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  • 03-07-2017, 08:45 AM
    Future Firefighter
    Can You Get Emancipated from a Helicopter Parent
    My question involves juvenile law in the State of: Texas

    I am 16 (turning 17 in May) I have been contemplating emancipation for a while now. I really believe it is something I should pursue, but I want to see if others think I could be emancipated successfully, or if I would just make my last year with my mom even more hellish than it already is.

    For starters, my mom is very much a helicopter parent. And I understand her reasoning for that, for the most part. She was a little turd when she was a teenager. She was pregnant with me when she was 17. She was also a druggie. So, I do understand her feeling that helicopter parenting is the right thing. But this woman is starting to get a little crazy in my opinion, and I need to get out before It gets worse for me.

    I am clinically diagnosed with severe anxiety and chronic depression, and I used to have panic disorder, but I've managed to get control of that. In April I plan to cut off my services with my psychiatrist because my mom is always making me feel like crap for needing the help. Ask anyone who knows me when my mom isn't around, and they would never think I had this depression, and my anxiety is far less severe. Anyways, to say my mom is emotionally abusive may be a bit extreme, but she is pretty neglectful. And should she pretend to care about how I'm doing, if I don't tell her I'm doing great and all, she makes me feel like hell. In addition to that, my mom won't really let me have a social life. She hates everyone I talk to, except my "big brother" who is 26 and kinda has his own life to deal with. We can't exactly kick back and be friends. My only time out of the house is school, and work. And even then, if I speak of making friends with someone she freaks out about it.

    I don't plan to file for emancipation until I am 17 since I do still live with her.. I have a part time job, my average checks are $400 after taxes and all. which I know isn't much. but this place is close. And my mom won't lets me get a license so I can't get a job anywhere else. Also, every bit of money I make, I rarely get to spend myself. I made nearly $7,000 last year, (really busy summer, so I didn't get to work much) and maybe only got to spend $1,000 of it. The rest I never saw, and my bank account is, as per usual, empty.

    Once emancipated I would have a place to stay while I got my license, and applied for a second job (or a full-time job).
    I am nearly done with high school, and only spend 4 hours a day there, so taking on another job is not something I'm stressed about.

    I love my mom more than anything, but this woman is ridiculous and very petty all of the time.

    Given my situation, does it look like I may be able to successfully be emancipated? Or should I just grin and bear it for another year?
    Thanks in advance for the help.
  • 03-07-2017, 08:53 AM
    cbg
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
    Grin and bear it. I am clinically diagnosed with severe anxiety and chronic depression This, right there, all by itself, is a guarantee that emancipation would fail.
  • 03-07-2017, 09:09 AM
    geek
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
    You should be saving the money she does allow you to keep. Like I told someone else, when the time does come and you are able to move out, you'll find that the costs to set up your own household are much higher than you think.
  • 03-07-2017, 09:25 AM
    Future Firefighter
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
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    You should be saving the money she does allow you to keep. Like I told someone else, when the time does come and you are able to move out, you'll find that the costs to set up your own household are much higher than you think.

    I would love to save it, but that money goes towards my phone bill, her car insurance, and gas money for the people who help me get to and from work. As well as any meds, vitamins, or clothes I may need. :(

    Okay, I suppose that makes sense. But Will It still cause my emancipation to fail once I've stopped seeing the doctor?
  • 03-07-2017, 09:38 AM
    jumanji
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
    $400/mo will not be enough to survive. It just isn't. Any court considering emancipating you will expect you to have enough money coming in to pay rent (market value - not a token sum to a friend), groceries, transportation, healthcare, clothing, incidentals, etc. AND expect you to continue going to school and doing well.
  • 03-07-2017, 09:50 AM
    qwaspolk69
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
    You're not going to get emancipated. Read the multiple amounts of thread posted about emancipation and find out why you won't get emancipated.

    Wait - how can she be a helicopter parent one minute and emotionally abusive the next? My mom was emotionally abusive and was never a helicopter parent. Her free time was spent with her affair for most of my childhood and when she was home, she treated us all like crap.

    You're going to just have to deal with your mom. You're not getting emancipated. Emancipation isn't for what you are going through. Sorry. If you feel you are being abused report it.
  • 03-07-2017, 10:07 AM
    cbg
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
    But Will It still cause my emancipation to fail once I've stopped seeing the doctor?

    Yes.
  • 03-07-2017, 10:11 AM
    Future Firefighter
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
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    You're not going to get emancipated. Read the multiple amounts of thread posted about emancipation and find out why you won't get emancipated.

    Wait - how can she be a helicopter parent one minute and emotionally abusive the next? My mom was emotionally abusive and was never a helicopter parent. Her free time was spent with her affair for most of my childhood and when she was home, she treated us all like crap.

    You're going to just have to deal with your mom. You're not getting emancipated. Emancipation isn't for what you are going through. Sorry. If you feel you are being abused report it.

    Maybe Helicopter parent wasnt the right word.. She is always aware of what we are doing, and when, because she has security cameras constantly watching my siblings and I. But she is Emotionally neglectful. She never pays any mind to how my siblings and I are doing.. Honestly the only time she aknowledges us is when shes getting pissed off at us for some ridiculous thing.
  • 03-07-2017, 10:40 AM
    jumanji
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
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    Quoting Future Firefighter
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    Maybe Helicopter parent wasnt the right word.. She is always aware of what we are doing, and when, because she has security cameras constantly watching my siblings and I. But she is Emotionally neglectful. She never pays any mind to how my siblings and I are doing.. Honestly the only time she aknowledges us is when shes getting pissed off at us for some ridiculous thing.

    You're still not getting emancipated.
  • 03-07-2017, 10:48 AM
    cbg
    Re: Can I Successfully Be Emancipated in This Situation
    Maybe this will help you take in what we're saying.

    About the only reason I can think of that a court will accept as a valid reason for emancipation is, "My parents were both killed in a car crash and I need to be emancipated so that I can have the rent and the light bill transferred into my name and act as guardian to my younger siblings".

    Courts do not EVER emancipate a minor based on their not getting along with their parents or the parent not parenting the way the minor wants them to. "Emotional neglect" is NOT a reason a court will accept for emancipation. Ever. In any state.
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