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  • 10-28-2017, 08:10 PM
    Cersellation
    Moving Out of Your Family Home As a Minor
    My question involves juvenile law in the State of: Nevada

    In short; my parents are divorced and I live with my mother and sister. Money is extremely tight in our family as is my relationship with my mom. Since I could remember we haven't really gotten along. Mostly we have verbal arguments but we have had some physical confrontations, especially as I've grown up and stress has increased. In a junior right now and I feel I've always struggled with school. I am not the smartest person in class nor the most motivated. I try my best to keep up with school work as well as my after school activities. As I'm getting closer to graduation, stress has been piling up on me and many times have I found my self completely just drained and upset/depressed because of it. I have a decent friend group and a boyfriend who try to help in any way they can, but until now I've been scared to reach out for support in this situation. I do not feel as if I'm in a good place living with my mom for many reasons relating to school, my emotion and physical well being. My mom is not a responsible person when it comes to financial situations, for many reasons as well.
    Last year I was offered a place to live that, in both the family and my own opinion, would have been easier on me since it was closer to school and the parent and my friend wouldve been able to support me mentally and financially. I talked to my mom about this, asking if it could be worked out when I did turn 16, but she said no before I could explain my reasoning and why I felt it would be best.
    I dropped the situation but its come up again. Please bear with me though for this next part. My boyfriend is 19 and has been on his own for almost two years, and recently moved out of an apartment with his friend into his own. I will caution you that our relationship has not reached sex or anything too sexual/intimate as I do not want anything to do with any of it.
    I was purposed to partially move in with him for many reasons: he lives closer to the school and the town (which also means closer to jobs and whatnot) than I do, has his own vehicle which my mom doesnt, has a stable job, and supports me when I have a bad day and occasionally helps me with my school work when I'm struggling. I know there is no way my mom/law will allow me to fully move in, but I was going to ask if it was acceptable to stay weekdays with him and weekends with my mom. That way I would be home to do chores and house work that needs to be done and it gives my boyfriend some alone time so he can have his own freedom.

    Is this legally allowed and what would I have to do to have it discussed? Does the law/court have to be involved or is it something I would only need to discuss with my mom?

    She can be very strict and stubborn sometimes and I want to be completely prepared and well researched when I ask her for this opprotunity. Mind you, she does not know we are dating. I've mentioned him a lot to her, but due to age, I don't want to tell her until I feel that our relationship will last more than the simple 3 months it has been so far. She knows I spend the night with him and simply hang out with him a lot, and has met him due to him and his friend living just below us in our apartment complexes.

    If anyone could help or at least give me some advice I would love it. In a very problematic person and am scared to ask her in fear it will start an argument, but I am not really happy living with her anymore and I don't want to wait until I'm 18. I also do not want to move an hour away with my father because I want to finish schooling in my town, and I never really wanted the law/court involved in dear that would cause more stress than necessary.
    Thank you very much and apologies for the very long explanation... I'm really bad at simplifying details.
  • 10-28-2017, 08:22 PM
    Mr. Knowitall
    Re: Moving Out of Your Family Home As a Minor
    If your parents agree to let you live with somebody else, then you can live with somebody else.

    If not, then they need to decide whether you will continue to live with mom or if you live with dad.

    They may listen to your preferences, but they do not have to do what you want.
  • 10-28-2017, 08:54 PM
    Mercy&Grace
    Re: Moving Out of Your Family Home As a Minor
    You mother allows you to spend the night with your boyfriend? What is wrong with her ? Up until that point your mother seemed normal.

    I do not believe you and your boyfriend are not having sex. If you are under 16 and he is 19 he is breaking the law. It will be impossible to say you're not have sex when you get pregnant.
  • 10-28-2017, 10:50 PM
    OKisNotOK
    Re: Moving Out of Your Family Home As a Minor
    You need to see your school counselor or social worker for their assistance or a referral to a community agency to help you with your relationships with your parents. Most teens do not "get along" with their parents; it is a normal part of growing up.

    If there are financial limitations in the family, the stresses are magnified.

    Being a parent is even harder than being the child; please let both know that you need help dealing with your current situation and give them a chance to work with you.
  • 10-29-2017, 03:43 AM
    Cersellation
    Re: Moving Out of Your Family Home As a Minor
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    Quoting Mercy&Grace
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    You mother allows you to spend the night with your boyfriend? What is wrong with her ? Up until that point your mother seemed normal.

    I do not believe you and your boyfriend are not having sex. If you are under 16 and he is 19 he is breaking the law. It will be impossible to say you're not have sex when you get pregnant.


    In my opinion, my mom is not really normal, there are things I did not mention or star about her because they were not needed. And I stayed that she does not know we are dating, as I don't want to tell her until I feel our relationship is a bit more stable and whatnot. Before we started dating, I considered him my best friend and my mother knew that I preferred to hang out with him because he was also best friends with some friends in my Marching Band who I hung out with often. My father knows though and is perfectly okay with it as he believes I can make my own decisions when it comes to who and how I chose my relationships.
    And as for the sex part, that actually offends me. I am not interested in the idea of sex and I actually consider myself asexual and have for a good portion of my high school and middle school years. Even if I werent, I detest the idea of having children of my own and would not take that risk. Both my father, close friends, and my boyfriend are aware of this and they respect it.
    And even if we did decide to have a sexual relationship, I am more or less positive that the age of consent in nevada is 16, which would make it legal. Please correct me if I'm wrong though, as this is the main factor as to why my father is not worried about our relationship
  • 10-29-2017, 06:00 AM
    jumanji
    Re: Moving Out of Your Family Home As a Minor
    Unless both of your parents say yes, the answer is no. Neither needs a reason to say no.
  • 10-29-2017, 06:32 AM
    cbg
    Re: Moving Out of Your Family Home As a Minor
    You live where your parents (and that's BOTH parents) say you live until you are 18 and not one minute younger. If they say you can move out, you can move out. If they change their minds tomorrow and say you move back home, you move back home. If they say you live with Mom, you live with Mom. If they say you live with Dad, you live with Dad. If they say you live with Grandma, you live with Grandma. That's it. It really is that simple.
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