Can the Mother of My Child Leave the State Without Notifying Me

I know felons that obtained employment. In fact, there are several companies in my area that tend to hire people with criminal records quite regularly. I suspect their parole officers or whatever have some employers they know are willing to hire them. Once you get into your program, if you have not obtained employment, ask your probation officer if they can help you with employers willing to hire you. While having a record is a hindrance, it does not usually prevent you from obtaining any employment.

as to the no-contact order; again, although without checking, while she can ask for anything, if it is imposed by the state, they have no obligation to honor her request. In most situations, even when asked, they will not lift it in almost every situation I am aware of in my area.

you do need to stick with filing of the child custody, paternity, whatever stuff though. As you have stated, if you let it go too long it can make things very difficult for you.

Walmart hires felons, so they'll definitely hire someone with a misdemeanor DV case on their record

Thanks CourtClerk, JK.

Good to know Walmart hires. We have one here, and I'd like to work there. It is about a 30-45 drive from my home, which could be difficult with my vehicle situation. However, it may come down to being better than no job at all.

Thankfully, and not, I have been self-employed for many years. Bad part is my business has been struggling , and I actually had money to be used to give it a boost. Now, that money and more is being burned up in this case. So, while I didn't lose a high paying job, as I hear can easily happen in a case like this, I'm still left with a real mountain to climb.

I just wish there was some way to plead my side of this case without having to go to a jury trial. According to my criminal attorney, there basically is not. I made a big mistake in getting into any fights with her, but I made an even bigger mistake when I talked to the cop and needlessly incriminated myself by saying things that weren't even entirely true.

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I just wish there was some way to plead my side of this case without having to go to a jury trial. According to my criminal attorney, there basically is not. I made a big mistake in getting into any fights with her, but I made an even bigger mistake when I talked to the cop and needlessly incriminated myself by saying things that weren't even entirely true.

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if you are given a pre-trial diversion, there will be no jury trial. I understand your issues with that but honestly, the cards are stacked against you so sometimes it's better to cut an run than to be run over, even if it leaves a sour taste in your mouth.

jk,

thanks again.

i'd like to ask your thoughts on this "presumption" of domestic violence when it comes to any upcoming custody disputes.

The way I understand it is, if she continues to try to hurt me, she will use this charge and police report as often and as long as possible. That means, she can put the police report, with all it's false accusations from her, and messed up storyline from me, and use that against me in custody. I understand that completion of DPA, and dismissal of charges can help remove the "presumption". However, in Florida, the judge can and I guess will consider all evidence of any "domestic violence".

Put simply, if I'm going to need Johnny Cochran to ever get unsupervised visits, and my son back in my (his) home, I'm in for a world of hurt that may never end. He's not alive anymore, and I couldn't begin to afford him if he were.

Will all due respect ...

For the love of all that is Holy, STOP this "from what I've heard/read/whatever" crap. STOP. THAT. NOW.

You are doing yourself NO favors and you're really heading way, way down the path to nobody wanting to respond to you at all.

You're not going to get residential custody. Accept that now. But you WILL get visitation with him. Mom CANNOT keep calling to report that you're breaking an NCO without having proof that you're doing so.

Come on dude, throw us a bone here y'know?

I know I won't get residential custody for quite awhile. Maybe up to a year or longer. I'm wanting to know if I could get residential custody sometime in the future.

anything is possible. Even the improbable is possible although unlikely.


You are getting ahead of yourself. There is nothing you can do right now to affect the future in that way other than taking care of your legal issues so they are behind you.

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I know I won't get residential custody for quite awhile. Maybe up to a year or longer. I'm wanting to know if I could get residential custody sometime in the future.

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Here's how it works. During an initial custody determination, you and Mom stand on equal ground (on principle, anyway). Once custody has been decided, you're no longer equal - in order for you to change custody you need to prove there has been a significant change of circumstances AND that the change warrants a custody modification. This is not easy.

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I know I won't get residential custody for quite awhile.

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How about until she's declared an unfit parent....

get off of that. You'll be lucky to get unsupervised visitation. Riddle me this. While you were off abusing her, where was the baby?