My California parolee friend and I were keeping each other in a good mood with daily long-distance phone call conversations when all of a sudden my friend was told there could be no further contact between us. Why? We did nothing wrong.
Why Would Somebody Tell You to Stop Contacting Them
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06-26-2017, 07:19 PMbobmf1Why Would Somebody Tell You to Stop Contacting Them
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06-26-2017, 07:35 PMhr for meRe: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone Calls
Is there an age difference?
Do you have a criminal record?
what was your friend's crime?
who told them there could be no more contact and why? was it the person paying for the phone/minutes/calls?
You'd have to ask that person.... -
06-26-2017, 07:40 PMcdwjavaRe: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone CallsWe could not possibly know the answer to that question. It could be a dodge by your "friend" to stop chatting with you, it could be that there is a condition of parole preventing him from chatting with you (restriction on contact, use of devices, etc.), or it could be something else.Quote:
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06-26-2017, 08:01 PMDogmatiqueRe: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone CallsThat gets my vote!Quote:
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06-27-2017, 03:54 PMbobmf1Re: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone Calls
Senior Member hr for me, thanks for the questions.
I am a 68 yr old female, he is 57.
I have no record, not even parking tickets. I am employed by a school system and get fingerprinted, background checks and a certificate renewed every year for twent-four years.
He was convicted of child abuse on testimoney of the childs mother and was given no opportunity to cross-examine his accuser.
My friend was given a life sentence but is now out on parole.
A parole officer gave him the restriction but no explanation of the action.
No, we use my 'phone numbers and they have unlimited calls and texts.
Now I have another question or two.
Since no one told me not to get in touch with him
Does "no contact" include things like e-mails, texts, private messaging' etc. or does it mean only that he is to have personal contact with me?
So far we have never met in person since we live 2,000 miles from each other.
I do not want to misstep and send him back to prison, but I sorely miss our talks! -
06-27-2017, 04:23 PMfree9manRe: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone Calls
No contact means no contact in any way, shape or form. No calls, no letters, no emails, nothing.
Has he ever borrowed money from you? -
06-27-2017, 04:29 PMbobmf1Re: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone Calls
No. Never borrowed anything or asked for anything except to converse long-distance.
He and I would like to see each other in person some day just as friends but that's all.
Can a member of my family talk to him if I am not the subject or even mentioned? -
06-27-2017, 04:31 PMcdwjavaRe: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone CallsTHAT sounds fishy. If there was no cross, then either his "accuser" did not testify, or, he chose not to.Quote:
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"Life" is a lot different than advertised.Quote:
My friend was given a life sentence but is now out on parole.
If his offense had a life sentence attached to it, then there is no way that he lacked an opportunity to cross examine the key witnesses against him.
Then he has to adhere to it. Though, if he said he couldn't contact you anymore, I am curious how you know that much.Quote:
A parole officer gave him the restriction but no explanation of the action.
YOU cannot get in trouble for contacting him. HE, on the other hand, might go back to prison if he communicates with you and is prohibited.Quote:
Now I have another question or two.
Since no one told me not to get in touch with him
Does "no contact" include things like e-mails, texts, private messaging' etc. or does it mean only that he is to have personal contact with me?
So far we have never met in person since we live 2,000 miles from each other.
How did you hook up with a guy you've never met and who lives 2,000 miles away?Quote:
I do not want to misstep and send him back to prison, but I sorely miss our talks!
Of course, he may be feeding you a huge line o' doo-doo just to get a laugh. -
06-27-2017, 04:39 PMfree9manRe: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone CallsJust checking. This could easily have been a con man trying to give his mark the kiss-off.Quote:
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No contact normally includes no third party contact. You need to accept you will not be able to contact him for the foreseeable future.Quote:
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06-27-2017, 04:41 PMhr for meRe: No Contact Between Long-Distance Phone Calls
Please please trust our instincts on this guy....not what he is telling you! If there was enough evidence to get a life sentence, then that is much more than just one person testifying against him (especially a spouse).
I have to agree that he is either playing you or not that into you if you haven't offered things he wanted/needed (money, sex, etc) or he gets off on believing that someone out there is "on his side". He has probably run off every other contact/friend that he had. Can't say I would be friends with someone doing life for child abuse.
Honestly sounds like someone working a long term scam....Find a new friend to "talk" with!