What Can Be Done About Continuing False Allegations

My question involves a child custody case from the State of:

Fiance and I have had two calls to CYS on us by my fiances ex wife. These calls have been the last two times we are to have her for a weekend. This time mother had her new husband come into the school and say the child said xyz about dad. Claims brusing but there was none. School does.skin checks. Mother tried to come into.school and point out these marks but they again saw none. Child was out of our care for more than 24 hours when they claimed this. Cys went to childs school to check on child but mom pulled her out 15 min prior to their arrival and took her to her doctor to get.checked. We have a custody trial in 3 weeks and mom seems to be ramping up the claims. She works for cys and its becoming a pattern. She claimed abuse w her first second and third marriages without any founded proof. Even tried to drum up sexual abuse allegations against her 2nd husband with her older.child which were expunged.

We did try to get custody of the child when we found out the older sibling was being investigated for alleged abuse of a step sibling.. less than.24.hrs later we had cys called by mom..
Can dad file charges.against her? Should we be contacting her job and letting them know what she is doing.considering she looks into claims of abuse herself and is making false reports? We will have cops at our door again this weekend and mom did this w her first husband.. made claims then.refused to show up for visitation times w her son and her ex. We think she will file for sole custody today since.she wants to try to.establish a pattern...however the child doesnt tell the teachers at school this the parents tell the teacher. The child tells us that mommy tells her we hit her and smack her. This is getting out of hand.

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Quoting Funnygrl20

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My question involves a child custody case from the State of:
Fiance and I have had two calls to CYS on us by my fiances ex wife. These calls have been the last two times we are to have her for a weekend. This time mother had her new husband come into the school and say the child said xyz about dad. Claims brusing but there was none. School does.skin checks. Mother tried to come into.school and point out these marks but they again saw none. Child was out of our care for more than 24 hours when they claimed this. Cys went to childs school to check on child but mom pulled her out 15 min prior to their arrival and took her to her doctor to get.checked. We have a custody trial in 3 weeks and mom seems to be ramping up the claims. She works for cys and its becoming a pattern. She claimed abuse w her first second and third marriages without any founded proof. Even tried to drum up sexual abuse allegations against her 2nd husband with her older.child which were expunged.
We did try to get custody of the child when we found out the older sibling was being investigated for alleged abuse of a step sibling.. less than.24.hrs later we had cys called by mom..
Can dad file charges.against her? Should we be contacting her job and letting them know what she is doing.considering she looks into claims of abuse herself and is making false reports? We will have cops at our door again this weekend and mom did this w her first husband.. made claims then.refused to show up for visitation times w her son and her ex. We think she will file for sole custody today since.she wants to try to.establish a pattern...however the child doesnt tell the teachers at school this the parents tell the teacher. The child tells us that mommy tells her we hit her and smack her. This is getting out of hand.

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You need to back off. You have no proof that CYS was called by the child's mother. The school could have called.

They did not

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They did not

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again, you do not know. You need to back off. You are far too involved in this situation which legally is NOT yours. AT ALL. And to others Posting History matters.

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My question involves a child custody case from the State of:

Fiance and I have had two calls to CYS on us by my fiances ex wife. These calls have been the last two times we are to have her for a weekend. This time mother had her new husband come into the school and say the child said xyz about dad. Claims brusing but there was none. School does.skin checks. Mother tried to come into.school and point out these marks but they again saw none. Child was out of our care for more than 24 hours when they claimed this. Cys went to childs school to check on child but mom pulled her out 15 min prior to their arrival and took her to her doctor to get.checked. We have a custody trial in 3 weeks and mom seems to be ramping up the claims. She works for cys and its becoming a pattern. She claimed abuse w her first second and third marriages without any founded proof. Even tried to drum up sexual abuse allegations against her 2nd husband with her older.child which were expunged.

We did try to get custody of the child when we found out the older sibling was being investigated for alleged abuse of a step sibling.. less than.24.hrs later we had cys called by mom..
Can dad file charges.against her? Should we be contacting her job and letting them know what she is doing.considering she looks into claims of abuse herself and is making false reports? We will have cops at our door again this weekend and mom did this w her first husband.. made claims then.refused to show up for visitation times w her son and her ex. We think she will file for sole custody today since.she wants to try to.establish a pattern...however the child doesnt tell the teachers at school this the parents tell the teacher. The child tells us that mommy tells her we hit her and smack her. This is getting out of hand.

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What proof do you have that the mother called CYS? You seem very hell bent on taking these kids from their mom based on your other posts.

