You think you are a doctor, CPS investigator, psychiatrist or psychologist and a parent. That says a lot. Or a little depending on how you look at it.Quote:
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Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent Permission
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08-22-2017, 04:08 PMMercy&GraceRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent Permission
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08-22-2017, 04:17 PMcbgRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent Permission
You do understand, don't you, that even if she " somehow got her mom or step dad to hit her or brought drugs into her house" that she would not be living with you, right? That even in the unlikely event that CPS found it necessary to remove her from the home in the case of (1) she would go into foster care and in the case of (b) she would end up in juvie?
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08-22-2017, 04:33 PMoldsmomRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionActually, you probably don't. Your generation has been taught some pretty weird ideas about what is and is not okay. For example, pushing a hole in a door is not abuse. It is the antithesis of abuse. Spouting out something like that in that context isn't cool, but it's not abuse. Actually, from the outside, it sounds like stepdad cares quite a bit about his stepdaughter. Enough to over-react to her growing up.Quote:
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Understand that the people on this site are NOT therapists. They are people volunteering time to help you understand the law and legal implications to actions. If anything, the people on this board are likely to be abrasive and cynical. And that is how the courts are as well. Family law, especially, is cynical and jaded. You don't have the perspective to see how bad it can really be or you would understand that your friend's situation could be 500 times worse.
Just because a situation feels bad doesn't mean it's abusive. It can be messy, heart-breaking, and really upsetting for everyone and still not be abusive. And teen years are the worst - for everyone. Kids and parents alike struggle. Teens want to be independent, and think they are ready. But biologically, a young adult doesn't finish developing needed problem solving skills and cause/effect understanding until their mid 20's. So teens assume mom and dad are mean, demanding, abusive, out to get them, etc. Some parents have the knack to somehow connect with a teen so they can still have a friendly relationship, but most don't. Most parents have no idea how to connect, and there are not instructions for them. Parents are often just as mystified and frustrated as the teens they are trying so hard to protect.
So understand that the posters on this board have been teens, and most have also been parents. And they have been around family law to have perspective. Consider this before brushing off their comments. -
08-23-2017, 04:31 AMMark47nRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionIs that so? It seems like you got your facts straight! Congratulations!Quote:
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You're correct CPS doesn't recognize hurt feelings as abuse. <insert loser Price is Right sound> Every teen, including mine, feels like we, the parents don't understand, and are not sensitive to their feelings. Well, to be fair, I'm not terribly sensitive. If you're not constantly "falling down stairs" or "walking into doors", don't have a curious number of fractures or evidence of old, etc, then it's not abuse, as far as CPS ins concerned. Their busy dealing with cases that do include the above and more.
Daddy Dearest may have some anger issues but you aren't getting the whole picture. I feel bad for the door, really I do, I'm sure that it was completely innocent; if you were't there to witness this exchage then what you have to say about it is without value. He hit a door. It was intimidating and not really OK, but he didn't hit her.
Not having raised a child, which is good because you ARE a child means a little, if only in your perspective. Life isn't fair. Get used to it. See, not sensitive.
You may know what strep looks like, and so does a doctor. The advantage the doctor has over you is that the doctor also knows what else it may be and can culture it and be 100% sure what it is and you cannot. Because you're a child and not a doctor. -
08-23-2017, 09:38 AMqwaspolk69Re: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionYou literally suggested committing crimes to get her out of the house. "We wouldn't do it but that would essentially be her last option." You can't say you would never do that after saying that's an option for her.Quote:
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Yes teens feel the way that you described and yes siblings narc on their other siblings. It's not insane. Did you have siblings? You're telling me that you never told on each other for anything at any time? I call bs.
Teens should be able to trust their parents. That doesn't mean they need to be best friends either though. All we are getting is your side. That's just one side.
So my dad was wrong to punch the door in front of me (I was a teenager) because he was fed up and frustrated with my mom running around on him and always being gone? I think he was fully justified in punching that door that day. I'm surprised to all hell that my dad was able to keep it together for us honestly.
Are you a parent? Do you have kids? I don't think you do because you don't seem to have the slightest clue what you're talking about. I have gotten frustrated and yelled at my daughter. I have gotten frustrated and cried in front of her or had an emotional outburst while she's in the room. It happens. We are HUMAN. You have no clue what you're talking about.
I don't even know who you are replying to at this point. You're about to get yourself and your friend in some serious trouble. Back off.
LMAO!! OMG this is the funniest yet stupidest thing I have read yet today. Wow. Just wow. How old are you?Quote:
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08-23-2017, 11:21 AMDogmatiqueRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionOh. Brother.Quote:
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