouldnt help if she was not trying to better her future......I understand she is my daughters responsiblity but unlike my grandaughters FATHER i am not going to look the other way and ignore or look the other way when she is struggling day by day with all my grandaughters needs.
My daughter is going to school full time jobs she has aquired require her more flexability from her which she has tried. At this moment she has a part time job...Goes to school from 7am to 7pm after school goes to work from 9pm to midnight. During the whole situation the FATHER fights the court system not wanting to pay child support. Unfortunately she got a crappy judge which we where advised it would be tough he is prejudice to females and granted her no child support.

The only reason she is afraid to ask for assistance is because the court system has failed her. She did apply once and her ex husband found out cussed her out via text and told her he now was going to fight for custody of their daughter and why the hell did she go ask for help. She got scared and removed the request for financial aid.

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So you can choose not to help your daughter and to get her to go find a job or get assistance or do something to take care of HER daughter. You don't have to "look the other way" or "ignore" her.

You know what I'm a single mother who is active duty military and my daughter has serious medical problems and no one helps me. Lots of women and men are single parents who did it on their own.

Why is she talking to her ex husband? HE cannot do anything to her. She will not lose custody of her daughter for applying for financial aid and going to college. She needs to just block him on her phone and set up communication through Family Wizard or something like that.

How did the court fail her on her applying for assistance? No she failed herself by listening to her psychotic ex husband. She needs to go apply for assistance and financial aid and get herself on her feet. If you don't want to help don't. No one is making you that's the point. So if you can't afford to help her then tell her that.

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Quoting grandma2

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I as a single grandparent aside from my own bills ended up having to support my 21 year old daughter and her 2 year old daughter, I pay for their daughters, child care, diapers, clothing, any needs that come with a 2 year old in the meantime. She is unable to get any welfare assistance reason being my daughter is jaded she thinks if she ask for help she will get into trouble with the court orders.

I dont feel I SHOULD BE PAYING FOR my granddaughters welfare when her father is getting away with $0 child support.

I sincerely wish I could get some kind of assistance.

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You can't get assistance, but your daughter can. And it's not your job to pay for both of them.

Dad should be paying child support. If he isn't then it's an oversight. Even when someone is making minimum wage, the courts will still require a small amount of support. Your daughter has every right to ask for it. She just has to file. That fact that she doesn't is her choice to make, but you aren't doing her any favors by coddling her lack of courage.

Of course Dad will get ugly when she does, but he unless your daughter does something stupid, he won't be able to take the child away. He might take her to court though to fight about it. But doing so after she asks for support will be an obvious red flag to the court. And if he claims he can't afford support, then he will have a heck of a time justifying paying a lawyer to fight about custody.

As a mom, I would tell my adult daughter to suck it up and figure it out. Actually, in several situations, we have had to do just that. People naturally find the easiest path in life, and right now that path for your daughter is letting you play the part of dad. And that simply isn't healthy for you, your daughter, or your grandchild.

If you want to help her, then tell her to grow a backbone. As that child gets older, dad will get ugly from time to time. She needs to learn how to deal with that.

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Quoting grandma2

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My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Nevada

-Not quite sure how or where to begin'
My daughter divorced her husband and through out the whole time during the divorce she was going to school and struggling to find a part time job. In the all that was transpiring, the long divorce process going to court sweet and short she always got the end of the rope which got worse every time she went in her ex is military so therefore he would always use the military card and faught (did not want to pay child support).
At the end of the day it all ended to where the judge granted no child support for their 2 year old daughter.

I as a single grandparent aside from my own bills ended up having to support my 21 year old daughter and her 2 year old daughter, I pay for their daughters, child care, diapers, clothing, any needs that come with a 2 year old in the meantime. She is unable to get any welfare assistance reason being my daughter is jaded she thinks if she ask for help she will get into trouble with the court orders.

I dont feel I SHOULD BE PAYING FOR my granddaughters welfare when her father is getting away with $0 child support.

I sincerely wish I could get some kind of assistance.

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Your daughter needs to go ahead and file for assistance. If the court ordered that dad was to pay no child support, then when she applies for assistance she should show them the court orders which say that dad does not have to pay child support, and those orders should also say why dad should not have to pay child support.

I suspect that your daughter is not being 100% honest with you, therefore I suspect that those papers do not exist. I suspect that dad actually intimidated her into agreeing to no child support by scaring her into believing that she would lose custody of her daughter to him, and that the orders will reflect an agreed order for no child support.

If I am right, once she files for assistance the state will go after him for child support. If she is smart enough to refuse to engage with him on the topic and refuses to allow him to bully her, she will likely end up with child support.