Re: Do You Have to Pay Child Support Even Though the Child Doesn't Want to See You
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She lied; I know it, she knows it and God knows it! It was a very calculated and deliberate plan by her and her attorney to poison the court against me and make her out to be a victim. You attorneys sure stick together!
Read the terms of service, sir.
ETA: Do you understand that I have sat on the other side of your situation, having done nothing but encourage child and Dad. I KNOW why she has no relationship with her father, why they haven't spoken for 7+ years, why he is it not going to be invited to her wedding. But I have no doubt that, were you to ask him, he'd tell you he had nothing to do with it and it's all her and my fault.
At this point, you, sir, need to love your child more than you hate her mother. If you truly believe she has been poisoned by Mom, can you not see that she is also a victim? And that the way to clear the fog from her eyes is by behaving in exactly the opposite manner from how Mom has painted you? I would, quite honestly, look into some therapy. First for yourself to help you get past your anger and bitternees, then in a therapuetic setting with your daughter. Otherwise, you will grow into an angry, old, and lonely man.
Re: Do You Have to Pay Child Support Even Though the Child Doesn't Want to See You
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What happened? That's the $64k question! Mr. Knowitall above would say that I KNOW what happened but like most people he's assuming that there's some deep dark secret, but there wasn't. My family, friends and church are all dumbfounded that a 14 year old would turn like she did and I/we have no doubt that it was alienation at it's worst. My daughter was active with our church, my family and loved traveling with me, and it all came to a screeching halt once the GAL became involved; it's that simple and I'm offended by knowitall's innuendo but it's easy to hide behind a post! She cut out cousins who were like sisters as well. I'll add that the other parent originally asked for no visitation in her orders and frequently interfered with my parenting time. She claimed that I attacked her early in the proceedings which caused me to take a lie detector test (I passed) proving she lied but polygraph results are not admissible in Indiana. My guess the bleeding heart GAL bought her victim's act and set out to get me, and she did. Interesting twist of fate; the GAL became incapacitated shortly after the hearings and had to leave her practice. I would never wish ill health on anyone but maybe karma came back and bit her in the a*s! She falsely claimed that she interviewed a former neighbor and his wife and then blamed her staff. Thanks for your comments and at the end of the day, I picked her as my spouse!
My x successfully petitioned the court for more child support as a result of me not being able to exercise parenting time. No parenting time, no parenting time credit!
Mr. Knowitall please accept my apologies as it was IIworking that made the assumption that I KNOW what happened! I can only assume that IIworking is a woman that believes everything a woman says is true and that a woman would never lie to get her way! My conscience is clear as I know that I was a good father and that the other parent was planning all along to remove me and my family from my daughter's life. Her attorney conveniently and deliberately left out the custody verbiage in the Mediated Agreement which caused the judge not to accept. I KNOW THAT HAPPENED!
Well that is quite likely the most sexist comment I've read today. I find it sad that you assume all women will automatically believe other women who are CPs. That's not true at all. If you don't like people to assume things about you perhaps you shouldn't assume things about others.
It does seem you have left things out and it's quite possible something happened that changed your daughter's mind about seeing you. Maybe it was a toxic ex. Maybe it was you. We will never know as we aren't there or part of it. We only get your story and no other sides to the story.
Perhaps you want to hire a lawyer who can give you actual legal advice as you cannot get that here. You also should seek some counseling as you sound slightly unstable.
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kcstone
She lied; I know it, she knows it and God knows it! It was a very calculated and deliberate plan by her and her attorney to poison the court against me and make her out to be a victim. You attorneys sure stick together!
You passing didn't mean she lied. If SHE took one and lied that's different. You can say she lied all you want but you have no proof and if you've been acting like THIS in court it's no wonder you aren't getting what you want.
Also a lot of us on here are not attorneys.
Re: Support when the Child Has Been Poisoned Against You and Doesn't Want to See You
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If the matter has been to court, with the court awarding support and denying any visitation, then the remedies are to (a) move for reconsideration, (b) appeal, or (c) later seek to modify the order based on factual developments since the last order. If you weren't working with a laywer during prior proceedings, it's long past time to retain a lawyer; if you were, you can discuss your options with your lawyer.
It's not a matter of anybody "sticking together" -- it's simply a matter of fact. Complaining about the facts won't change them. Your options remain as described.
Re: Do You Have to Pay Child Support Even Though the Child Doesn't Want to See You
kc, I just read a quote that made me think of you:
When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it! Trust that other people will eventually see the truth, just as you did.
The underlined is your job now. When she goes low, you go high. The truth will out. Might not be until she's out on her own, but.....
Re: Do You Have to Pay Child Support Even Though the Child Doesn't Want to See You
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kcstone
She lied; I know it, she knows it and God knows it! It was a very calculated and deliberate plan by her and her attorney to poison the court against me and make her out to be a victim. You attorneys sure stick together!
Sir, are you familiar with "Occam's Razor"?
Re: Do You Have to Pay Child Support Even Though the Child Doesn't Want to See You
The mother and family of one of my oldest friends turned her against her dad when she was a teenager. When she got older she talked to people that knew both of her parents well. She found out, her dad was not the main problem. Like her mother and her mothers family told her. When she started looking at things her mother said and did regarding her father, she saw things from a different perspective. She realized her mother and her mothers family has not been honest with her.
Your daughter will be grown soon. She will be able to think for herself. If nothing happened on your or your families end for her to feel the way she does. She will realize what her mother did.