Re: What are the Chances of Getting Equal Custody
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We have sat back been silent and not really reacted to much other than when she violates the order or tries to demand he give up his time. He lets her show her true self in court. 5 hours focusing on house size room size money we make and even going so far to say my fiance is too stupid to be able to take of a kid just shows its not about the child but about trying to.hurt him...
But i know as a child of having lived through this that eventually the truth will be seen and it wont be pretty when a child realizes all the hurt their parent tried to do to them.
Oh, I can sing this song too. Similar problems. My husband's ex has argued in court that we didn't give the kids enough milk, believe it or not. My husband was collecting unemployment, and we were barely scraping by but still managing to pay her child support at his fully employed rate - but God forbid we tell the kids to drink water between meals, and save the milk for mealtime. *eye roll* Yeah, she has complained to the courts that we didn't spend enough on clothing because I supplemented by shopping at thrift stores (even though we were the only ones buying them clothes), and we didn't buy enough school supplies, or shoes, or haircuts... All of which are technically supposed to be covered by child support.
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Oh, I can sing this song too. Similar problems. My husband's ex has argued in court that we didn't give the kids enough milk, believe it or not. My husband was collecting unemployment, and we were barely scraping by but still managing to pay her child support at his fully employed rate - but God forbid we tell the kids to drink water between meals, and save the milk for mealtime. *eye roll* Yeah, she has complained to the courts that we didn't spend enough on clothing because I supplemented by shopping at thrift stores (even though we were the only ones buying them clothes), and we didn't buy enough school supplies, or shoes, or haircuts... All of which are technically supposed to be covered by child support.
Yeah she hasnt done that yet. But she has tried to say we dont feed her which is a lie. Every exchange she has candy or a sweet drink like pop or a slushie from mom.. one time she was eating a whole large bag of gummies. To me that isnt very sound nutrition but the way the courts see it shes getting fed so we dont really squalk back. She even tried ro complain we gave her too much of certain foods but judge said shes getting fed so be quiet... The stuff thats argued is just out of this world insane. To me i dont see why they allow someone to carry on like that and waste time. But time is money so they let ya carry on i guess.
She tried to go after "earning potential" as well but the judge said if i do it to him then i do it to you. She expected him to work two jobs and pay her what she felt she was owed... judge said no since it would take time away from his kid.
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Funnygirl20, please ignore the bullying. You do have a right to ask questions. Just understand that as a possible step-parent this is what you are signing up for: all the responsibility and none of the actual rights or freedoms (or even a voice) that comes with it. I am a stepmom, and have been in your shoes.
The other posters are correct however. This is your husband's fight and legally you have no rights or even a voice. I have been doing this for over 10 years, and am the primary bread-winner in our blended family. I have no biological kids of my own, but have personally shelled out over $60k defending my husband against his ex wife in court over ongoing child support fights, custody, etc. His ex has tried to get my income included for her support order, and when that failed, showed the kids what I made and told them I was evil for not sharing. She even one time faked a relocation case in order to try to get more custody. That particular stunt was a crazy $15k wasted, and when she realized she might end up having to pay legal fees, she dropped the case.
You are expected to stay silent while you money is spent, your personal time is taken, and your peace and sanity are consumed by a household that has technically nothing to do with you.
You have EVERY RIGHT to ask legal questions because they IMPACT YOU. Just understand that you have no seat at the table, and the information you collect is for informational purposes only.
Step-parenting isn't for the faint of heart.
Oh, Q4P. Oooooh yes. Q4P indeed.
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Re: What are the Chances of Getting Equal Custody
It has taken me two full days to make my why through this thread - because it kept giving me a headache.
I suggest Dad move closer to his daughter, before she starts K. Real school will give him more opportunities to share quality time/experiences with his child.
G/F needs to step back. Way back.