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Thanks for your response! Funny thing is I have been thinking about ways to make it work with her changing schools, but it just won't work! We are both in the same boat now about not Changing her schools and keeping her here where the day care program is cheaper than the school he wants to put her in. I feel like since we share 50/50 with him we would have to pay him since he is not currently working and when he is working we both combined make more than he does. I just don't understand, it's not like I'm asking him to pay child care and child support. I just want half of the cost for her child care and health insurance!
No your wife shares custody. You don't share any custody. You legally don't share anything. If you and your wife divorced, you legally would have nothing over her kid. I understand how it is to be a stepparent. I get it. Some stepparents are very important in a chlid's life, especially those cases where the other parent is non-existent. My brother has been raising his stepson since he was 2 years old. My sister in law refers to him as the sperm donor as he took off when my nephew was 6 months old. He has gotten other women pregnant and doesn't take care of those kids. Hell one of the women took him on one of those judge shows on TV. My nephew calls my brother Dad sometimes, sometimes by his first name. Usually by his first name. But that's really the only dad he's ever known.
But even though he's done everything that this other guy should have done, my brother has no legal rights over his stepson. That's why my sister in law does all the things involving legalities and she has talked to lawyers. That's the point. Your wife needs to be the one asking all these questions. Not you.
I was a stepparent too...so I know how it is. I know how hard it is to toe that line and not cross it and interfere on the other parent. But you have to watch it.
I'm not sure why child support was cancelled.
You can ask for all you want you aren't going to get shit. My ex husband is supposed to pay half daycare, half unreimbursed medical and child support. Guess how much day care and unreimbursed medical I've gotten in the last year? Nothing. Guess who much child support? About $300 if that. Only get it when it's taken out by the state.
You can hope and want all you want - both you and your wife. You're likely not going to get it. Even if you take him back to court.
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I appreciate everyone's knowledge on the subject. I understand what you guys are saying. I have no say so and I am support to my wife and that is it. She is the one that has to fight this battle, not me. Thank you all for your input.
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I appreciate everyone's knowledge on the subject. I understand what you guys are saying. I have no say so and I am support to my wife and that is it. She is the one that has to fight this battle, not me. Thank you all for your input.
Thank you for your gracious understanding. :applause:
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I appreciate everyone's knowledge on the subject. I understand what you guys are saying. I have no say so and I am support to my wife and that is it. She is the one that has to fight this battle, not me. Thank you all for your input.
Hey, that was a lovely response. Good for you :)
(Yes, I know I was somewhat rotten - sorry)
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No hard feelings here. Any information that can help me understand how this all works is golden to me!
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My question involves a child custody case from the State of: California.
Well my situation I feel is a little different than most but I'm sure someone has been in the same boat. My wife and I are married. She has one daughter from her previous relationship and we are having trouble with her dad. They were never married.He doesn't want to pay for childcare because he says he doesn't need it. My wife and I both work full time jobs. I don't have a set schedule because I'm a truck driver and my schedule is set on customer requests/orders. My wife has a set schedule 7:30 to 5 Monday through Friday.
My wife is the custodial parent and her ex is non custodial. He at one point was paying a minimal amount of child support but he lost his job and couldn't seem to get back on his feet. I talked to my wife and we both decided lets just close the case and move on. He agreed at the time to pay half of the child care costs. Fast forward a few months and he lands a decent job in retail. We enroll our daughter into school and he agrees to pay half of the cost. Well a couple months later he hurts his back and is barely getting disability. We agreed to suspend the childcare for the month of December and planned on continuing in January. Well time to enroll her in child care and he doesn't want to pay. He says we are the only ones that need it and doesn't want to pay it. I know he is getting a disability check. He lives with his parents In a paid off house and I'm sure it's minimal in any bills if any that he pays.
I'm not sure if he plans on returning to work seeing as he wants to transfer her to a school close to his house. Doing so would eliminate child care costs for him. Not having child care for myself and my wife doesn't work because of our schedule. Being able to drop her off in the morning and picking her up before six is a great option for us. So if talking to him doesn't get us anywhere, my question is how do you think it will play out in court? I'm worried about being ordered to pay him child support because he chooses to not work and keep a steady full time job.
He also lives with his girlfriend of a few years and she currently is not working herself, she is in school. What do you think are the chances of myself and my wife having to pay him child support? I mean, a part of me is thinking how can he pull this when we closed the old case they had open so he didn't have to pay anything at all. We are planning to talk about the situation but I don't know how it is going to play out. He has threatened us before saying he can file child support against us because we make more. Just doesn't sit right with me. What do you guys think? Thank you for your time.
1) Our daughter? NOT IN THIS LIFE TIME. The child is his and your wife's. NOT YOURS. Realize your place.
2) He doesn't have to pay anything that he is not court ordered to pay.
3) You are irrelevant.
(Read the rest of the thread now and realize he gets this. One of the few. CONGRATS OP!)