How To Minimize Child Support Payments

I am stationed in oklahoma and I am married with a child on the way, due March 2nd. I just recently got served papers demanding a paternity test from one of my ex-girlfriends in the area. I took the test on January 5th 2007 and have not gotten the results back yet, I am preparing for the worst.

When I was seeing her she was married at the time to another man and the child was conceived while she was married but now she is divorced. She had the baby back in july of last year, if it ends up being my child I had no idea that I had a child on the way because her and I broke up under horrible circumstances and never spoke to each other again up until now. She has a son from her first marriage and she may possibly have had my daughter. She applied for state funding and now they are running the child support order and she says she has no control over it. She is already recieving support from her ex-husband for her son.

If the paternity test comes back positive is there anything I can do to pay the least possible support or is there any possible way I can get out of paying support altogether? I care nothing for this child nor the mother and would be happy to never see or hear from them again. She said she was on the pill and I believed her so the thought of sharing my genetics with such human refuse never crossed my mind. With a child on the way with my wife, a person I actually care for I am willing to do anything and everything to avoid 18 years of supporting a child I couldn't care less about.

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Quoting Ceritus

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If the paternity test comes back positive is there anything I can do to pay the least possible support or is there any possible way I can get out of paying support altogether?

No, if the test comes back saying that you are the father you will have to pay according to state guidelines.

I care nothing for this child nor the mother and would be happy to never see or hear from them again. If this is your child, you don't think she deserves to know her father? It's not like it is the child's fault for being born.

She said she was on the pill and I believed her so the thought of sharing my genetics with such human refuse never crossed my mind.

Well, you should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex with her.

With a child on the way with my wife, a person I actually care for I am willing to do anything and everything to avoid 18 years of supporting a child I couldn't care less about.

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What state are you in?

Unless the woman gets remarried and her new husband wants to adopt the child, if it is proven to be yours you will be paying support according to state guidelines. There is nothing you can do about it.

"Sharing my genetics with such human refuse"......are you referring to the child as human refuse, since the woman can't "share" your genetics. Do you have any idea how monstrous this sounds?

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Quoting Just Breath

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"Sharing my genetics with such human refuse"......are you referring to the child as human refuse, since the woman can't "share" your genetics. Do you have any idea how monstrous this sounds?

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I am so angry right now I don't know what to do. I am about to lose it.

I don't care how monstrous any of it sounds. This is exactly how I feel. I am not looking to make friends I am looking for information that I can use to protect my wife and the child that my wife and I created. I want to spend the most possible money on my wife and our child and the least possible on this other child.

I may go so far to try to gain full custody. She has several DUI's and 1 DWI and she still drinks all the time. She was drinking and driving with her son well before my possible daughter was born. I am married with my own home with a stable family while she lives with and relies on her parents since her divorce. I feel it will be inevitably cheaper to raise this child rather than hand her more cash to buy more alcohol and enticing clothes to try and sucker in her next victim.

Then again maybe I should help her find another male suiter one that is dumb enough to marry her and adopt this child to let me off the hook.

Since her husband is not paying child support for the child if can be assumed that he was already disproven as the father by DNA, so they are just waiting for yours to go through. If you don't want to pay child support I suggest until you get castrated you gird your loins with duct tape, your uniform will also fit better:D Does your wife know?????? BTW the State will have no problem getting first dibs at your military pay.

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Quoting rmet4nzkx

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Since her husband is not paying child support for the child if can be assumed that he was already disproven as the father by DNA, so they are just waiting for yours to go through. If you don't want to pay child support I suggest until you get castrated you gird your loins with duct tape, your uniform will also fit better:D Does your wife know?????? BTW the State will have no problem getting first dibs at your military pay.

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I know which is why I am lucky because my enlistment is up in two months. I have a job lined up in the U.K. and I am getting excited about returning there.

Ofcourse my wife knows, who wouldn't tell their wives? Do you think I am a lying cheating bastard?

Worse comes to worse in order to avoid paying child support I will do my best to gain full custody and recieve support from her. I can afford a good lawyer while she cannot. All in all I will do anything and everything from giving this scarlet anything in regards to money.

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Quoting Ceritus

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I know which is why I am lucky because my enlistment is up in two months. I have a job lined up in the U.K. and I am getting excited about returning there.

Ofcourse my wife knows, who wouldn't tell their wives? Do you think I am a lying cheating bastard?

Worse comes to worse in order to avoid paying child support I will do my best to gain full custody and recieve support from her. I can afford a good lawyer while she cannot. All in all I will do anything and everything from giving this scarlet anything in regards to money.

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You are proving my point with each response.
The UK does enforce child support orders from the US, the order will go back to the time she applied for child support.
You will not get full custody.
She has an attorney, it is called the Attorney General.
I have made no assumptions regarding YOUR paternity, I could care less if you are a BASTARD, that is irrelevant to the question at hand.

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Worse comes to worse in order to avoid paying child support I will do my best to gain full custody and recieve support from her. I can afford a good lawyer while she cannot. All in all I will do anything and everything from giving this scarlet anything in regards to money.

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As RMET said, you are not going to get custody of the child. You don't have enough evidence to support a change in custody.

For the record, it is not cheaper to be the custodial parent of the child. It is a lot more expensice and time consuming so you need to get that thought out of your head.

Courts dont change custody based on "who can offer the child more"
If that was the case, whoever has the most money, would win, which is definately not the case.
In order for custody to change, you need to show how the present situation is bad for the child ( and not compare the present situation to what you could offer )

If you are seriously considering attempting to gain custody of the child, you should probably delete this post and repost sticking to just the facts of the case. I know it's hard, I'm in a rough situation myself, but writing about how you couldn't care less about the child (though this may be true since you don't know the child) on a public forum on the internet where it can be found by any Joe with a bit of search knowledge, isn't a good idea.
Not legal advice, but I'd be suprised if anyone on here with real legal knowledge would disagree with me :)