Do You Have to Inform the Father or Get Permission Before Changing a Child's Surname

My question involves name change laws in the State of: Utah

My daughter was born in Puerto Rico. She is 3 years old now and her father has never been a part of her life -besides giving his last name after a DNA test-. I filled for child support but they never got a hold on him. Do I have to inform him that I will remove his last name? or get his permission? What reasons should I mention behind the change to the court?

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What reasons should I mention behind the change to the court?

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well, you should probably tell them why you are attempting to change the name.


If the guy has been established as the legal father, then you will be required to notify him, or at least make whatever efforts the court deems necessary, before the courts will allow the name change. Since it is his child too he does have a right to object to the change.

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Quoting jk

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well, you should probably tell them why you are attempting to change the name.


If the guy has been established as the legal father, then you will be required to notify him, or at least make whatever efforts the court deems necessary, before the courts will allow the name change. Since it is his child too he does have a right to object to the change.

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The reason being is not wanting to confuse her. Also, her father got involved with drugs more than once. I don't want him having any rights to my daughter.

I'm scared of informing him and he acting crazy or trying to be a part of her life. He is not the best person.

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krystlelv32;883375]The reason being is not wanting to confuse her.

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how would a child be confused?

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I don't want him having any rights to my daughter.

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sorry darlin' but it is HIS daughter too. He has the same rights to be a parent as you do if he so chooses to exercise them.

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I'm scared of informing him and he acting crazy or trying to be a part of her life. He is not the best person

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yet you had sex with him and had a child by him. Maybe you should have thought how bad of a person he was before you slept with him.

Without getting into the moral arguments the information from UTAH is here: https://www.utcourts.gov/resources/f...e/instruct.asp

You must either have a signed consent from the father or you have serve him notice.

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how would a child be confused?

sorry darlin' but it is HIS daughter too. He has the same rights to be a parent as you do if he so chooses to exercise them.yet you had sex with him and had a child by him. Maybe you should have thought how bad of a person he was before you slept with him.

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Before everything happened. He WAS my partner. I didn't just pick up a random person and blew off steam. This person was the person I thought I was going to marry and spend the rest of my life with. I have no fault that people have double lives and he chose to deceive me and turn into a psychopath the moment he found out we were expecting a child.

This person I'm worried about, could be capable of hurting me and my daughter. He shouldn't have any rights after everything he has done. Did you think I wanted this for myself? For my child? NO. I loved him. I cared for him. But he is a monster. OBVIOUSLY, the only reason I would even consider to change her last name is because he ISNT exercising at ALL his rights. He has shown to be unstable.

I came here for legal advice. Not a judgement, much less for you to mock the situation. If you do not have anything positive to contribute, please do not comment. Not everyone that has these things happen in their lives 'had it coming' or were 'naive'. This person I'm speaking about was human at some point, that point in which I saw a MAN. That man no longer is there.

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Without getting into the moral arguments the information from UTAH is here: https://www.utcourts.gov/resources/f...e/instruct.asp

You must either have a signed consent from the father or you have serve him notice.

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I appreciate the information.

And thanks for saving me the moral argument.

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He shouldn't have any rights after everything he has done.

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IF you can prove this, if he chooses to attempt to establish visitation, use the proof to show the courts he is a danger to your child. If you cannot substantiate your claim, expect the father to be given visitation.

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the only reason I would even consider to change her last name is because he ISNT exercising at ALL his rights.

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huh? So if he was seeing the child the child wouldn't be confused about his name?

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I came here for legal advice. Not a judgement, much less for you to mock the situation.

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then maybe you should have not gotten on the deprecation train yourself.

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If you do not have anything positive to contribute, please do not comment.

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I gave you the answer to the question you asked, remember:

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If the guy has been established as the legal father, then you will be required to notify him, or at least make whatever efforts the court deems necessary, before the courts will allow the name change. Since it is his child too he does have a right to object to the change.

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IF you can prove this, if he chooses to attempt to establish visitation, use the proof to show the courts he is a danger to your child. If you cannot substantiate your claim, expect the father to be given visitation.

huh? So if he was seeing the child the child wouldn't be confused about his name?





then maybe you should have not gotten on the deprecation train yourself.


I gave you the answer to the question you asked, remember:

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I feel that if she doesn't have his last name it would make things a bit easier of her understanding that he is not in her life. Almost non existent. She won't have that constant reminder. Having his last name will remind her of a person who does not care she exist. Therefore, my point regarding confusion...

For future post try to keep it black and white. You never know that persons pain. Calling them out on what YOU think is right or wrong, is uncalled for. Kindness goes a long way.

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For future post try to keep it black and white. You never know that persons pain. Calling them out on what YOU think is right or wrong, is uncalled for. Kindness goes a long way.

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Yes, you might try that rather than complaining about the father of your child/

this is all I said until you started all the trash talk about the father:

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well, you should probably tell them why you are attempting to change the name.


If the guy has been established as the legal father, then you will be required to notify him, or at least make whatever efforts the court deems necessary, before the courts will allow the name change. Since it is his child too he does have a right to object to the change.

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You then started on the "he's a bad man" thing.

so yes, you might want to stick to black and white and not put your feelings into a question that is black and white and was answered that way.

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I feel that if she doesn't have his last name it would make things a bit easier of her understanding that he is not in her life. Almost non existent. She won't have that constant reminder. Having his last name will remind her of a person who does not care she exist. Therefore, my point regarding confusion...

For future post try to keep it black and white. You never know that persons pain. Calling them out on what YOU think is right or wrong, is uncalled for. Kindness goes a long way.

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Regardless, every time she sees one of her little friends with their dads, no matter her last name, she'll know that her 'daddy' isn't around. She'll be asking about him, even if you never say a word. No matter how many positive male role models in her life, she'll still know.

You're fooling yourself if you think otherwise.