Can You Stop Your Ex from Exposing Your Child to His Girlfriend and Her Family
My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Kentucky
My daughter is 3 years old. Her father has not been in her life since she was 6 months old. My daughter has been seeing an occupational therapist because she has some social issues. The father and I cannot see eye-to-eye on anything at the moment when we separated I found out he'd lied to me for 5 years and that he was married and had four children with a woman in Guatemala. So my daughter was number 5. He now lives with a mexican woman he had a child with in total in that house 5 children and 2 adults living in a two-bedroom apartment. This could affect my daughter emotionally mentally and possibly traumatize her to be in such a confined area with a lot of strangers.
Now his new girlfriend and I do not get along before he had told her that my daughter was not his no ands ifs or buts about it and she looked me in the face and told me that if my daughter ever came to her house to stay that she would be the true Cinderella in other words the way I took it is my daughter would get punished a lot and injured so my first question is do I have a say if he can have my daughter around her since they are not legally married nor can they legally get married. II can I asked for visitation to be supervised not only for that but out of anger he has stated that he could take off with my daughter and take her to any Hispanic country I would never know where to look for her.
Also I want to explain to the judge that her father not only has children by American has children in Guatemala but also now has a child with a Mexican woman so he now has children from three different countries that we'll never see each other and that he will not be able to be in their life for very long if he plans on going back to his wife or if his new woman plans on going back to Mexico I know he's not planning on staying here will that make a difference in visitation because it was only be emotionally traumatising her with an outcome that he's just going to up and leave to another country and she would go through all this process for nothing
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Do you have any proof that he's threatened to abscond with her? Or that your daughter might be in danger? Do you have a court order at all yet?
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No proof he said it to me and nothing has been done yet he's used different names so it was hard to get him served with child support papers but now he's angry because it may mess up his new family pretty much
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No proof he said it to me and nothing has been done yet he's used different names so it was hard to get him served with child support papers but now he's angry because it may mess up his new family pretty much
Well, unless there's a court order you're under no obligation to allow visitation. Once he does get a court order though, you cannot control who he has around his child, just as he can't control who you have around your child.
So far I see no reason why the court will order anything other than the typical visitation schedule. If you have proof that your mutual child may be at risk, that's a different matter.
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His new gf doesn't like me and wishes my child would just disappear . they live in a 2 bedroom apartment with 5 other kids 17 boy, 13, boy,11,boy 9girl and infant under age one is a girl. They'd have no room for Evan a visit
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Well, unless there's a court order you're under no obligation to allow visitation. Once he does get a court order though, you cannot control who he has around his child, just as he can't control who you have around your child.
So far I see no reason why the court will order anything other than the typical visitation schedule. If you have proof that your mutual child may be at risk, that's a different matter.
his new gf doesn't like me and wishes my child would just disappear . they live in a 2 bedroom apartment with 5 other kids 17 boy, 13, boy,11,boy 9girl and infant under age one is a girl. They'd have no room for Evan a visit
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His new gf doesn't like me and wishes my child would just disappear . they live in a 2 bedroom apartment with 5 other kids 17 boy, 13, boy,11,boy 9girl and infant under age one is a girl. They'd have no room for Evan a visit
his new gf doesn't like me and wishes my child would just disappear . they live in a 2 bedroom apartment with 5 other kids 17 boy, 13, boy,11,boy 9girl and infant under age one is a girl. They'd have no room for Evan a visit
His new girlfriend is not your problem. She's allowed to hate you. And Evan will be able to visit as long as Dad's living situation is legal according to local ordinance (NOT FAMILY COURT).
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I hope you're getting counseling because your anger and the problens that you had and currently have with her father is affecting your child. I'm not saying your emotions aren't normal for someone in your situation. I'm just saying that you need to find a way to not express them to or around you child. You probably don't realize you're doing it most of the time.
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Trough dcbs/child services legally he has to have enough bedrooms for children of the opposite sex that are above the age of four to have their own room boys in on girls in another then adults room. Children under the age of four are allowed to share a room with the opposite sex of a sibling. I looked in to it and thought I'd share the info and I'm going to try and terminate his rights been told I have a good chance since there's proof he's leaving the country to live in another year it would do un nessicary emotional damage to a toddler
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Trough dcbs/child services legally he has to have enough bedrooms for children of the opposite sex that are above the age of four to have their own room boys in on girls in another then adults room. Children under the age of four are allowed to share a room with the opposite sex of a sibling. I looked in to it and thought I'd share the info and I'm going to try and terminate his rights been told I have a good chance since there's proof he's leaving the country to live in another year it would do un nessicary emotional damage to a toddler
That's great, except for that whole thing about you being wrong.
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Trough dcbs/child services legally he has to have enough bedrooms for children of the opposite sex that are above the age of four to have their own room boys in on girls in another then adults room. Children under the age of four are allowed to share a room with the opposite sex of a sibling. I looked in to it and thought I'd share the info and I'm going to try and terminate his rights been told I have a good chance since there's proof he's leaving the country to live in another year it would do un nessicary emotional damage to a toddler
This does not apply to this situation. If anyone told you that i does, they were wrong. How may attorneys have told you that you have a good chance of terminating his parental rights ?
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I am a single mother. If your child's father is not paying child support or helping at any way I do not have to let him see her at all. If he is paying child support u have to let him see her. Records all conversations with him and his woman. Make sure you tell them that they are being recorded. Tell the judge what is going on and you think it best for the visits to be suppervised. be true in every thing you say. Do not talk bad about your dauthers father. Do not do any thing he could hold against you. Remember you are in charge. Do not let them pull you in to any thing.
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I may have missed it, but is there a court order already in place? If so, I believe you are incorrect Bhewkin. If there is a court order that the father is to have visitation, then she will have to go along with the court order regardless of whether he pays child support or is helping out. Visitation and child support are completely unrelated when it comes to court orders. If there is no court order in place, then she doesn't have to allow visitation. I am also a single mother.
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I am a single mother. If your child's father is not paying child support or helping at any way I do not have to let him see her at all. If he is paying child support u have to let him see her. Records all conversations with him and his woman. Make sure you tell them that they are being recorded. Tell the judge what is going on and you think it best for the visits to be suppervised. be true in every thing you say. Do not talk bad about your dauthers father. Do not do any thing he could hold against you. Remember you are in charge. Do not let them pull you in to any thing.
You are wrong. Child support and visitation are separate issues. Child support is not an admission fee for the NCP to parent their child. :cower:
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I am a single mother. If your child's father is not paying child support or helping at any way I do not have to let him see her at all. If he is paying child support u have to let him see her. Records all conversations with him and his woman. Make sure you tell them that they are being recorded. Tell the judge what is going on and you think it best for the visits to be suppervised. be true in every thing you say. Do not talk bad about your dauthers father. Do not do any thing he could hold against you. Remember you are in charge. Do not let them pull you in to any thing.
You are not correct. Child support is NOT an admission fee to see a child. And even if he is not paying, he may still be able to see the child depending on the situation.
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Bhewkin
I am a single mother. If your child's father is not paying child support or helping at any way I do not have to let him see her at all. If he is paying child support u have to let him see her. Records all conversations with him and his woman. Make sure you tell them that they are being recorded. Tell the judge what is going on and you think it best for the visits to be suppervised. be true in every thing you say. Do not talk bad about your dauthers father. Do not do any thing he could hold against you. Remember you are in charge. Do not let them pull you in to any thing.
She's not in charge.
I'm sure many exes are delighted and happy to have their ex record personal conversations with a third party.
Stop it. Really.