Can You Be Charged Daycare Expenses for Care Provided by Grandparents

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Quoting Dogmatique

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Except Mom has a whole bunch of status quo on her side, using her parents as caregivers.

Seriously, Dad, for someone who's claiming that this isn't about you ... you're doing a good job of doing exactly that.

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Then I must be presenting the information in a way that is tough to understand. The basic idea is: Yes, "I" am paying twice, which doesn't matter, but my child suffers a bit in my household since I am unable to afford extras such as an extra outfit or two, better food, a pair of snow boots, a trip to a hayride and buy a pumpkin this season. I realize that some of this may seem trivial to some and may seem completely self serving or narcissistic however, I am only trying to give my daughter as much comfort as possible in my home as well as her mothers. I'm not being greedy, I don't need extras and I don't need that money for me for any reason. Rich or poor, the money is for my little girl, that's it and that's all.

I want to thank everyone for their support, helpful words and any advice, good or bad and I am sorry to anyone who thought or read this in such a way that made them feel that this had anything to do simply with me or money. That truly is not the case.

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Quoting qwaspolk69

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1. Clothes are clothes. I don't buy my daughter expensive clothes. I buy her clothes from Walmart whenever I can and if I see something at a thrift store I'll buy it. It's probably better to buy cheap clothes when she grows so much. If she has younger siblings then you can pass them on.

2. I never said they were healthy and never was going to mention vitamins. I thought you were trying to say the mom feeds her those foods and that she was neglecting her because you give her money or something. Misread that one.
3. I didn't "get" a car. I drove a busted up 1979 station wagon when I was 17 and I couldn't leave town with it. My dad was afraid it would break down. He would get "newer" used cars and when I got into college when he would get a different car he let me USE an old one. He never gave them to me. I borrowed them. He helped me get a 1984 Chevy Parisian (sp) in college. I paid the loan payments. It broke down right before I went to basic. So no I did not "get" my own car. I got to borrow cars. I'm not going into the bitch comment and doesn't care about you and so on.

It sounds like it's about you. That's my perception.

I have donated clothes with the tag still on (not rich by any means) because my daughter grew out of them so fast when she was an infant into toddler. I had clothes in my closet that had tags on them still from years ago I donated because I knew I wouldn't wear (like to go out I don't get to adult often).

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Sorry if I came off harsh or attacking in any way.
I appreciate that you owned your mistake and apologize for assuming with the vitamin thing there. I am just a first time daddy (with her) and I want to do as much as I possibly can for her so that she is comfortable and doesn't have to want for anything without making her spoiled and feel entitled like the kids of this current generation while raising her to understand the value of money, hard work and unconditional love. The material things are far less important than love but I feel it's easier to raise a happy kid when you can take them out for ice cream every so often or take them to the town fair from time to time in addition to providing the things that they actually need to survive in this current state of the world.

Thanks again, qwaspolk69, I truly appreciate your insight.

but my child suffers a bit in my household since I am unable to afford extras such as an extra outfit or two, better food, a pair of snow boots, a trip to a hayride and buy a pumpkin this season.

How is she suffering? That's not suffering.

Perhaps suffering was an overly dramatic word to use. Thanks for the call out.