How Does Visitation Work After a Prior Move-Away if the NCP Relocates

Thank you for the clarification. I kind of figured that's how it was. Much of the difference between getting a result that works vs one that doesn't is in being meticulously clear. And honestly, much of what has been posted leaves it very unclear whether it's Mom or stepDad posting, what actual proof of drug use there is, etc.

I also had a sports kid, who played year 'round (field hockey) with the other parent living at a distance. As far as I know, he's never seen her play (unless he watched one of her college games streaming). In all honesty, the sports schedule you describe is untenable in a divorce situation. She knew that, if her Dadwanted her to spend time with her and it meant missing playing? That was how it would be. DID your son spend any of Dad's parenting time time in AZ? Or was it all spent in SC? A court is likely to see Dad's time as more important than 9 mos of continuous sports activity. Kiddo might have to miss some games over school breaks. And it will be up to Mom to explain to him why that is right and proper.

As to the drug use - what PROOF do you have that it is ongoing to an extent that would be detrimental to the child? At 12, he is well old enough to know to call authorities if he sees a problem, and you would be contacted if there were to be one. If kiddo spent time with Dad while y'all were/are in SC? Unsupervised? Your argument wrt drug usage might be blown out of the water.

I'd be talking to a lawyer.

jumanji

My apologies if anyone is unclear as to who is actually posting. I (Mother) am and have been original poster. I write a lot of reports and case studies. Education background B.S Substance Abuse Counseling, and current graduate degree in process for Addiction Counseling. I write a lot of papers. Wording such as this comes natural for me.

Your Question, "DID your son spend any of Dad's parenting time time in AZ?"
Answer: The 2 Christmas visits father chose NOT to exercise. Child spent only 1 summer parenting time visit with father for a total of 6 weeks. During that time father knew the North Carolina Coaches stipulations regarding being on the team and that child needed to be on the ice at least once a week. Father took child only twice, grandmother took child to rink all other time. Dad would always tell child "he needed to relax". Grandma would bring child to fathers home after rink where child then came to start recognizing these "weird skunk" smells to later inquire to mother after returning home to SC. Mother know what it is....... A child at 12 IS NOT going to call authorities on the parent they love, they are going to tell the other parent, which is this current situation. I don't feel comfortable explaining to my child or promoting him to call cops on his father. I feel there is plenty of family around that child can call to allow family/myself to give the proper intervention such as when Mother suggested Family Drug Court. Father is not a bad person, he just loves experiencing unreality. Hes really pleasant to be around and to co-parent with when hes thinking clearly.

Child is not aware of fathers past drug addition. Mother has kept secret. Past 2 emergency's were due to Cocaine. 1 of which was documented that child was with father the same day test positive. A couple years later mother exercised sole physical after fathers family members came to mother and said drugs were in the house and a CPS case was involved with father, girlfriend (at that time), and 16 yr old nieces attempted suicide. Mother told father to get life figured out. Father compiled, 3 weeks later father resumed his regular every other weekend schedule (w/o court action). Currently, we are here 2 more years later. Mother completely understands if father had been notably sober for 10 years, but that isn't the case. Father did however confess to mothers husband recently on the phone that he does in fact smoke marijuana. Of course Mother knows that his word is against his. The burden of proof should be on father which could have ended this suspension if he just took a test. In our court case father has taken 96 drug random drug tests. So, why wouldn't Father just take 1 more drug test to end this argument and get it off the table, to pursue a creative visitation plan. Nonetheless, no one can tell me that certain drug dealers ONLY deal marijuana.

Question: Do you feel father who moved and only been in a new state for 3 months supersedes child's 9 year long sport? In my opinion schedule is attainable since sports schedule was working before Dad decided to move. Father wasn't thinking of child and how child would be affected from his decision. Perhaps half visitation in TX & AZ for father?

Parent-child relationships are more important than a child's love of a game. It would be foolish to argue otherwise in court.

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Quoting Mr. Knowitall

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Parent-child relationships are more important than a child's love of a game. It would be foolish to argue otherwise in court.

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I dunno...if the child is old enough and good enough that scouts are already going to be looking at him then its not just the child's love of a game, its a potential scholarship and a potential career. If the child is good enough it would NOT be foolish to argue otherwise in court.