Rights of a New 18-Year-Old Father

hello i am going threw a hard time with my exgirlfreind she had my 5 week old littlie girl and she will not let me see her but 1 hr a week she is not brest feeding and she is takeing my baby to her boy freind's and letting his mom take care of her why she runs around in a car with her boy freind and my mom has bean really good at helping with what she needs even though she dont want what we bye her she dont want me to be the father nor in her life i was robed of seeing her born and never got to see her untell she was 3 weeks old what do i do thank you new dad

I'm not an expert,but first you need to try to establish a paternity test. If you know the child is indeed yours,then you need to file for some sort of visitation with your child through the juvenile court.If your mom is helping and you want custody and you can prove the mother to be unfit,you need to seek an attorney.What state do you live in?

Yes I agree the sooner the better! As the Father you have rights but be prepared for both the court and the Mother to want child support. Find a Family Law Attorney and discuss your options ASAP!

hi yes we have had a test dun and i am the father it was 99.9999999
but the mother said i could only see my baby 1hr a week and that is al and we have to sit in her liveing room to do that she dus not want me in my baby's life

Like you have been told find a Family Law Attorney and get to court you have rights as the Father and she is violating them!

ok the mom is almost 17 her mom was letting us come and see her a lot and wean my mom asked to take her to my baby shower she toped letting us come over like we wear
can she do that?

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Is she reporting the monies you pay her to welfare? If not she is committing fraud! Her welfare check is based on her inome (if any) and her properties (car etc) If she fails to report and monies or property she has committed fraud

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hi i am going threw the same thing but i have a 5 week old and the mom is 17 and on weil fair and liveing with her mom dad and she dos not want us to see her but she wants child support she lives in tn i no i need to pay but she has a boy freind that she dont want to loos so she leves wean we come over my son has tryed talking to her but she slams the door in his face

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hi i am going threw the same thing but i have a 5 week old and the mom is 17 and on weil fair and liveing with her mom dad and she dos not want us to see her but she wants child support she lives in tn i no i need to pay but she has a boy freind that she dont want to loos so she leves wean we come over my son has tryed talking to her but she slams the door in his face

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Your post is hard to understand, but, in most states child support and visitation are completely separate. If your child's mother will not allow you to see the child AND you have a court order that gives you visitation rights, then you can take her to court for contempt. You will need to document the times that you attempted to see your child, based on the court order, and what happened (if you were allowed, if you were denied, etc).

You say that you have a 5 week old, but then you talk about your son trying to talk to your child's mother, which is confusing as well.

im sorry my mom helped me
i new the baby was mine before she was born but the mom did not want me in her life so she let the boy freind fameily to beleve it was his he even new it mose likely not his but he was hopeing it was his so they never told her mom she had slepd with more then one guy so the test came back mine and the baby mom hurt every one so i never got to see my baby tell she was 3 week old and wean i did we started bying what she need's i steped right up to do the right thing and she is keeping me from her
and she is know put it wear i could only see her 1 hr a week she is on weilfar and liveing with her mom dad and boy freind o man this is so cunfesing

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im sorry my mom helped me
i new the baby was mine before she was born but the mom did not want me in her life so she let the boy freind fameily to beleve it was his he even new it mose likely not his but he was hopeing it was his so they never told her mom she had slepd with more then one guy so the test came back mine and the baby mom hurt every one so i never got to see my baby tell she was 3 week old and wean i did we started bying what she need's i steped right up to do the right thing and she is keeping me from her
and she is know put it wear i could only see her 1 hr a week she is on weilfar and liveing with her mom dad and boy freind o man this is so cunfesing

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NewDad, I'd like to give you some advice. I'd like to you listen to it, and not be offended.
I don't know how old you are, but you are at least old enough to have a child. You will need to be able to make a decent income, so that you can help financially support this child. You will need to be able to communicate better. Your spelling is horrible. You haven't formed a complete sentence. You have written one long, mumbling thought, which is hard to read.

You need to get back into school, so that you can get a GOOD job, in order to have a decent income.

Advice on your situation:
It doesn't appear, from what you have written, that you have a child support OR visitation order. Please correct me if I misunderstood.
If you do NOT have a child support order, then do this. Instead of giving money to mom, open a savings account. Put the money that you would have given to mom, in that savings account. Don't touch it, or spend it. However, keep making regular deposits. Then, go to court to ask for visitation and a set child support amount. Good luck.