The fact that she's breastfed will surely be taken into account, right? She is not very good with a bottle and there are many reasons that separating a baby from her nursing mother is detrimental to the milk supply.
How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody Rights
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01-03-2016, 05:47 AMKmc007Re: How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody Rights
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01-03-2016, 06:33 AMBooRennieRe: How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody Rights
No. You can pump and freeze.
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01-03-2016, 06:58 AMllworkingRe: How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody RightsWhile I agree with the previous response, its unlikely to be an issue. By the time dad files, gets a court date and actually gets a visitation order, and then goes through the supervised visitation portion, its likely you will be finished with breast feeding.Quote:
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01-03-2016, 04:21 PMKmc007Re: How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody Rights
Does anyone know the answers to my other questions? Particularly involving the text messages? Will I be able to use those in court to prove that he is not mentally stable and not thinking in the best interest of the child but instead is trying to hurt me?
Also, the court date is in two weeks. I already filed for full custody and I'm guessing he is going to try and say I'm not fit. I have many people on my side to say otherwise including DCF. They never opened a case against me but did investigate.
Thanks so much for all of your help! I hope I'm not being annoying with my somewhat repetitive questions. This little girl is the reason I breathe and I really don't want anything to happen to her. -
01-03-2016, 04:32 PMDogmatiqueRe: How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody RightsYour text messages are really nothing but two parents snapping back and forth at each other. They're really not going to show anything to the judge since in family court it's almost expected that the parents will embellish and downplay when it suits them.Quote:
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01-04-2016, 02:57 PMKmc007Re: How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody Rights
Thanks for the info.
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I'm not sure if I should have started a new thread, if so, let me know and I will. I figured it might be good to have it all in one place.
So, our court date is in less than two weeks. C's lawyer called me this morning and said she wanted to get this all done in "one fell swoop", leading me to believe he wasn't going to move forward in trying to get custody. She said she was going to ask the judge if it was ok if he doesn't appear, since he is in Florida.
Since he got a lawyer, I thought it might be a good idea to get one myself. So I called her back and said I was retaining a lawyer; her tune changed immediately. She said, "we ARE actually going to keep the court date so we can discuss the custody matter. I'm under the impression you are a drug addict and DCF is involved, is that correct?" I didn't feel comfortable answering any questions without a lawyer, so the only thing I said was that DCF has 0 involvement. (They actually investigated but never opened a case and is on my side, which is awesome)
My question now is, how can I make this go as smooth as possible for myself, but mainly for my daughter? I have consultations with lawyers lined up this week to get prices. I want my daughter to have her father in her life. I want them to have a good relationship but I don't want him to manipulate her to hurt me. She is almost 4 months old and he still has never met her. Even after I gave him many opportunities to do so.
When I was pregnant, he said if I had the baby, he would tell her I was on drugs when she was born (I wasn't) and mommy is a whore (I'm not). I don't want my daughter to think I had no regard for her while I was pregnant.
I would never say anything bad about him to her and the fact that he wants to make her believe I'm a junkie prostitute makes me believe that he does not have her best interest in mind. How can I make sure my daughters best interest stays the focal point of this case? How can I allow this man in my daughters life but at the same time make sure she is safe?
Thanks so much for reading all of this and trying to help me. I really appreciate it. If you need any more info, let me know. If this should be a new thread, let me know and I will copy and paste this into a new thread. -
01-04-2016, 04:14 PMMr. KnowitallRe: How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody RightsThe child's best interest is the focus of any custody case.Quote:
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As you are about to retain a lawyer, that's a discussion to have with your lawyer. There's a good chance that you'll be uncomfortable with the outcome of the case, as dad will ultimately have access to his child.Quote:
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01-04-2016, 04:55 PMKmc007Re: How Can I Prevent My Ex- From Getting Custody Rights
Like I said, his intentions are to hurt me. He flat out admitted it.
Again, like I said, I do NOT want to deny access to his child. I'm not sure why the title of the thread is what it is, but I have stated that I would like him to be involved in her life. He just chooses not to be.
All I want is for my child to be healthy and happy and all he wants is to "make [my] life hell". It just sucks if I won't be able to protect my child from his emotional abuse.
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I just re-read Dogmatiques reply and I feel a lot better about where we stand. I have been up all night for days worrying about this (while my infant sleeps peacefully). I hate that this man is controlling my emotions from 2000 miles away...
Would it be in my best interest to start getting a paper signed every time I go to an AA meeting? I go quite frequently. I also attend a Mother's parenting group every week and go to weekly counseling. Every single day I do something to aid in my recovery. None of this is mandated by DSS or anybody.
It has been a long process but I have never felt stronger. Even through all of this, I have no desire to pick up again. I was shocked when I realized this.. Ha now I'm ranting. I really appreciate this forum and the members who take the time to respond.