Harassment by a Minor

My mother is being harassed by her boyfriends 16 year old daughter. The mother refuses to stop the child, saying that because she's 16, she can't be controlled.

This child has posted slander about my mom publicly, sent several aggressive messages calling her horrible names, and has even called my mother's job (several times) telling them how bad of a person she is.

She (the minor) has done all these things because my mother is dating her father and he left his wife. While that is wrong, it's not illegal.

Does my mom have a chance at getting a "cease and desist" order or a restraining order placed on the minor?

Honestly?

I advise your Mom to grow up and accept the consequences of her actions. Those include her lover's daughter acting up. Why are you involved at all?

And what does Mom's boyfriend say about the action of his daughter ? Although he should have thought about the consequenses of his actions before he left his wife and child/children.

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Quoting haleydt23

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My mother is being harassed by her boyfriends 16 year old daughter. The mother refuses to stop the child, saying that because she's 16, she can't be controlled.

This child has posted slander about my mom publicly, sent several aggressive messages calling her horrible names, and has even called my mother's job (several times) telling them how bad of a person she is.

She (the minor) has done all these things because my mother is dating her father and he left his wife. While that is wrong, it's not illegal.

Does my mom have a chance at getting a "cease and desist" order or a restraining order placed on the minor?

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So your mother is a mistress and doesn't like the fall out from being involved in an adulterous relationship with a man who is married? I could think of several names that your mother may be called that are opinions. Why doesn't your mother's lovely boyfriend manage HIS daughter? Oh because he can't control her either. Apparently, there are consequences to being involved with a married man. Maybe your mother's boyfriend should grow up. He isn't much of a husband or a father. And what he does with your mother, he will do to her. Karma.

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Quoting haleydt23

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My mother is being harassed by her boyfriends 16 year old daughter.

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Then this is an issue your mother should address.

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Quoting haleydt23

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The mother refuses to stop the child, saying that because she's 16, she can't be controlled.

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And dad refuses to stop the child, because... why? If he thinks the 16-year-old is easily controlled, he's her parent as well.

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Quoting haleydt23

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This child has posted slander about my mom publicly....

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Without knowing what the child has posted, I can't comment on whether or not it is slanderous. Your mom can check the terms of service of the websites and may be able to have the offensive posts taken down.

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Quoting haleydt23

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...sent several aggressive messages calling her horrible names...

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That's not particularly surprising when you're dealing with an angry teenager, is it? Your mother can delete the messages and block further messages.

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...and has even called my mother's job (several times) telling them how bad of a person she is.

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With what happening as a consequence? Nothing?

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Quoting haleydt23

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She (the minor) has done all these things because my mother is dating her father and he left his wife. While that is wrong, it's not illegal.

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While not illegal, it's the sort of action that is going to make the children of the marriage angry, isn't it?

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Quoting haleydt23

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Does my mom have a chance at getting a "cease and desist" order or a restraining order placed on the minor?

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Your mother can consult a lawyer about the possibility, and the cost. You chose not to follow the instruction to identify your state, so nobody here can point you to specific state laws. However, it's very difficult to get a restraining order that prevents somebody from making statements in the future, and it's reasonable to say that the minor doesn't have any money, so mom's likely looking at spending many thousands of dollars for the possibility of getting an order that she will have to go back to court to enforce (at additional cost). Perhaps she should ask her boyfriend to talk to his daughter, or suggest that he propose some form of family counseling involving his daughter and perhaps his ex-.

The father was already separated from his wife when they met. Lol
He also doesn't have contact with his ex or his daughter because of the crazt stuff they have been doing.

I didn't realize this was just a place for people to judge. Thanks for everyone's "help". We have filed a police report and they say we have a case.

A case for...what?

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Quoting cbg

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A case for...what?

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I suspect that the police consider it to be harassment and are going to speak to the girl and her mother about it.

Now that we know that the OP's mother did not meet the girl's father until after he and his wife separated, it sheds a slightly different light on things. Hopefully the police will convince mom that she needs to rein in her daughter before the situation gets totally out of hand.

Depending on the laws of the unnamed state there MAY be a case for some form of harassment (via phone, text, or email), but this is likely a low grade misdemeanor and unlikely to be pursued all that aggressively. About the best the OP may expect is that the girl will stop the calling.

But, as has been mentioned, when one is the "other woman" there are certain inconveniences that go along with that status.

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Quoting haleydt23

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The father was already separated from his wife when they met. Lol
He also doesn't have contact with his ex or his daughter because of the crazt stuff they have been doing.

I didn't realize this was just a place for people to judge. Thanks for everyone's "help". We have filed a police report and they say we have a case.

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WE have filed a police report? Really?

I just love how dad is now ignoring his daughter so he can carry on with your mother. I like the claim; he doesn't have anything to do with them because of the crazy stuff they're doing.

Isnt that where a parent steps up and actually acts like a parent and deals with their child that is acting inappropriately? Good man your mom is hooking up with (yes; sarcasm)