Harassment by a Minor

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Quoting cdwjava

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Depending on the laws of the unnamed state there MAY be a case for some form of harassment (via phone, text, or email), but this is likely a low grade misdemeanor and unlikely to be pursued all that aggressively. About the best the OP may expect is that the girl will stop the calling.

But, as has been mentioned, when one is the "other woman" there are certain inconveniences that go along with that status.

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I am not sure that its all that "low grade" since the child has been calling the person's employer. Social media harassment is one thing...taking that harassment to the person's employer is another. I also have some concerns about calling the OP's mother the "other woman" when she didn't even meet him until after he was separated. Yes, of course one needs to expect some drama when dating someone who is separated, but this level of drama is more than a bit over the top.

Would I date someone who was merely separated? Highly unlikely because I would expect drama and would not want to deal with it. If I did I would insist on discretion so that it would not send children into a tailspin. Nevertheless, the OP's mother is really a victim of her boyfriend's eventual divorce.

If the boyfriend has had no contact with his wife or daughter, how does the daughter know anything about your mother ? Or did they have contact until the daughter started doing all this stuff ? If the boyfriend told one or both of them about seeing your mother, this is what he gets for telling them things they shouldn't have been told. It might also make one wonder why the boyfriend brought it up at all. . maybe he is trying to make his wife jealous or get back at her.

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Quoting llworking

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I am not sure that its all that "low grade" since the child has been calling the person's employer.

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I suppose it depends on the state. Here, THAT victim would be the employer ... if they chose to be. Harassment in CA is most often a civil issue and not a criminal one - the same is true in a number of states. Making harassing phone calls and texts can be a misdemeanor offense, but these are not often followed up on and usually resolved by an admonition to knock it off. Why? because PROVING that the call or communication came from a particular person can be difficult absent an admission, and, most prosecutors' offices (at least in my state) have other crimes to pursue rather than one that holds a potential max. of 6 months and maybe a $1,000 fine.

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Social media harassment is one thing...taking that harassment to the person's employer is another.

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And may not even BE a crime. Here it generally wouldn't be. Without knowing the OP's state, all we can speak in is generalities.

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I also have some concerns about calling the OP's mother the "other woman" when she didn't even meet him until after he was separated. Yes, of course one needs to expect some drama when dating someone who is separated, but this level of drama is more than a bit over the top.

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A child of a broken home is likely to view the new paramour as an intruder no matter when they met. maybe the child doesn't believe they met afterwards, or, they hold the new woman responsible for keeping mom and dad apart. True or not, it is the perception of the child, and in all honesty, we don't know if the new girlfriend is behaving in a manner that demeans mom or if she is staying neutral and out of the way. SOMETHING set off the 16 year old and caused her to blame the new woman for whatever it is she blames her for. And any woman who gets involved with a man who is SEPARATED (not divorced) is going into a volatile situation with their eyes open.

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Would I date someone who was merely separated? Highly unlikely because I would expect drama and would not want to deal with it. If I did I would insist on discretion so that it would not send children into a tailspin. Nevertheless, the OP's mother is really a victim of her boyfriend's eventual divorce.

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I never said she was not a victim, but, this is not likely an issue that can be addressed by the heavy hand of government.

Texas.

His did have contact with his daughter until this behavior started. The mother found out through going into his email account and phone records.

My mother originally didn't want to continue the relationship with him when she was told he was married. She has strong feelings for him and is trying to deal with this the best she can. My mother is a very sweet, soft spoken woman. Not that it matters because she is the one being harassed.

He's still the kids father. I know when my kids became brats the last thing I ever thought about doing was abandoning them. That's when more parenting was needed

Sounds like this guy is a real winner (yes, sarcasm). He allows his current lady friend to be harassed by his own child and does nothing. He's ignoring his moral obligations to both your mom and his daughter.

Does it not bother you he does nothing to protect your mother?

Btw, my mother is not simply "hooking up" with this man. She is in love with him, and also celibate unless married, which she does not currently have plans to marry him.

I didn't come here for shitty opinions about someone you don't know. I came for opinions on the legal situation. You can leave your misplaced judgments at the door.

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Quoting llworking

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I am not sure that its all that "low grade" since the child has been calling the person's employer. Social media harassment is one thing...taking that harassment to the person's employer is another. I also have some concerns about calling the OP's mother the "other woman" when she didn't even meet him until after he was separated. Yes, of course one needs to expect some drama when dating someone who is separated, but this level of drama is more than a bit over the top.

Would I date someone who was merely separated? Highly unlikely because I would expect drama and would not want to deal with it. If I did I would insist on discretion so that it would not send children into a tailspin. Nevertheless, the OP's mother is really a victim of her boyfriend's eventual divorce.

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Whaaaaat? Mom is the victim of her own actions! She's an adult, making decisions. Make a poor decision, deal with what happens as a result.

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Quoting haleydt23

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Btw, my mother is not simply "hooking up" with this man. She is in love with him, and also celibate unless married, which she does not currently have plans to marry him.

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That's good, because she can't. He's still married to someone else.

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I didn't come here for shitty opinions about someone you don't know. I came for opinions on the legal situation. You can leave your misplaced judgments at the door.

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Given that it's not your legal business to begin with, you're quite the little charmer!

Like I said, not here to discuss how you feel about the people involved. If you cannot offer a legal opinion, you're not needed here. Thank you everyone who has actually offered advice.

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Quoting haleydt23

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Like I said, not here to discuss how you feel about the people involved. If you cannot offer a legal opinion, you're not needed here. Thank you everyone who has actually offered advice.

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Fine. The legal truth of the matter is;

its none of your business. Go play with your dollies like a little girl should be doing.

Why didn't he change his passwords ? If he told his daughter he was seeing someone else, we can add another count of poor judgement on his part. Chances are his wife has a large part to play in the way the daughter is reacting. haleydt23, how old are you ?