Re: My Gf's Son Hates Me, Can I Be Forced to Move Out for This
Yep. Can't argue with that!
Re: My Gf's Son Hates Me, Can I Be Forced to Move Out for This
Quote: "Something else for you to think about is if you and Mom aren't committed enough to your relationship to get married, you might want to think about moving out."
Bingo. "My fiancé" is something I've heard lately till I'm really sick of it. People who are just living together are not married, regardless of what they call each other or how they describe their relationship. Religious people used to call it living in sin, and uncommitted/unwed cohabitation was considered as serious a moral failing as giving a child e-cigarettes, I assure you.
You cannot, from the vantage point not of mom's husband, (seriously committed to a relationship with mom where family counseling might be a good alternative) but only as mom's boyfriend, (relationship subject to change on a whim by either of you) be or do much of anything in this young man's life. He doesn't want you to be there, he sees you only as a rival for his mom's attention, somebody she is taking advice from about how she should handle him that he doesn't like, and believe me, if he possibly can, he will get rid of you, whatever he has to say.
Either back way out of this one, or be prepared to commit and be there FOR HER for the long haul. Your post is full of what "we" have done to try to control this child's misbehavior. But really, legally, you have absolutely no stake in the situation with this young man at present.
Re: My Gf's Son Hates Me, Can I Be Forced to Move Out for This
It doesn't matter how accepting society and others appear to be when two people are living together or how long they have been together, there is no commitment. When two people are married, they have certain responsibilities that they don't have if they aren't married. Marriage gives respect to the relationship that is not there without it.
The boy isn't going to accept you and you need to realize that and deal with it. Maybe when he is older and has matured he may accept you as his friend, on the other hand he may not. You marrying Mom won't make him accept you or not accept you. But, you and Mom marrying will give your relationship the respectability that it lacks now.