Treatment Of 16-Year-Olds By Store Security

My daughter and three friends were stopped in a store for shoplifting, my daughter had not stole from that store but had stolen a lipstick and mascara from another store. They were stopped at 5-30pm and the store rang me at 7-35 to tell me they had them there(two hour after arrest) and that they were still waiting for the police to arrive, at 8-45pm they still had not arrived so the store detective took them to the police station over three hours they had been waiting. While they was at the shop the store detective told them to empty their bags and all the stuff was put in a pile on the floor and a photo taken nothing was logged as to who took what. While in the store the manager of the store made a comment saying your parents are scum and other remarks, the store detective proceeded to tell them that had they been caught from his store he would have punched them in the mouth and he also told them his daughter was a slag and that he beat her. My daughters friend was was on medication and was not allowed to take it when he told them he was feeling ill. I know what they did was wrong but these people should not be doing this job and talking to children this way.
they mad many more comments they even told the three girl that there friend had been taken to the hospital when they had really taken him outside for some fresh air. How can these people say they are adults.
your views please. curls

Where I agree the statements were uncalled for a digusting if your daughter had not stolen she would not have found herself in that position. Did you have a legal question? Your daughter is facing criminal charges and you are facing paying both her court fines and her Civil Demand. I would strongly urge you to consult a criminal defense Attorney and discuss your options

I will be putting a complaint to the shop and to the police, yes my daughter has to go back to the police station but as she had not stole from that shop I doubt she will be charged. I don't think they have the rights to treat her like that no matter if she had or had not stolen or to call her parents scum. I really wanted to know if they can hold them that long at the shop? and they dealt with them using foul language, if they choose to do a job they should at least do it properly.

Yes they can they hold them until processing is done with multiple suspects it takes longer. Yes you have call to complain about how you were treated by store staff. Contact stores corporate office for that. If Police were involved she has already been charged! Yu seem more concerend about names you were called then your daughters criminal actions!

My daughter is sixteen she is a straight A student she does not need to steal and no doubt she will not do it again it was done on the spur of the moment and thankfully she got caught and will now learn from it. I know she did wrong she know's that she did wrong and millions of kids steal something sometime in their life I myself stole a bar of chocolate when I was a kid but I never stole again and I don't think it's made me a monster. I am sure she will grow up to do many good things. Would you rather they all be locked up?

I think you missed my point. I do agree a bad choice is not a scarlet letter.

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Quoting curls135

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My daughter is sixteen she is a straight A student she does not need to steal and no doubt she will not do it again it was done on the spur of the moment and thankfully she got caught and will now learn from it. I know she did wrong she know's that she did wrong and millions of kids steal something sometime in their life I myself stole a bar of chocolate when I was a kid but I never stole again and I don't think it's made me a monster. I am sure she will grow up to do many good things. Would you rather they all be locked up?

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I would get a lawyer and file a complaint to the HOme office of this store. Tell them you are going to pass the story to the news and see how fast they will respond. THey should not have been treated like that at all and someone should have to own up to that. ON the other side... IT does NOT matter if your kid is a straight A student. Makes no difference. And if she was not hanging out with the wrong kids then this would not have happened. I am sure she had peer pressure to do this because of the friends. It is sad they got treated like that and I am sorry it happened. It also sounds like it was not LOss Prevention that stopped them but store manager is that correct? Hope your daughter got a good month of being grounded for this and a very nice talking too. Hope it works out.

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I would get a lawyer and file a complaint to the HOme office of this store. Tell them you are going to pass the story to the news and see how fast they will respond.

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It doesn't seem particularly compelling as news. "Four girls caught shoplifting claim that they were insulted by store security. The store denies the accusation."

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My daughter is sixteen she is a straight A student Straight A students dont steal?she does not need to steal But she didand no doubt she will not do it againYour sure of that why? it was done on the spur of the moment and thankfully she got caught and will now learn from it.Not with you justifying her actions I know she did wrong she know's that she did wrong and millions of kids steal something sometime in their lifeYou got that info where? So that makes it ok? I myself stole a bar of chocolate when I was a kid but I never stole again and I don't think it's made me a monster.I will with hold the desire to say something I am sure she will grow up to do many good things. Would you rather they all be locked up?If you cant do the time dont so the crime

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Heres what concerns me. You seemed more concerend with stores wrongdoing than your daughters! You minimize and justify all her actions! Her GPA has nothing to do with it and trust me we have all heard that a zillion times! You havent really asked what will happen to your daughter everything is aboput store its its wrong actions! You have a bigger problem if your not careful. I agree (if story is correct) you were wronged the correct action was given you contact corporate office and file a complaint!

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I would get a lawyer and file a complaint to the HOme office of this store. Tell them you are going to pass the story to the news and see how fast they will respond.

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By all means put your name and your daughters name all over news (if they take story) Lets magnify your embarassment

The OP did not state her concern with her daughter's wrongdoing, but that does not mean she's not concern. In this post, she chose to focus on the store's crappy LP officers who acted way out of line, so let's focus on this issue!

that issue was focused on and OP was given options on how to deal with it.

The whole thing sounds to me like a "tongue lashing" or a "scared straight chew out." If I think back to when I was 16, if I had been caught stealing, dad would have kicked my butt around the block, then my grandfather would have kicked it back in the other direction. I would have been more than happy to get "dressed down on the carpet." Don't sweat the small stuff. Wait on the criminal charges and the civil procedure, then flip your switch.

All the best!

Jay

[ I agree (if story is correct) you were wronged the correct action was given you contact corporate office and file a complaint!
By all means put your name and your daughters name all over news (if they take story) Lets magnify your embarassment[/QUOTE]


Hey Don't jump on me. I was only giving her the path to take if she really wanted to do something about this. I would not do it unless my kid did not steal and they said she did. And I NEVER SAID TO REALLY CONTACT THE NEWS>. just to use it as a threat to get them to give her a quick response.

The police have called to say all charges have been dropped and that we should put in a complaint about this store. My daughter did NOT steal from this store and Yes she had stole from another store and she is grounded trust me and pocket money stopped.