Can a Pregnant Minor's Parents Ban Her Boyfriend from Seeing Her

My question involves juvenile law in the State of: oklahoma
Hi, I'm a 15 year old boy and I have a pregnant girl friend who is 14. I wouldn't be on here if I wasn't desperate. Her mother won't allow me to see her and she says when the baby is born she is moving 4 hours away. I live in Oklahoma and I'm terrified there will be nothing I can do to see our baby. Can I as the father file for custody of the baby before she moves?

No. And even after the baby is born, I promise you that you will not be getting anything more than joint custody. If that.

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Quoting cbg

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No. And even after the baby is born, I promise you that you will not be getting anything more than joint custody. If that.

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Why?

OP, read this

Oklahoma is a little odd (well, comparatively) :cool:

I don't see anything in there giving him the right to file for custody before the child is born. Nor do I see anything there that will give him full custody afterwards.

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I don't see anything in there giving him the right to file for custody before the child is born. Nor do I see anything there that will give him full custody afterwards.

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Before birth no. He cannot file for custody. After though: "However, if the father is noted on the birth certificate or sometimes even if he just acknowledges the child as his own, then BOTH parents are entitled to physical custody of the child(ren). That means that either parent can have the child living with them until a court order says otherwise."

That seems to say as long as the father is on the birth certificate or just acknowledges he is the father then both parents are entitled to custody until the court states otherwise.

If I were you I would go to court as soon as that baby is born. But it looks like in Oklahoma both parents are entitled to physical custody and her mom cannot keep the baby away unless there is a court order.

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I don't see anything in there giving him the right to file for custody before the child is born. Nor do I see anything there that will give him full custody afterwards.

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In the vast majority of states, Mom has sole custody simply by virtue of being a single, unwed mother without a court order. Oklahoma is different since even if his paternity is not immediately legally established he still has rights. But that aside, why wouldn't/shouldn't he have custody? I'm not following your logic on this one, babe.

I think it is great that this young man is willing to take on the responsibility of his child. He will be giving up his friends, his free time, any and all after school activities if he has any, etc. Surely he will be getting a job after school and on weekends to help support his child. That means that the time he is not in school or working that he will be with his child. Not to mention the loss of sleep when he has the child, then going to work and school and turning around and doing the same thing all over again, day after day after day. And if the Mom's family moves, that will be added travel time and expense, depending on what court ordered visitation says. I don't see the Mom allowing visitation without court orders. I'm sure that this father knows that the Mom's parents will still be able to tell her what she can and can't do. But, when it comes to his child, that will be up to Mom and of course whatever the court says.

Unless either (1) both you and the mother execute an acknowledgment of paternity for the child or (2) a court enters an order that you are the legal father of the child you will have no rights to the child whatsoever. I expect that given the parents’ hostile attitudes towards you (not unexpected given that you got their 14 year-old daughter pregnant) I would expect that they will keep you away from the hospital when the child is born and kept away from the mother after that, which they have the right to do, so you may not get a chance to execute that acknowledgement of paternity. If you don’t get to do that, then your only option will be to sue in court to get an order of paternity and then move for custody or visitation. That, of course, costs money to do. It is extremely likely that the best you will get is joint custody with the child, and if the mother and child are living 4 hours away that will make joint custody difficult. You wont be able to do anything, though, until after the child is born.

Assuming, however, that you either do execute the acknowledgement of paternity with the mother or get the court order making you the legal father of the child then you are not only have the right to seek custody and visitation but will have the obligation to pay child support. At age 15, that obligation of support will be quite a burden. If you don’t have a job now you’d better start looking for one.

While the mother may not be able to keep the child away from the father, the girls mother and father can keep the father away from their daughter unless a court order says otherwise. In doing that it will effectively keep the boy away from the child until he has a court order in hand setting something up.

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My question involves juvenile law in the State of: oklahoma
Hi, I'm a 15 year old boy and I have a pregnant girl friend who is 14. I wouldn't be on here if I wasn't desperate. Her mother won't allow me to see her and she says when the baby is born she is moving 4 hours away. I live in Oklahoma and I'm terrified there will be nothing I can do to see our baby. Can I as the father file for custody of the baby before she moves?

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I am an OKIE and am appalled by the teen pregnancy rate of even kids from middle class, two parent homes. There is no shame associated with being an unwed parent.

OP, the BEST thing for this baby is for you, your girl friend and all of the parents consider adoption. You and your GF are children yourselves and are unprepared to raiise a child. You may be able to parent an infant and toddler but consider what you will do in your 20s with a teenager.