How to Get a Court to Keep My Wife's Violent Boyfriend Away from the Children

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Wyoming
I Kicked wife out of our house and i just started filing for divorce because she was having an affair. the man she is now dating has to go to court in a a month for beating up his girlfriend and braking her back. He got bail from his parents and he is in there custody in North Dakota. She left Me in the kids there are 2 of them, in Wyoming. I don't want my kids to be anywhere around this guy. but my soon to be ex wife wants to take them all summer. She was also leaving are kids at home to go to the post office which is 2 blocks away they are 3 and 6. they live with is family in the basement and I cant believe they think it is ok. and right now she cant get her antidepressant meds. what should i do.

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My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Wyoming
I Kicked wife out of our house and i just started filing for divorce because she was having an affair. the man she is now dating has to go to court in a a month for beating up his girlfriend and braking her back. He got bail from his parents and he is in there custody in North Dakota. She left Me in the kids there are 2 of them, in Wyoming. I don't want my kids to be anywhere around this guy. but my soon to be ex wife wants to take them all summer. She was also leaving are kids at home to go to the post office which is 2 blocks away they are 3 and 6. they live with is family in the basement and I cant believe they think it is ok. and right now she cant get her antidepressant meds. what should i do.

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First, you didn't legally have the right to kick her out of the marital home so that might give you some trouble later. I understand about the violent boyfriend but that may not be an issue in the long term since he may very well serve time. Can you prove, with hard evidence that she left your children home alone or will it be your word against hers?

The reality of things is that one way or another you are going to be sharing your children with your stbx. The sooner you accept that, the better life will be for everyone concerned, including you...and particularly for your children.

If the boyfriend doesn't serve time then you might have some leverage there...but you still will not be able to erase the children's mother.

I defiantly don't want to take away there mother I just want her to be around and be a good mom, my wife was also going down to the bar at night and going full nude for money and the bar is not a strip club. This is the type of stuff I don't want around my kids.

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I defiantly don't want to take away there mother I just want her to be around and be a good mom, my wife was also going down to the bar at night and going full nude for money and the bar is not a strip club. This is the type of stuff I don't want around my kids.

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And the proof of that is.. ?

For what it's worth, working as a stripper does not mean the parent is unfit. Was she doing this while you were married? You were okay with it then?

yes being a stripper is just fine but no I did not want her to do it and where she did it is illegal. and I told her to please stop and she didn't. I told her she could get in trouble. And about kicking her out after is started kicking her out I told her I was sorry and told her stay and I would go to my parents I she could have the kids and I would cool off she said no and just left.

The point being you had no right to kick her out in the first place.

But now you have bigger problems and I'd assume that Mom isn't going to be anywhere near as likely to compromise with you. So we're back to the boyfriend. Is he actually going to be serving?

Yes the boyfriend is getting felony charges, but I really want the kids to have a mom but untill this guy can prove to me he has changed I still feel uncomfortable having him around my kids.

We're asking if he''s going to be incarcerated - not if he's been charged.

If he's going to be behind bars there is no reason for Mom's parenting time to be restricted.

If he's not, that's another matter entirely.

Bear in mind that he has nothing to prove to you at all.

no id don't think he is being incarcerated just a 2 year deferral

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no id don't think he is being incarcerated just a 2 year deferral

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For domestic violence that resulted in breaking someone's BACK?

Someone is exaggerating somewhere.

That is what my wife told he was getting, but he did brake his girlfriends back in three places. And held a knife to her throat. I'm just going on what my wife said he is getting

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That is what my wife told he was getting, but he did brake his girlfriends back in three places. And held a knife to her throat. I'm just going on what my wife said he is getting

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Stop listening to your wife. Find out yourself. See if you can find information here: http://publicsearch.ndcourts.gov/default.aspx

If you know which judge, I can maybe dig a bit, too - I lived in Fargo for several years.

thank you I will do that

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the charge is in Wyoming

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thank you I will do that

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the charge is in Wyoming

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Try this: https://efiling.courts.state.wy.us/public/caseSearch.do

There's a bit more clicking around to find what you need, but they at least provide the service.

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This might be better (and I might need more coffee) http://www.courts.state.wy.us/

this is an update. Last night I found a ten page letter that stated she was intentionally pushing me out of her life so she would have feel bad about leaving and she and this guy are planning to start a polyamorous relationship with another girl. the time frames in the letter looks like it all started about a year ago.

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I have it on a tape recorder.

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this is an update. Last night I found a ten page letter that stated she was intentionally pushing me out of her life so she would have feel bad about leaving and she and this guy are planning to start a polyamorous relationship with another girl. the time frames in the letter looks like it all started about a year ago.

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I have it on a tape recorder.

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um...okay then.

10 page letter, or tape recorder? Just out of curiosity.