Teenager No Longer Wants to Live with Her Paternal Grandmother

My question involves juvenile law in the State of: Florida. Im 17 and I dont like where im at right now. My mom and dad died, so i lived with my moms sister for about 6 years. I was sent to my grandmothers house and now live with my dads mother and her daughter.

The problem is, she is addicted to being sick. Shell be actually sick at first, but then take a medication for that, and then more mediations for the side effects of the original medication. She doesnt eat healthy and wont do anything to help herself, she even skips out on her physical therepy.

Shes a hoarder and refuses to get rid of any of her things or my dads things. The house is full of clutter and the only real space we have left are the walkways, its so full of dust and other gross things that im constantly sick.

She does not like my moms side of the family and has actually banned me from seeing two people from that side. I cant tell her how i really feel about things and i have to pretend to be happy so she isnt rude to me when i feel depressed. Several of my moms other sisters, my other grandmother, and my sisters dad have offered to take me in, but my grandmother would never EVER let me go.

I also wanted to get a summer job so i can start saving up money, but shes telling me now that i probably wont be allowed to for no good reason. She hates it when my hair is short and cant stand when i want to act boyish or play sports.

Everyone tells me to just wait and ill be 18 soon. Im too old to be emancipated (because its a long process), and ive planned before just to leave anyways but im scared of being arrested. Isnt there some law about being able to chose where i live if im uncomfortable where im at?

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Quoting ZoeS

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Isnt there some law about being able to chose where i live if im uncomfortable where im at?

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When you are 18 you can choose to live where you wish. Until then, you live where your parent or guardian tells you to live. It is not clear if you have a guardian at this point or who that is, but it is that person who makes those decisions while you are still under 18.

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Quoting Taxing Matters

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When you are 18 you can choose to live where you wish. Until then, you live where your parent or guardian tells you to live. It is not clear if you have a guardian at this point or who that is, but it is that person who makes those decisions while you are still under 18.

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I agree, but if grandma is really a hoarder, then CPS might get involved and place the child with another relative.

No, there is no law that allows you to choose where you live if you are "uncomfortable" where you are.

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Quoting llworking

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I agree, but if grandma is really a hoarder, then CPS might get involved and place the child with another relative.

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I was thinking maybe FL Dept of Elder Services..maybe Grandma could use a hand with her issues.

If the place is so messy the OP could try and clean it up some. The OP is pretending she is a dr and can diagnosis and treat medical conditions. Maybe she can pretend she is a a house keeper and help her grandmother.

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Quoting Mercy&Grace

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If the place is so messy the OP could try and clean it up some. The OP is pretending she is a dr and can diagnosis and treat medical conditions. Maybe she can pretend she is a a house keeper and help her grandmother.

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When someone is a hoarder there is no "helping them out"...not unless they are willing to admit that they have a problem.

I didn't mean throwing things out. I meant helping out with day to day things like doing the dishes, laundry, etc. Sorry for not making that clear.

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Quoting Mercy&Grace

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I didn't mean throwing things out. I meant helping out with day to day things like doing the dishes, laundry, etc. Sorry for not making that clear.

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Helping out in that manner, while nice, does not make it any easier to live with an actual hoarder.

That's why I mentioned Elder Services...they may have resources to deal with this or know someone who does. If the house is so packed that only narrow goat paths remain, the grandma is in danger for all kinds of reasons.