No your fiancé nor you cannot file any charges. Ever. That's up to the DA. You're not a prosecutor or a lawyer. He can file a report - that's it. Maybe your partner needs to talk to his ex about this.

She wont talk to him. The school did not report as we have statements from them they saw no marks at any time she was in their care and its recorded on her health check they do that the parents are saying that his child says this or that.

Our lawyer said to start videotaping the exchages. Which we have. The child has reactions when the mom is present but when mom is gone she is fine with us. Mom wants to say child is afraid to go with us yet shes fine after mom leaves. Mom.did this when he first got unsupervised visitation.. she would pull the child out of daycare and sit w her in the car then when dad came she would hold and kiss her until she started to have a negative reaction. Then she would give her to my fiance. Then say she didnt want to go. When court ordered her to allow him to pick her up from school she ran to him happy to see him. Has been the case every time since even when i pick her up from school. She runs to us excited to leave and laughing. Factor mom in shes a different kid.

Cys is coming to our home to investigate. They interviewed the child when mom was trying to get a PFA which was denied. The child said he is mean to her but that is not the case. We have video of the child saying mommy says you dont like me and you hit me so the child is being directed to say these things. This stuff has only been repeated kn the last 3 weeks (since he filed when he found out about the allegations). We have had her for 2.5 years now overnights and every other weekend and this has never been mentioned. Now all of a sudden? And shes w her mom 90% of the time? Its a no brainer really. Her son even says his dad was abusive to him and his mom yet the last time he saw his dad he was 1 or 2 hes now 12 or 13 so mom gets ro shape a lot of the narrative here.

This is a pattern for mom. She has claimed abuse physical and sexual in nature with all her previous marriages in some capacity. She used PFAs and threats of PFAs to refuse visitstion to her older childs father. She has involved CYS numerous times w her second husband even posing as her step daughters mother in court to try to get her taken off her father. She made false sexual abuse allegations against her second husband which were debunked and expunged. She came here to ask about keeping dads name off the birth certificate (so she can go on a trip and get passports) and made claims i was going to steal his daughter and have tried to steal other children which is entirely false. I have statements and court documents from her second husband showing her pattern. She wants only her 4 year old in therapy but refuses to follow court ordered therapy she is to have w her first child and his father for reconciliation. She also has used her soon to be phd in family therpay to get her step kids out of therapy by citing eithical violations by not having their father present for sessions yet she doesnt want my fiance involved in therapy until shes "comfortable" . She also only wants her to see therapists that are tied to DYS and her old employer which to me is a red flag since they would know her better. She has tried since the kid was 2 to get her in therapy yet the childs school and teachers, after even being evaluated, says she does not need it. Shes a normal child.

And no again i will state we do not want her taken from her mother. This crazy insane stuff has gone overboard just a few weeks before trial and the last hearing prior to judge ruling if he gets more visitation or not.

What she doesnt know -because she shot him down when he asked to settle out of court- was that he wanted her only on weekends since her school is over 40 minutes if not more away (because shell be testing in for K) from us and 6 weeks in the summer.. He doesnt feel it would be good on her to get up early and have long drives to our home during the week. But again she shot him down before hearing him out blaming him for taking her to court and refusing to work with her.

Our lawyer reviewed what her idea of working together was and said he would lose out so much time and refused to allow it. Our lawyer took her to court over her constantly scheduling things on our time and demanding he give her up because she paidfor stuff (events he couldnt take her to because mom already paid for it and it was his custodial time and he had plans to take her himself). It wasnt fair to him and she never allowed any switching when he needed it. Our laywer sees what shes trying to do w my fiance and she even said its basically alienation. Which she has a background in. She wants her in therapy to shape the child into thinking her dad is a monster. She only wants the child to be in her control. Even stated in court she sees no point in ther kids having a father. Her 4th husband is now again daddy to her oldest (this poor child.has had 3 dads and never been allowed to know his real dad) and daddy to my fiances daughter.

I am sorry if i make your heads spin but this is just some of what 4 years of this has been like. He has been quiet sat back and taken a lot of it. Honestly i dont know how he does it. He cries a lot a feels at a total disadvantage and all he wants is to see his daughter. She knows how much she means to him and it is just sick to me she is using everything she can to make sure or try to get him to quit like her first childs father did.

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She wont talk to him. The school did not report as we have statements from them they saw no marks at any time she was in their care and its recorded on her health check they do that the parents are saying that his child says this or that.

