My friend is 16 years old. She has a good paying job and has never been in trouble with the law. The only "trouble" she's been in is when she "snuck out" to get fresh air and calm down from a panic attack. She was only grounded by her parents. Like I said, never in trouble with the law. Her mom and step dad can be rather emotionally abusive. When her step dad found out she had sex, he called her a whore and punched a hole in her door. Does that sound safe to you??
She feels like she can't trust her parents and that they are literally conspiring against her. She used to be able to tell her brother anything, and now he's basically like a little spy for her parents and that's not okay. Yet, her parents wouldn't ever allow her to get emancipated. I read that you need parent signature/permission, and they would never give that to her. PLEASE tell me there is a way to get her emancipated. Her mom has only gotten physical once so she can't claim physical abuse.
She has a job and is financially stable. She would still be going to school till she graduated and would be doing online school. She would be living with me and my family. She has everything lined up for if she gets emancipated, but she won't be able to get permission from her parents. The only other way we'd be able to get her out of her Hellish household is if she 1. somehow got her mom or step dad to hit her or 2. brought drugs into her house. We don't want it to come to either. Please help :(
Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent Permission
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08-22-2017, 08:21 AMvchey8Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent Permission
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08-22-2017, 08:24 AMllworkingRe: How to Be Emancipated in IndianaI am sorry, but emancipation is not going to happen. If she were to be removed from the home by social services she would not be allowed to live in your home either, she would go to foster care.Quote:
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08-22-2017, 09:00 AMqwaspolk69Re: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionI think you need to read all the threads about emancipation. She's not getting emancipated. Having a job doesn't mean anything.Quote:
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You know you're only getting her side right? It sounds like her stepdad has a temper but he hasn't done anything abusive. It's messed up to call her a whore but punching a door does not equate abuse. Here's an example: One time my dad came home and asked where our mom was. I said "Where do you think?" (She had a long term affair). He got mad, punched the basement door and went up to his room. In no way, shape or form was I abused or anyone else in the house. My friend said she should probably leave. I said yeah. That's it. I'm glad he punched the door and not someone else.
Lots of teens feel that they can't trust their parents. That their parents are "out to get them" or are "unfair." And lots of younger siblings narc on their other siblings. My brothers used to tattle on me and I would tattle on them sometimes. That's what siblings do. There's nothing illegal or abusive there either.
You need to watch your step in this case. If she leaves and her parents didn't allow her and you let her stay with you, you could get in trouble. Nothing you said sounds like she lives in a "hellish" household.
Oh and you better not be telling her to instigate her parents to beat her - and no planting drugs in the house will NOT get her out of the house. You are entering into very dangerous territory. If you don't want to end up in jail you need to mind your own business. IF she's being abused you call the proper authorities. You don't make up false claims of abuse or plant drugs in the house. So you're going to buy drugs and risk YOUR life and freedom to plant them? Wow you need some help. Like mental help. -
08-22-2017, 09:13 AMoldsmomRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionThat is a very bad idea. I knew a teen that tried this against his parents. He ended up going to juvenile detention, and the whole family was really thrown into turmoil.Quote:
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If she fails, she will held legally accountable. If she succeeded, not only would it cause a major and permanent rift in her family, she and her brother would be sent to foster care - probably in separate homes. And foster care homes are often far worse than what you are describing. Your friend would not have the option of living with you. The state doesn't work like that. -
08-22-2017, 09:25 AMDogmatiqueRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionYour friend's behavior actually suggests she needs more, not less, adult supervision.Quote:
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08-22-2017, 10:37 AMcbgRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent Permission
Bottom line: No, your friend cannot be emancipated without parental permission, and even with parental permission it's very much a long shot.
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08-22-2017, 01:59 PMMercy&GraceRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionAgree 100 %. If you support her committing a crime to get what she wants you are not a good friend and do not care about her. Both of you need to learn you don't always get what you want in life. If she is being abused, she needs to call CPS, If they find anything they may put her and other children in foster care.Quote:
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08-22-2017, 03:25 PMvchey8Re: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent Permission
OKAY I WAS NEVER SAYING WE WOULD COMMIT A CRIME!!! I know that's insane I was just saying like, that's how bad it is is that she wants out so bad. We wouldn't do it but that would essentially be her last option. We would NEVER do that! I get that I didn't "provide any details of it being a Hellish house" but it's not like I really can, there's some information that can't be put out there.
Don't tell me "all teens feel this" and "all siblings do that". No. That's insane. I finally understand what it's like to have a good parent, because my mom and I were able to work things out and build trust. Teens should trust their parents and her parents are manipulative people.
"It's only her side of the story" ???? I've seen it happen in front of my own eyes. Her mom is controlling, manipulative, and crazy. And no, hitting a door is not physical abuse but it is still wrong to do in front of your children? As a parent you learn to control your outburst, as most parents do. You don't act out like that in front of your child.
I understand that we can't get her SAFE without parent permission or putting her through more possible abuse in foster care. Thanks anyways, for all the accusations?
We'll just have to convince her parents why it's a good idea.
Thanks.
Never actually said we were going to comitt a crime. I said that it was essentially the last thing we would ever want to do and we never would. Foster care is no better than an abusive household. Thanks.
Are you saying this because she had sex? Because hey, realize it or not, sex is a normal thing that happens in a teenagers life. Thanks.
Read my reply to this thread as it answers all your accusations and everything. Thanks.
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08-22-2017, 03:37 PMMercy&GraceRe: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent PermissionIf her parents are abusing her, she needs to call CPS or talk to a school counselor. Has she done this ? If not, why not ? If CPS comes out an does not find conditions a threat to her and her brother she needs to realize things are not as bad as she things they are.Quote:
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08-22-2017, 03:44 PMvchey8Re: Can You Get Emancipated in Indiana Without Parent Permission
CPS doesnt recognize emotional abuse. As long as theres a clean house and no bruises everything is sunshine and rainbows.
Just because i haven't raised a child doesn't mean anything. I may not be a doctor but i still know what strep throat looks like.