What Can You Do About False Abuse Allegations

My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of: PA

We have had 6 unfounded/false reports to CYS in the matter of 4 months. We know why and where its coming from. The claims were against my SO but now since that didnt work now all of a sudden the child (whos 4) is saying i did stuff like tried to choke her. She is in a new school and her old.school testified that there was no abuse in our last court hearing and now it seems mom is trying SSDD w new school. Mom works for the agency that is doing the investigation. Now that my name is in the mix what can I do? This is disrupting my home threatening my career and causing my child distress w cops and cys ppl coming into our home.

You can consider retaining a lawyer. You can move out -- which won't stop investigation of you, but will take you out of the mix going forward. Other than that, you are going to have to deal with the fact that an investigation is proceeding based upon the reports.

I am fine w investigation because there isnt any merit to what she said. We have a hearing in 3 weeks and this seems to have been the pattern the last hearing from mom.. call and start claims prior to trial and try to get a PFA. All which failed. The cys worker in the last investigation said there was no reason to even think we would hurt the child and testified to it in court. Now mom started new claims in a new county and a new caseworker one who works in CYS w her.
Would we have to worry about her working there being an influencing factor now? What can we do to protect ourselves?

Funnygrl20, I worked several cases like this. There is a 99.99% chance the person making the false allegations will continue until they get what they want. I assume that is you out of the house. If/when one agency no longer listens or nothing comes of the allegations, they will move on to another agency and different allegations. The fact the child is also lying is not good for you or the child. What does your significant other say about this ?

Well its not founded. We have a lawyer and its already been through the courts in custody. The investigator even.testified for.my fiance the last time. We.got the papers all are closes (5 intotal). He did call.her out directly re this because she has said things like they hit her or pinch her and we dont do what she does because we ask her dofferently and not lead her into the answer and she rollidexes names and who did what to her. Plus we see no physical i jury. She was quiet when he said he knows shes influencing her to say these things (always has a new toy for her at an exchange from a weekend and thats when the "claims" come) and i also filed a report against the accusations since she works for the agency doing the investigation and i let them know full disclosure WHY its all of a sudden after 2 years of nothing prior..She has recieved a broken leg and a busted lip over the years in moms care.. we never accused her of abuse when we could have esp due to how she said she broke it and we found out she lied about how her lip got hurt (older step silblings told their mom.who told him). But we have another hearing coming up and it will all.be aired out there with even more stuff coming out... like.how she needed therpay because she is violent and aggressive but mom posted just tonight about taking her to a pg 13 movie at her age (under 5 yrs old) w words like.whore and ass and intense violence (per the parental.guide on this movie).. yet we are 100% the cause of her issues even though mom has her 80% of the time..

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Quoting Mercy&Grace

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Funnygrl20, I worked several cases like this. There is a 99.99% chance the person making the false allegations will continue until they get what they want. I assume that is you out of the house. If/when one agency no longer listens or nothing comes of the allegations, they will move on to another agency and different allegations. The fact the child is also lying is not good for you or the child. What does your significant other say about this ?

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And she wont stop even if i was out because she doesnt want my fiance being in her life period.. she kept at her other childs ex just like this til.he stopped seeing him and only paid support. Even tried to get her sons fathers parental.rights stripped in 2015 according to court documents our laywer found so she doesnt have to keep having him sign off on his passport... she actually got ordered to have him and his dad reconcile.but shes beat it into that kids head that his dad was abusive she refuses to follow the order and says its her sons request not to (mind you his not 15 and cant say no in our state til that age) She only wants his money.. she tried to get him forced to work two jobs and not see his child w the support judge so she can "live how she feels she needs.to".. judge told her no.. anything she does to.him she will apply to her.

The Judge may or may not consider what the child says she wants. Judges are smart. They see this kind of thing often.

Mom is entitled to child support from dad. It is both of the parents responsibility to support their child.

It is up to you if you think your significant other is worth all of this.

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The Judge may or may not consider what the child says she wants. Judges are smart. They see this kind of thing often.

Mom is entitled to child support from dad. It is both of the parents responsibility to support their child.

It is up to you if you think your significant other is worth all of this.

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I know mom.is entitled to support however she wanted to have him at his "earning potential" in order to get more than the 49% of his paycheck he pays her already. The judge said if she did that to.him shed do it to her and she was quiet because the EIC she gets each year for the two she has would be accounted for and thats a lot of money.

Some days it is hard with all that goes on but we have children together and I have a bond w his daughter and she has a bind w our son so Im not walking away from that and causing her confusion. I was raised by my step dad so I learned from a good guy how to and not to act because he had to dance that dance for 12 years. Hes even given me some sound advice when things got tough for me. Hes the reason why me and my sibling are sucessful adults.

We have a child together and she has a bond w me and our child. I am not tearing that apart. It sucks some days but unlike her mom my objective isnt to tear apart or try to hurt a child or another adult just to feel good about myself. It speaks to her character when she blasts me on social media and to her friends and family all the time (and they participate in it infront of his daughter..) and even the child in question. It doesnt define who I know I am and.his daughter sees that we dont carry on like that here. So in the short run yeah she may be "winning" getting they child to like.her by buying toys and going on trips and nightly dinners out ...but in the long run it may not work out the way she thinks. Parents who bash the other parent and play games w the kids head ultimately end up losing if they have a healthier example to see. I lived that chessboard style life w my mom and dad for almost my whole life so I know how.it works out in the end.. my step father showed us through actions just how much he loved us and eveb stepped aside when we tried ro have a relationship w our father (it didnt work) so we know what is healthy and what isnt. Because of seeing that he never bashed my dad to us and thats all my.dad and his wife did w my mom we made the decision at 16 and 15 not to talk to him. He knows my sibling and I have children but he never bothers to see his grandkids. Doesnt even acknowledge we or thet exist.. only his wifes kids matter.. and to me I NEVER want my SOs daughter to go what I went through. So I live my life by example.. Ill let her mothers words and actions speak for themselves. Ultimately they will.

If allegations are made concerning your daughter, you may view things differently. I don't know the age of your child But, don't be surprised if your child starts to lie about things. Especially when they get older and things don't go the way they want. Children learn from other children

This is not the OP's child, it's her boyfriend's child. Posting HX, folks.... :cower:

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Quoting BooRennie

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This is not the OP's child, it's her boyfriend's child. Posting HX, folks.... :cower:

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BooRennie, I know it is not the OP's child. But if her child spends any time around the other child, here child will pick up on the lying the other child does. When a child is taught to lie like the OP says this child has been, it is not localized to one area of the child's life. The child that is lying is aware of what is going on and how upset everyone is. Children talk about these things. Even when parents think they don't. When they get older and want to try and control what their parent(s) do and don't do, they will remember what is going on now. It may not be successful in the end, but the drama it causes can be satisfying to a mad teenager.