Our lawyer said to start videotaping the exchages. Which we have. The child has reactions when the mom is present but when mom is gone she is fine with us. Mom wants to say child is afraid to go with us yet shes fine after mom leaves. Mom.did this when he first got unsupervised visitation.. she would pull the child out of daycare and sit w her in the car then when dad came she would hold and kiss her until she started to have a negative reaction. Then she would give her to my fiance. Then say she didnt want to go. When court ordered her to allow him to pick her up from school she ran to him happy to see him. Has been the case every time since even when i pick her up from school. She runs to us excited to leave and laughing. Factor mom in shes a different kid.

Cys is coming to our home to investigate. They interviewed the child when mom was trying to get a PFA which was denied. The child said he is mean to her but that is not the case. We have video of the child saying mommy says you dont like me and you hit me so the child is being directed to say these things. This stuff has only been repeated kn the last 3 weeks (since he filed when he found out about the allegations). We have had her for 2.5 years now overnights and every other weekend and this has never been mentioned. Now all of a sudden? And shes w her mom 90% of the time? Its a no brainer really. Her son even says his dad was abusive to him and his mom yet the last time he saw his dad he was 1 or 2 hes now 12 or 13 so mom gets ro shape a lot of the narrative here.

This is a pattern for mom. She has claimed abuse physical and sexual in nature with all her previous marriages in some capacity. She used PFAs and threats of PFAs to refuse visitstion to her older childs father. She has involved CYS numerous times w her second husband even posing as her step daughters mother in court to try to get her taken off her father. She made false sexual abuse allegations against her second husband which were debunked and expunged. She came here to ask about keeping dads name off the birth certificate (so she can go on a trip and get passports) and made claims i was going to steal his daughter and have tried to steal other children which is entirely false. I have statements and court documents from her second husband showing her pattern. She wants only her 4 year old in therapy but refuses to follow court ordered therapy she is to have w her first child and his father for reconciliation. She also has used her soon to be phd in family therpay to get her step kids out of therapy by citing eithical violations by not having their father present for sessions yet she doesnt want my fiance involved in therapy until shes "comfortable" . She also only wants her to see therapists that are tied to DYS and her old employer which to me is a red flag since they would know her better. She has tried since the kid was 2 to get her in therapy yet the childs school and teachers, after even being evaluated, says she does not need it. Shes a normal child.

And no again i will state we do not want her taken from her mother. This crazy insane stuff has gone overboard just a few weeks before trial and the last hearing prior to judge ruling if he gets more visitation or not.

What she doesnt know -because she shot him down when he asked to settle out of court- was that he wanted her only on weekends since her school is over 40 minutes if not more away (because shell be testing in for K) from us and 6 weeks in the summer.. He doesnt feel it would be good on her to get up early and have long drives to our home during the week. But again she shot him down before hearing him out blaming him for taking her to court and refusing to work with her.

Our lawyer reviewed what her idea of working together was and said he would lose out so much time and refused to allow it. Our lawyer took her to court over her constantly scheduling things on our time and demanding he give her up because she paidfor stuff (events he couldnt take her to because mom already paid for it and it was his custodial time and he had plans to take her himself). It wasnt fair to him and she never allowed any switching when he needed it. Our laywer sees what shes trying to do w my fiance and she even said its basically alienation. Which she has a background in. She wants her in therapy to shape the child into thinking her dad is a monster. She only wants the child to be in her control. Even stated in court she sees no point in ther kids having a father. Her 4th husband is now again daddy to her oldest (this poor child.has had 3 dads and never been allowed to know his real dad) and daddy to my fiances daughter.

I am sorry if i make your heads spin but this is just some of what 4 years of this has been like. He has been quiet sat back and taken a lot of it. Honestly i dont know how he does it. He cries a lot a feels at a total disadvantage and all he wants is to see his daughter. She knows how much she means to him and it is just sick to me she is using everything she can to make sure or try to get him to quit like her first childs father did.

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You are overly involved and quite frankly the problem. "Our lawyer"? No. YOU ARE NOT A PARTY TO THIS. YOU do NOT have time with the child. Good grief. Lady Tremaine, BACK OFF.

I'm surprised y'all keep entertaining this person's threads. The posting HX is a must read.

I see Mom successfully campaigning to have OP restrained from being around these poor children as much as possible.

I wonder who Dad will eventually choose? Questions, questions!

Im the bad guy here? Are you serious? Wow..

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Im the bad guy here? Are you serious? Wow..

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And your saying what moms doing to my fiance is right? I dont get it. So everything shes doing is right and he is in the wrong for trying to see his kid more and knowing what she is and has done?