How to Get Money Back From a Girl I Met Online

My question involves criminal law for the state of: NJ

I was contacted by a girl on plentyoffish.com. I usually google a person's name before meeting up with them but I decided to meet up with her. She was normal then crazy, normal, and now a down right sociopath.

I knew her since April. It was kind of normal then straight down hill.

She already owes me money but it appears to be a scam. I thought about breaking up with her but if I do how would she pay me back? So, I offered to help her find a job and everything. Instead she ends up owing me more money. I wanted to talk and reason with her because I didn't want to make this a legal matter.

Yesterday she was screaming like a lunatic. She tells me she needs more money and I tell her I'm fed up with this nonsense. Turns out she had a fine and waited till I was there in person to tell me about it. I told her I'll think about and I had no idea, how do I get this crazy girl out of my car?

So, she does something that I couldn't believe and still don't. As I was driving on the highway she physically lunges at me. I couldn't see the road and I begain swerving between two lanes. She's searching the breast pocket of my jacket to take my wallet. I grab her hand and the car continues to swerve. I put my hand back at the wheel to avoid an accident. I almost hit someone. She takes all the money I had and threw the wallet back at me. Shoves the money in her bra and calls me a jerk.

This happens right before this exit and I ended up at some random street corner. She gives the money to this shady guy who drives off. And now? She's acting full blown crazy. I have to get out of here but this is my car and all her stuff is in here what do I do? What do I do? I do not want anything to do with this pyscho. Then she tells me she is gonna finally introduce me to her friend. I don't know who he is but I don't want to know this person. I think she is gonna do something worse to me.

So, I ditched her. She deserves worse. I go straight to the police I'm not dealing with this girl. They tell me due to juristiction I had to go to NJ State Police. And well.... They aren't helpful at all. But they did have a point. They all think she's scamming me. My phone rang and one of the officers answers. She's on the line and tells the police that I already agreed to loan the money and that she is paying me back next week.

Thank is a lie. Everything she said is a lie. I tell the cop how she lunge at me for my wallet. Instead they told me to file small claims and ask if I was drinking. :wallbang::wallbang: The cops said because I know her and offered her money serveal times that this is a civil matter. So unreal. :wallbang::wallbang:

Now she's making fun of me via text calling me a lowlife. claims she never took my wallet. I recorded our conversation to prove she took it.

So, my question, how come this isn't enough to make this a criminal matter?

Honestly? Because it doesn't rise to the level where the DA wants to get involved. You don't have proof of any sort of physical altercation, so there isn't a whole lot they can actually do.

I have an audio recording? Shouldn't that be enough?
"That's my wallet what are you doing I can't see the road"
"I need that money I am not going back to jail again. You can have your stupid wallet after I get the money I need it!!! I NEED IT!!!!!!!"
"You are going to make us crash!!!!"
Continue swerving.

Here's my advice:

1 - Kiss your money goodbye and forget about it. You'll never see a nickel of it. Trust me on that.
2 - Block her calls.
3 - Block her texts.
4 - Block her emails.
5 - NEVER have anything to do with her again.

Do ANYTHING except 1 through 5 and you'll be a bigger idiot than you've already been.

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Quoting adjusterjack

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Here's my advice:

1 - Kiss your money goodbye and forget about it. You'll never see a nickel of it. Trust me on that.
2 - Block her calls.
3 - Block her texts.
4 - Block her emails.
5 - NEVER have anything to do with her again.

Do ANYTHING except 1 through 5 and you'll be a bigger idiot than you've already been.

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EXCELLENT advice.

OP - print this out. Tape it to your forehead, fridge, bathroom mirror. Do it.

She's the one that lied and cheat and took from me. She's in the wrong. True I never should of been with her to begin with. I'm ignoring her text and I doubt she would call. I've already blocked her and I'm sure she done the same.

I'm not going to see her again unless it is in court. But she does have a real job coming up. What's wrong suing and collecting what is owed? I didn't ask for her to take from me.

But.... I guess I just have to accept things.

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Quoting farinas12

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She's the one that lied and cheat and took from me. She's in the wrong. True I never should of been with her to begin with. I'm ignoring her text and I doubt she would call. I've already blocked her and I'm sure she done the same.

I'm not going to see her again unless it is in court. But she does have a real job coming up. What's wrong suing and collecting what is owed? I didn't ask for her to take from me.

But.... I guess I just have to accept things.

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Do what you want.

Just don't come back whining when you find yourself being harassed even moreso after you find out that you can't find her to have her wages garnished to add insult to injury.

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Quoting farinas12

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What's wrong suing and collecting what is owed?

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Here's what's wrong with that:

SHE STAYS IN YOUR LIFE FOR MANY, MANY MONTHS TO COME.

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Quoting farinas12

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But.... I guess I just have to accept things.

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Yes, the wisdom of accepting things you cannot change. Exactly right.

I was thinking of changing my number. I have the contact information and address of some of her family members. She gave me her mother number and I spoke to her once. I was under the impression that all I have to do was contact a collection agency if I win a judgement.

But.... I guess it is a long shot still. OMG I don't want her in my life at all anymore. She lives far from me anyway. She'll never physically visit me.

Alright, I have all my answers.

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Quoting adjusterjack

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Here's my advice:

1 - Kiss your money goodbye and forget about it. You'll never see a nickel of it. Trust me on that.
2 - Block her calls.
3 - Block her texts.
4 - Block her emails.
5 - NEVER have anything to do with her again.

Do ANYTHING except 1 through 5 and you'll be a bigger idiot than you've already been.

