Runaways: Running Away from an Adoptive Home to Live With a Biological Relative

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Quoting cdwjava

As someone who is related to cousins and nephews who are adopted (and a foster father a few times over, myself), I have discovered that these relatives have discovered that while the grass looked greener when they were "stuck" in their adoptive homes (by people who raised them since infancy) they soon discovered that their biological families were NOT what they had imagined. So, please keep in mind that you may have rose colored glasses for this family you may have never really known.

Also, if these grandparents had been capable, you could have been adopted by them when you were removed by child services once upon a time. For whatever reason, these relatives were either incapable or unwilling to take you in.

Be cautious.

I lived with my family till I was 8 years old I was not adopted at infancy. I had a wonderful family who loved me yes my mother was making the wrong dicisssions but I was happy with my grandparents.

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Quoting cdwjava

Or, she knows an idealized version of them. And even if adopted at 12 she could well have been in the system for a lot longer than that. Out here such adoptions tend to take a couple of years - less if there is a repeated history by the bio parents. Since the first goal is family reunification, the tend to go for family. I'm wondering where the grandparent was a few years ago.

My grandparents fought for me but bc they didn't have a lot of money they didn't win. They really were my parents and I loved them sadly my Nana passed a few years ago... my Papa I'd waiting to come pick me up bc I was his favorite and he has been waiting for so long and no I don't have rose colored glasses on I see life very realistically ik there are problems in both my families but my bio family treats me better they always have and I do know that there is such a thing as emotional abuse and that's the name calling and yelling.