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  • 12-04-2015, 04:18 PM
    snydley100
    How to Evict an Ex-Girlfriend
    My question involves a relationship in the state of:New York
    The place where we live is my house, I am the only one on the mortgage and all the bills are in my name. I have been here 14 years, she, 1 year.
    My "live in" girlfriend has become impossible to live with, she's very angry and argumentative, unappreciative and an ingrate. She fights with me all the time over the smallest things. Originally, she was gonna move in and split the bills with me, to date she has paid very little, but does pay for her food. She is on Social Services. Last month she brought forms to me from Social Services so that they would start paying her rent, I signed them, she returned them but I haven't received any money yet. At this point I don't want her or their money, I just want her out of here.
    Today she started arguing with me again, and I told her I had enough I want her out of here. She said she wasn't leaving and had 90 days, I told her it was 30. She has no lease with me, she's just a "live in" girlfriend, she has nowhere else to go, but I can't stand it anymore. She tried to provoke me during an argument today, got right in my face and said "why don't you hit me?" Of course I didn't, I know better.
    I have heart failure and am on Social Security disability. This stress is not good for me, beside being a situation that's, at the least, very uncomfortable!
    I'm assuming I have to have her legally evicted, because she won't leave willingly. How do I do this, where do I start? I don't have money for a lawyer, but am fairly "well schooled" and can do this with help from people like you.
    Thank You,
    Rick
  • 12-04-2015, 04:26 PM
    Dogmatique
    Re: How Do I Evict a Girlfriend in New York State
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    Quoting snydley100
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    My question involves a relationship in the state of:New York
    The place where we live is my house, I am the only one on the mortgage and all the bills are in my name. I have been here 14 years, she, 1 year.
    My "live in" girlfriend has become impossible to live with, she's very angry and argumentative, unappreciative and an ingrate. She fights with me all the time over the smallest things. Originally, she was gonna move in and split the bills with me, to date she has paid very little, but does pay for her food. She is on Social Services. Last month she brought forms to me from Social Services so that they would start paying her rent, I signed them, she returned them but I haven't received any money yet. At this point I don't want her or their money, I just want her out of here.
    Today she started arguing with me again, and I told her I had enough I want her out of here. She said she wasn't leaving and had 90 days, I told her it was 30. She has no lease with me, she's just a "live in" girlfriend, she has nowhere else to go, but I can't stand it anymore. She tried to provoke me during an argument today, got right in my face and said "why don't you hit me?" Of course I didn't, I know better.
    I have heart failure and am on Social Security disability. This stress is not good for me, beside being a situation that's, at the least, very uncomfortable!
    I'm assuming I have to have her legally evicted, because she won't leave willingly. How do I do this, where do I start? I don't have money for a lawyer, but am fairly "well schooled" and can do this with help from people like you.
    Thank You,
    Rick

    Rick,

    Here you go: http://www.nycourts.gov/CourtHelp/Homes/index.shtml

    You're welcome!
  • 12-08-2015, 12:23 PM
    snydley100
    Re: How Do I Evict a Girlfriend in New York State
    Update:
    I think my girlfriend has decided that she doesn't want to live anywhere she's not wanted, and has decided to move out of my home and into a homeless shelter for the time being,(though I'll believe it when I see it).
    Because she is voluntarily moving, do I still have to give her notice and evict her? I told her she can leave her stuff here until she gets a permanent place to live if she needs to. Does she give up any "rights" to living here by voluntarily leaving? Can I change the lock once she moves out?
    Thanks,
    Rick
  • 12-08-2015, 12:37 PM
    llworking
    Re: How Do I Evict a Girlfriend in New York State
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    Quoting snydley100
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    Update:
    I think my girlfriend has decided that she doesn't want to live anywhere she's not wanted, and has decided to move out of my home and into a homeless shelter for the time being,(though I'll believe it when I see it).
    Because she is voluntarily moving, do I still have to give her notice and evict her? I told her she can leave her stuff here until she gets a permanent place to live if she needs to. Does she give up any "rights" to living here by voluntarily leaving? Can I change the lock once she moves out?
    Thanks,
    Rick

    If you are going to allow her to leave her stuff there then you had better follow through with the eviction. You will have a hard time proving that she actually moved out if all of her stuff is still there.
  • 12-08-2015, 05:28 PM
    L-1
    Re: How Do I Evict a Girlfriend in New York State
    Instead of allowing her to leave he stuff there, tell her you will rent a nearby storage unit for her and pay the rent two month in advance. That way she can come and go as she pleases to access her belongings as needed.

    Doing so (with her agreement) will ensure that she has moved out of your house. If she argues about the time, pay it six months in advance. It's cheaper than the cost of eviction.
  • 12-09-2015, 03:22 AM
    snydley100
    Re: How Do I Evict a Girlfriend in New York State
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    Quoting L-1
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    Instead of allowing her to leave he stuff there, tell her you will rent a nearby storage unit for her and pay the rent two month in advance. That way she can come and go as she pleases to access her belongings as needed.

    Doing so (with her agreement) will ensure that she has moved out of your house. If she argues about the time, pay it six months in advance. It's cheaper than the cost of eviction.

    Very good idea, thank you. I think I will also draw up a "contract" saying she rescinds all rights to stay in my house by accepting 2 months free storage, when I pay for it.
    Thanks again,
    Rick

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    Quoting llworking
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    If you are going to allow her to leave her stuff there then you had better follow through with the eviction. You will have a hard time proving that she actually moved out if all of her stuff is still there.

    I think I'm going to pay 2 months at a storage unit, and draw up a "contract" saying she rescinds all rights to stay in my house by accepting 2 months free storage, when I pay for it.
    Thanks,
    Rick
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