Okay so this is how it goes, I'm 15 going on 16 in May. My boyfriend is 19 years old and I really do care about him a lot.
One thing, he wants to get me pregnant.
If we were to wait till I was 16 would my mom be able to press charges?
And If I got pregnant before then[[like a month or two before]]and never said anything till I turned 16 would she be able to as well?
He is dead set on having a kid with me but I don't want him in anymore legal trouble. He just recently got out of jail and rehab only about 2 weeks ago and I don't want him going back anytime soon. PLEASE HELP ME!
State = New York.
Statutory Rape
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02-20-2007, 06:30 AMjuggalettex21xStatutory Rape
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02-20-2007, 06:51 AMseniorjudgeRe: Statutory rape?
How do you all plan to support this child?
Are you both working full-time? -
02-20-2007, 06:56 AMNeal1421Re: Statutory rape?DO NOT HAVE A CHILD WITH THIS MAN!!!Quote:
Quoting juggalettex21x
He is already a criminal and you are just a child. If he does something illegal and is sent back to jail YOU will be the one taking care of and supporting the child alone.
Stay in school.
Legal advice: Yes, he can still be charged with statutory rape when you are 16. Your mother would be right to press charges. The age of consent in NY is 17. Stay away from this "man". -
02-20-2007, 06:56 AMlealea1005Re: Statutory rape?What will you do/where will you live/how will you support yourself when you're pregnant or with a small baby and he is in jail?Quote:
Quoting juggalettex21x
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02-20-2007, 07:01 AMjuggalettex21xRe: Statutory rape?
ok, his parents our letting us live there, i have a lot of family problems and i'm moving in with him this month sometime HOPEFULLY. he has a full-time job. he works almost 12 hours a day making 8 dollars an hour under the table. we do not have to pay for rent or for food. we just need to pay for what we need and the baby. i WILL be staying in school and i do not want to leave him. despite his problems, he is the only one who has ever treated me right in my life. i just don't want him getting charged by my mom. i think i have enough reason to get emmancipated, will she be able to press charges if she's not legally my parent?
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02-20-2007, 07:03 AMlealea1005Re: Statutory rape?Quote:
Quoting Neal1421
DITTO!!! In addition....if he does something illegal and you happen to be with him at the time, you will also be arrested and you may lose custody of your child. -
02-20-2007, 07:07 AMjuggalettex21xRe: Statutory rape?
why would i be arrested? i'm the one keeping him out of trouble. i'm with him A LOT. and whenever i'm with him he does not do one thing bad. so when i'm with him it will be fine right?
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02-20-2007, 07:25 AMNeal1421Re: Statutory rape?You might be arrested if you are with him and he decides to commit a crime. Even if you don' t know that he is about to commit the crime, you can still be charged.Quote:
Quoting juggalettex21x
Also, if your mother does not agree with you seeing this guy he can be charged with statutory rape and/or contributing to the delinquency of a minor and so on.
Leave this guy alone and enjoy your childhood. -
02-20-2007, 07:27 AMjuggalettex21xRe: Statutory rape?
but he doesnt commit crimes around me. and he BEST not IF i ever get pregnant be committing them in front of the baby
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02-20-2007, 07:32 AMseniorjudgeRe: Statutory rape?According to what you've posted here, you are very naive.Quote:
Quoting juggalettex21x
You cannot keep anyone out of trouble.
That is a hard life lesson you need to learn. -
02-20-2007, 07:44 AMjuggalettex21xRe: Statutory rape?
well what am I supposed to do? not trust anyone?
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02-20-2007, 07:48 AMNeal1421Re: Statutory rape?
You shouldn't trust a 19 year old with a record that is trying to get you pregnant.
If you are having problems at home, tell a teacher counselor or another authority figure. -
02-20-2007, 07:54 AMjuggalettex21xRe: Statutory rape?
i have to go to a thing called mental health in school cause they think I have problems. Well, they told me to write a long letter to my mom telling her how I feel. Well she wrote me a very long one back saying " oh I love you, I wanna spend more time with you". well that lasted about 2 days. then she blew me off. so i just started leaving and going to my friends house all the time. well one of my friends came over to the house and my step dad started screaming at me right in front of him. he made me ball my eyes out and I have never felt so weak. I called my mom at work and told her I wanted to leave and go to my dad's but she wouldn't let me. so then i hung up on her. she called back and talked to my step dad and i listened in about how he doesn't wanna deal with me anymore and how i'm just a little no good piece of shit and that either i leave or he does. and my mom wouldn't let him leave so what does that tell ya? I'm sick of trying with her. she wrote me another note and left in downstairs for me before school the other night and it said that she's sick of all my bullshit. i don't know what bullshit she's even talking about, she said it herself, all I do is sit in my room so she doesn't yell at me! WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?!?!
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02-20-2007, 07:59 AMNeal1421Re: Statutory rape?
Where is your dad in all of this? Do you have any contact with him?
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02-20-2007, 08:01 AMjuggalettex21xRe: Statutory rape?
i talk to him maybe once a month. I wrote him a letter asking if I could move in with him and told him I'd even pay rent if I had to and for food. I told him to call me when he got it and he never did.....
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02-20-2007, 09:19 AMlealea1005Re: Statutory rape?Have you spoken to the teacher/counselor of this group regarding your mother's reaction or the fact that you're thinking about having a baby by a guy who is 19? Honey, you do have "problems" and maybe this "mental health" group in school is a good place for you to vent feelings/frustration.Quote:
Quoting juggalettex21x
You want some one to love you unconditionally. Getting yourself involved with an older boy/man who is "dead set" on getting you pregnant is a mistake. I mean, have you asked yourself why he wants you pregnant?
As Neal1421 said, he could land in jail just being with you. -
02-20-2007, 09:21 AMlealea1005Re: Statutory rape?Quote:
Quoting juggalettex21x
Then call your Dad...maybe he never got the letter. You'll never know unless you call him and ask. -
02-25-2007, 12:14 PMnite_riderusaRe: Statutory rape?
First, I can"t believe you would even consider having a childhood ending baby with this man. Second, you are 15 and he is 19. That makes him a sex offender in every state in the union. I know this is not what you wanted to hear. When you get pregnant, the medical personel will be mandated by law to report your pregnancy. Say hi to the Sheriff for me because you and your boyfriend will get to know him on a first name basis.
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02-25-2007, 12:59 PMjturner901Re: Statutory rape?Reason 1 not to have a child. Get you personal problems sorted out first. Whatever children's protection agency you have where you live will apprehend your child if they even begin to thing you have any mental issues at 16. Sheesh!Quote:
i have to go to a thing called mental health in school cause they think I have problems.
All the best!
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02-25-2007, 01:01 PMjturner901Re: Statutory rape?Reason 2 not to have a baby. This may sound like the riches of the Sultan of Brunei to a 16 year old, but it is not going to support you and your child. Double sheesh!Quote:
he works almost 12 hours a day making 8 dollars an hour under the table.
All the best!
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02-25-2007, 01:04 PMjturner901Re: Statutory rape?Reason 3 not to have an baby. This does not need further explanation.Quote:
He just recently got out of jail and rehab only about 2 weeks ago and I don't want him going back anytime soon.
All the best!
Jay