My Step Mom Abuses Me if I Don't Work for Her

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Quoting darkdekage

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i am the father, i dont know where she is, and im not asking for your oppinion, i want to know my options. oh and there was more to the post, it just didnt send the first part, you only read the second part.

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The reason we asked about where is the other parent (sorry I assumed you are a woman) is because of custody issues, etc.

Also you're going to get opinions on a public forum whether you like it or not. As I said I posted links and they say single mothers but I'm sure it applies to single fathers as well. Now I'm not sure how much a shelter would help you as there aren't many for men. But I still don't understand why you have stayed as long as you have. Do they have some kind of hold over you?

Like I said go check out those links I posted above. OR you can do your own search on Google. That's all I did was search Google. But you want to know your options? Get the hell out of that house. That's your first option. Then you can try to go to a homeless shelter and see if they have any resources.

Do you have any friends or other family you could stay with? What about your mother is she still alive or around? Other relatives? Family/friends or a shelter are about the only places to start with and then go from there.

This: "With no real job and a past of loseing my other kids long ago for reason i was blind to, involved his mom and drugs, unaware, they could do so ez. I am an adult, 31, i only lived here 5 years, i had my own place many times, im no freeloader, i like to work, but not with this kinda abuse. Aside from the bed bugs, my step mom is really the only problem here, however if i dont move out, i cant fix the problem. I just need to know if there is anything i can do in the laws of texas that can help me move forward and get out of the hole im currently stuck in. I dont live here by choice, if i had one, it wouldnt have ever to been moving here, ever. "

You have had other children removed from your care? There has to be a reason and you have to be aware of it. The state doesn't just randomly go into people's homes and snatch their children. I very highly doubt that you were "blind" to the reason why you lost your other kids. Where are they now?

You're 31 and you've been living there for five years - but you have had your own place. So what happened that forced you to move you and your child into a bed bug infested abusive home?

You do live there by choice because you said you had your own home so you chose to move back into your dad's house. It's a choice. Did someone force you to? Threaten you to? I very highly doubt it. What reasons did your dad or stepmom have to "take your son?"

Again I posted links and I posted some more links. http://www.fatherhood.org/bid/183377...or-Single-Dads

http://www.livestrong.com/article/24...ingle-fathers/

You choosing to ignore those links or the advice given is only your fault. You put yourself into this predicament whether you want to admit it or not. You're lucky you still have your son actually.

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Quoting qwaspolk69

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Okay no one cares about that really. That's what you got out of ALL the posts? Smh.

Where is the boy's father? Is he active in his life or no?

I gave you links to read if you go look up to my first response. But obviously you ignored those.

Why have you put up with this for so long? No one has forced you to stay there. Once you turned 18 you should have left.

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Dude, ok look. I am reading those links already. Stop assuming, i sent a reply and it didnt send the first part, so you only got the second part. There isnt any reason for you to insult me nor act as you are. Im asking for help figuring out my options, i took what you said and replyed. I have only lived here 5 years. And its been getting worse cause i have no where else to go and do not know what rites i have in the case of what is going on or what to do about it. So thank you for the links, im researching those already. Forgive me for not knowing exactly how to work this site, i pressed the wrong button to reply.

ok i just read that and now my computer is being odd. But i wanted to touch base on DCF, what if i was to go through them?

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Quoting Dogmatique

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Excuse me?

Go pay an attorney to deal with your attitude.

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I wonder if that wasn't directed toward my post...

i think when i was talking to you about your opinion, might have thought i ment them..... my bad. but answer your question, Dog, i dont know the rest of that user other then dog, i have no clue where she is and we are currently trying to get a divorce, she kinda vanished off the radar 3 weeks ago.

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Quoting darkdekage

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i think when i was talking to you about your opinion, might have thought i ment them..... my bad. but answer your question, Dog, i dont know the rest of that user other then dog, i have no clue where she is and we are currently trying to get a divorce, she kinda vanished off the radar 3 weeks ago.

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Are you just ignoring my posts? I've given you several links to look at and see if they can help you. But if you want to ignore that help that's on you.

You need to start hitting the quote button to whoever you are replying (as I did) or you put their user name in the reply. It gets confusing.

oh and what i ment by blind. I wasnt aware at the time that my ex was doing drugs, and because i refused to leave her, i got them taken from my self as well. After that things got worse and she kinda started beating the crap out of me. I left 4 days before cps found our son alone in a motel and she was drunk in ICU. I had him since. Me leaving was all CPS wanted me to do, but i was trying to protect us all as a family and support my wife through the bad and get her clean. That failed.

no no, im not ignoring you, just explaining my self. Sometimes i forget im not the easiest person to understand and often need to give more information then what i do.

i didnt read the part you asked this, but here is the answer. my old home was with his mother, it wasnt an option to stay anymore. She was also abusive in drinking and trying to beat me up, witch never worked. No i never hurt her, i wouldnt dare hit a woman. Anyway, i left her cause we just couldnt work out, then i got a chance to remove my son from the bad he was in, i took it. CPS demanded i live with my parents. However it wasnt til the 3rd year that the bed bugs arived. This was due to someone give my dad a couch to pay for some work, we didnt know the bugs where there. I just want a better life for my son, and if CPS, or DCF, or an attorney can make that happen, i will do what ever it costs. No one deserves this kinda life.

hey ty so much for all the info, im learning alot more about what i can do just reading these links alone. If you find anymore, please post those too, or any other information reguarding single parenting and rites.

