Consequences of a Relationship With a Drug-Using Ex-Colleague

Hello,

Currently, My brother is working for a big company and he has been in some trouble with girl who was working there as a temp.

Alright, so the whole story is that he was facing a lot of emotional trouble in the last month. First, he got his ex pregnant, this girl and my brother use to have casual sex and that led to her being pregnant and then abortion and other complications. The bottom line was that his head was in a shit hole. Due to all this, he started talking to a girl from work. This girl have had drug issues from the past and she was in recovery for past 4-5 years. So one day my brother goes to this girl to discuss the ex girlfriend problems. After consoling him, they make out but doesn't have sex.

After a week he realizes that he is falling into pattern and needs to break it and he comes clean to that girl. The girl is heart broken and very emotional. After a lot of talking and pleading he convinces her that it was his mistake and that they can be good friends.

They kept talking for about a month and then last Friday, she has a huge fight with her boss and she asks my brother to transport her stuff to a place cause she wanted to go and get drugs. My brother refused to do anything for her and tried to talk her out of using again. That night she did it anyways. We had plans that last weekend to meet our parents in New Jersey. After getting high that girl messaged him and said she was sorry and all. After about 2 hours of talking to her, he got her to get help as he doesn't know how to help her. My brother has never done drugs and he doesn't know how to get someone into recovery. So, he asks her to contact someone from her NA group and to stop using. After a while, she stopped text him and got clean.

Then, this Sunday she texted him again. And he lied to her in order to get her to stop texting him as he is afraid about him getting involved with the cops and things. On Monday, she got fired and was furious. My brother calmed her down and brought things to prospective and told her that she will get a new job. But if she keeps texting him, while she is also doing drugs, he will get in trouble and need to stop doing that. He told her that if she wants to do drugs, then to she should loose her number.

Now, she has not text him since. But he is freaking out and I don't know what to tell him so I am asking you.
According to what I think there are three possibilities of what she can end up doing:
1. doing drugs and loosing the house and be on the streets and cops catching her using.
2. killing herself, like od or something
3. she accusing my brother of assault during that one time when they met. Where everything was consensual.
4. finding a job and getting along with her life.

If any of the first three things happens, will my brother be in trouble?
can anyone provide any help. I don't know how to help him and he is freaking out.

Thank you,

I don't see where your brother would be "responsible" for anything bad that happens to her because of her own behavior.

However, if she makes a lot of noise with his employer he could lose his job and the employer would have every right to can him for his foolishness.

My advice: He should block her number and emails and never talk to her again about anything no matter what.

@adjusterjack,

Thank you so much. I am currently not worried about him being fired cause she is fired. All we are worried is, if the cops get hold of her cell and they find his number there. Will that get him trouble?

your reply brings a little relief... I will pass that advice along to him....

They can call him, sure. But it takes much more than having his number on her phone for him to get into trouble.

@Dogmatique:

The texts that they have exchanged shows that she was high and that she was thinking about killing herself. That is what is troubling... that if the cops reads those messages then they might put him in trouble... To all such replies he said that he is not the right person to contact and that he knows nothing about how to get into recovery or to get her help.... and he asked her to contact someone from NA or some one from her family.

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@adjusterjack,

Thank you so much. I am currently not worried about him being fired cause she is fired. All we are worried is, if the cops get hold of her cell and they find his number there. Will that get him trouble?

your reply brings a little relief... I will pass that advice along to him....

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If there is any possibility that the cops will want to speak with your brother I suggest you have him watch this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wXkI4t7nuc

and one last question is for how long is this going to be there... If he doesn't hear from anyone... for like a month or two? will it blow away?

Hon, tell you brother to relax.

If he has done nothing wrong, he has nothing to fear ... as a general rule.