I Want My Ex to Only Have Supervised Visits and Not Have His Girlfriend There

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: CAlifornia

so my ex was getting fully divorced from his wife at the time and we got together and he has been very very happy but then she threatened him with court and then we found out I was pregnant and he said if I was having a boy he would stay so when we got the ultrasound done it was a girl he walked out of the ultrasound at the drs office and then started griping about it and said that since his ex was taking him to court if he didn't go back to her he went back to her but then is now saying that they would disown him and even after she assaulted my mother who is deaf, the relationship the ex and him have is very abusive and I don't want my child around that biotch who hits a deaf person pushes them into a wall and makes fun of them and nor do I want that girl or him around my kid who uses mayonnaise as a form of shampoo , he has even told me to go on wic cuz he doesn't want to pay for any of the formula or anything and he hasn't bought anything for the baby, but yeet says he loves me and wants to be with me but he said he has to follow the bible and let her break up with him and he shows up at my house to try and cuddle and then he calls me fat im 7 months and he calls me fat and says if I have a pin I can pop ur swollen ankles and u can fill a pool and he said he doesn't want to be around the baby until she is passed the crying age and will only see the baby when he wants to .

I don't want this a hole around my child at all, he has driven drunk to see me before , he has been abusive to his ex and his ex has been abusive to my mother who is deaf, and all the name calling and refusing to take nay responsibility ,

is there anyway I can not have him have overnight visitation due to the fac this family are all druggies and everything going on?

I hope this makes sense.

I want him to see the child and pay for the child but no overnight stays.

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he also gets paid under the table every Saturday so that's another reason y he doesn't want me taking him to court.

If you can prove to the court that Dad should only have supervised visitation, then that's what you submit and request.

The same applies to his wife; if you can prove she's a danger, then that's what you submit and request.

Like it or not, he's going to get visitation and even if it's supervised to begin with, if they progress normally Dad WILL get overnights, and eventually weekends and entire weeks as the child gets older.

If you can prove that he's not reporting income to the court, then that's what you submit for child support purposes.

Out of sheer curiosity, who is it who has the problem with using mayo on hair?

when the child is of a mixed race it is really bad to use mayo on their hair. the hair has been tangled and everything. and lice was in it when we got the kids back from the ex at the time.

I have text messages and the checks from his job show it, and he has been lying on them for a while from what I understand. I don't want him or her near my child. they r both physically aggressive to each other and I have proof from others about it and the druggies he hangs out with.

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Quoting hurtandconfused

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when the child is of a mixed race it is really bad to use mayo on their hair. the hair has been tangled and everything. and lice was in it when we got the kids back from the ex at the time.

I have text messages and the checks from his job show it, and he has been lying on them for a while from what I understand. I don't want him or her near my child. they r both physically aggressive to each other and I have proof from others about it and the druggies he hangs out with.

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Mayo is often used on its own and in mixes, along with carrot oil, shea butter, coconut oil, and countless other ingredients, as a remedy for unruly biracial hair. I'm astonished that you even raised the issue - but even more astonished that you clearly don't have a clue about it to begin with.

Next...

You have no real proof of anything, do you? Are those druggies going to testify in court on your behalf? How credible do you think they are?

Now I'm going to ask you a question and I'd appreciate an honest answer.

You're not actually Mom, are you?

You titled your thread,

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I Want My Ex to Only Have Supervised Visits and Not Have His Girlfriend There

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Given that he's married, I doubt that his wife will want his girlfriend to be there, either.

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I don't want my child around that biotch who hits a deaf person pushes them into a wall and makes fun of them

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Your mother presumably reported the incident to the police. Did they find the accusations to be credible, and charge her?

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he said he doesn't want to be around the baby until she is passed the crying age and will only see the baby when he wants to

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Then why are you worried about his seeking visitation?

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is there anyway I can not have him have overnight visitation due to the fac this family are all druggies and everything going on?

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Okay... so this is your boyfriend, the father-to-be of your child, who you still hope will break up with his wife and end up with you, who you still see romantically even though he's back with his wife and he insults you, and you're hoping that you can deprive him of overnight visits (if he stays with his wife) by alleging that some members of his family are "druggies"? Which members? On what evidence?

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when the child is of a mixed race it is really bad to use mayo on their hair. the hair has been tangled and everything. and lice was in it when we got the kids back from the ex at the time.

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Why would you be getting your kids back from your boyfriend's wife?

I have photo evidnence of the drug use his family does

yes I am the mother for your acknowledgement. im just having a rough day today ok.
it was straight up mayo

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I have evidence of his brothers and his own father and mother, I have photo evidence as well as text messages.

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I have photo evidnence of the drug use his family does

yes I am the mother for your acknowledgement. im just having a rough day today ok.
it was straight up mayo

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I have evidence of his brothers and his own father and mother, I have photo evidence as well as text messages.

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I'll try to simplify it further.

Are these people going to stand up in court and testify against him on your behalf? A simple "yes" or "no" will suffice.

Photos of what? Taken when? What do you think texts and photos prove?

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I have photo evidnence of the drug use his family does

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Which has exactly what to do with him?

And you still haven't explained why the father's wife has some form of custody rights for your children.

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Which has exactly what to do with him?

And you still haven't explained why the father's wife has some form of custody rights for your children.

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don't want her to be near the children. cuz he said if he isn't there he will make sure the court has her there im like heck no

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don't want her to be near the children. cuz he said if he isn't there he will make sure the court has her there im like heck no

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Child, or children? How many kids involved here?

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don't want her to be near the children. cuz he said if he isn't there he will make sure the court has her there im like heck no

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You're not answering questions. You're just playing games

She's about to tell us that when she was with Dad, he had visitation with his OTHER child, and that's the poor child who had mayo in her hair (please..).

And Dad agreed with her (the OP) that Mama was bad and dangerous and .... oh. Wait. He went back to her. How 'bout that.

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She's about to tell us that when she was with Dad, he had visitation with his OTHER child, and that's the poor child who had mayo in her hair (please..).

And Dad agreed with her (the OP) that Mama was bad and dangerous and .... oh. Wait. He went back to her. How 'bout that.

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Add the fact that Dad has such a history, and OP STILL thought he was prime Daddy material....

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Add the fact that Dad has such a history, and OP STILL thought he was prime Daddy material....

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Yup!