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Quoting darkdekage

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she kinda vanished off the radar 3 weeks ago.

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Uummm.... Three WEEKS??? It sounded like she was gone, gone, gone for YEARS! Why have you not done something for 5 years minus 3 weeks?

Did she live there with you and the child ? Have you talked to her friends and family to see if anyone has seen her ? Did the two of you have an argument ?

You can get a job and continue to pay your monthly rent where you currently live. After several months, maybe longer depending on how much you are being paid. You can find an apartment for you and your son.

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Quoting darkdekage

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i think when i was talking to you about your opinion, might have thought i ment them..... my bad. but answer your question, Dog, i dont know the rest of that user other then dog, i have no clue where she is and we are currently trying to get a divorce, she kinda vanished off the radar 3 weeks ago.

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3 WEEKS AGO? Oh for the love of GOD. You need an attorney.

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Quoting darkdekage

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Dude, ok look. I am reading those links already. Stop assuming, i sent a reply and it didnt send the first part, so you only got the second part. There isnt any reason for you to insult me nor act as you are. Im asking for help figuring out my options, i took what you said and replyed. I have only lived here 5 years. And its been getting worse cause i have no where else to go and do not know what rites i have in the case of what is going on or what to do about it. So thank you for the links, im researching those already. Forgive me for not knowing exactly how to work this site, i pressed the wrong button to reply.

ok i just read that and now my computer is being odd. But i wanted to touch base on DCF, what if i was to go through them?

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Not a dude...but I guess hard to tell.

Where did I freaking insult you? You need to drink a glass of chill the f* out. I have no clue WHO you were replying to initially because other people were commenting too so it seemed you were ignoring because you kept asking for RESOURCES. You've "only" lived there five years? Five years is a long freaking time to put up with abuse.

What do you mean you don't know what *rights you have? You are an adult. You have the same rights as everyone else to be free from abuse. You control your life and your child's life and if your soon to be ex wife isn't showing up for the divorce you will likely get sole custody. So you control his life and your life. Your dad and stepmom you need to tell them you're leaving and they can f* off. They can only control you as long as you let them.

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Quoting darkdekage

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oh and what i ment by blind. I wasnt aware at the time that my ex was doing drugs, and because i refused to leave her, i got them taken from my self as well. After that things got worse and she kinda started beating the crap out of me. I left 4 days before cps found our son alone in a motel and she was drunk in ICU. I had him since. Me leaving was all CPS wanted me to do, but i was trying to protect us all as a family and support my wife through the bad and get her clean. That failed.

no no, im not ignoring you, just explaining my self. Sometimes i forget im not the easiest person to understand and often need to give more information then what i do.

i didnt read the part you asked this, but here is the answer. my old home was with his mother, it wasnt an option to stay anymore. She was also abusive in drinking and trying to beat me up, witch never worked. No i never hurt her, i wouldnt dare hit a woman. Anyway, i left her cause we just couldnt work out, then i got a chance to remove my son from the bad he was in, i took it. CPS demanded i live with my parents. However it wasnt til the 3rd year that the bed bugs arived. This was due to someone give my dad a couch to pay for some work, we didnt know the bugs where there. I just want a better life for my son, and if CPS, or DCF, or an attorney can make that happen, i will do what ever it costs. No one deserves this kinda life.

hey ty so much for all the info, im learning alot more about what i can do just reading these links alone. If you find anymore, please post those too, or any other information reguarding single parenting and rites.

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My ex husband is a drug addict. It's pretty obvious when someone is abusing drugs...

When you get somewhere stable you need to get into counseling ASAP. You are letting people treat you as a punching bag - physically, emotionally and mentally. I was abused by my ex husband. But those times happened after his meth withdrawals and I finally divorced him after he kept choosing meth over me and our daughter and his other kids.

When CPS tells you the way to get your son back is to leave the abuser you leave the abuser. No addict will get clean until he or she wants to do it. I've been there done that.

You can hit a woman back in self defense you know. Did you let CPS know that your parents home was not an ideal place to live and was dirty and abusive?

Can CPS make a person live somewhere? I wouldn't think that's something they can do...I would think if you moved and told them why they would be okay with that.

You need a lawyer, you need a safe place to live with your son and you need counseling so that you can avoid putting yourself in another abusive situation.