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I do not always agree with AJ but this time he is spot on. This is the only advice you need.

Okay. But I can't believe she would grab my wallet like that. I try and reason with her and that happens. Don't worry I'm not visiting her again. I just can't get over how messed up this is.

So, let's see:

you were driving down the highway. She lunges at you. You battle her off while doing everything you can to avoid wrecking the car yet somewhere in all of this you has time to access whatever device needed and started recording her. All I can say is WOW!!!!! You must have mad driving skills.

Then when you pull off the exit, by chance there is some guy in a car setting right there at this random street corner. I mean, of all places for her friend to be setting is right there at that particular exit ramp. The guy must be psychic or something. What are the chances? I sure hope he bought some powerball tickets for tonight's drawing. It's nearly a billion dollars. With psychic abilities like he has he's sure to pick the winning combo.

You guys need to make your bs stories a bit more believable. You left too many MAJOR clues this was all bullshit.

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Quoting farinas12

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I was thinking of changing my number.

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Good idea.

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Quoting farinas12

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I have the contact information and address of some of her family members. She gave me her mother number and I spoke to her once. OMG I don't want her in my life at all anymore.

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Then lose all those numbers and forget you ever met her.

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Quoting farinas12

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Okay. But I can't believe she would grab my wallet like that. I try and reason with her and that happens. Don't worry I'm not visiting her again. I just can't get over how messed up this is.

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I can pretty much guarantee that she's a druggie and her head is so messed up that she'll do bizarre things when she's jonesing.

You're just lucky her friend didn't pull a gun on you and blow you away for the contents of your wallet.

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Quoting jk

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So, let's see:

you were driving down the highway. She lunges at you. You battle her off while doing everything you can to avoid wrecking the car yet somewhere in all of this you has time to access whatever device needed and started recording her. All I can say is WOW!!!!! You must have mad driving skills.

Then when you pull off the exit, by chance there is some guy in a car setting right there at this random street corner. I mean, of all places for her friend to be setting is right there at that particular exit ramp. The guy must be psychic or something. What are the chances? I sure hope he bought some powerball tickets for tonight's drawing. It's nearly a billion dollars. With psychic abilities like he has he's sure to pick the winning combo.

You guys need to make your bs stories a bit more believable. You left too many MAJOR clues this was all bullshit.

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Ditto this ^^^^

Yet another example of why someone should NEVER initiate a "relationship" online - especially from a hookup site! That is, assuming the tale has a kernel of truth. To me this sounds like a civil arrangement (drugs or money for sex) gone bad.

Best bet? Leave this one go, cancel your kettleoffish account, learn how to meet people your own age in a normal way, and actually get to know them before you start picking them up and taking them places. (This is part of an archaic concept called "dating" ... I am sure it still exists in some primitive cultures.)

She said she wants to go to the movies i said fine just program the address and it turns out to be this where her friend was waiting for us. As for recording i have a dashcan with an internal mike.

I know noone would believe me fully. Its just a really bizarre experience.

She tells me she needa more xash im driving hoping to ditch her or something. Im going to where i thought was the movies but was where her friebd was waiting. I dont know what else to say. I went to reason with her and this happena.

Its hard for me to forget it since she left me a bunch of text taunting me.

That's what the Delete icon is for.

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Quoting adjusterjack

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Here's my advice:

1 - Kiss your money goodbye and forget about it. You'll never see a nickel of it. Trust me on that.
2 - Block her calls.
3 - Block her texts.
4 - Block her emails.
5 - NEVER have anything to do with her again.

Do ANYTHING except 1 through 5 and you'll be a bigger idiot than you've already been.

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And broker then he already is.

so we're at take two where you toss in a backstory to support the previously obvious bs statements.

Sorry, too late.

So riddle me this batman;

Yesterday she was screaming like a lunatic. She tells me she needs more money and I tell her I'm fed up with this nonsense. Turns out she had a fine and waited till I was there in person to tell me about it. I told her I'll think about and I had no idea, how do I get this crazy girl out of my car?

so she's screaming at you yet you go to wherever she is. Then she tells you about some fine she owes and is screaming. The next thing you ponder is: how do I get her out of my car.

When did she get in to your car? And if she was screaming why did you let her get into your car?

and still you are going to the movie with this banshee in the other seat.

I just realized who this woman is. She's your wife, isn't she? The screaming. The taking of your money and the cops refuse to do anything. She is in complete control of where you go.

Yep, that's your wife you're talking about.

Folks, this is yet another troll alert. Don't you see the pattern over the last month?

Ridiculous circumstances that only a moron would be in.
Doesn't take any advise.
Continues to restate the same facts over and over.

We are being played.

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Quoting budwad

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We are being played.

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or are we.

Sometimes my personal recreation is playing with toys...toys many would refer to as trolls.

There has been pattern of posts where the OP posts a legitimate question and then before you know it, they are telling us the law. I see it if you don't.

Playing with trolls is your purgative but it is a waist of time and bandwidth.

Well, it's my time so how I choose to use my time is my choice

but suggesting I don't see it? You might review my posts. Often times my very first post is made realizing it's a troll in the threads you are speaking of.

In in others it does allow some valid information to be published so continuing to play does provide an overall benefit.


as to bandwidth; I pay for mine. Aaron pays for the site's. He (or his representatives) is welcome to shut down either me or any particular thread at any time

Well if that is the way you fell about the website. I thought we were here to answer question and advise people that didn't have any knowledge about a direction to take about their situation. My mistake. Playing with trolls is a bit self-serving, isn't it?