14 year old dating a 20 year old

I have a question. This is concerning my boyfriends daughter who lives with us every other week. On the opposing week she lives with her mother. They share custody. Well, she just turned 14 this month, and for the past 4 months or so the mother has been letting her date a 20 year old that they know. We are not in agreement and have told the mother that this is just too much of an age difference, but it still continues. I am concerned that something bad is going to end up happening and it seems that we should be able to do something about this. Isnt their anything we can do aside from taking the mother back to court? The boy never comes over here , because they know that we are not in agreement with this, but the daughter continuously finds reasons to go to her mothers when it is her dads week. Is their not some way to get the law involved?
Crystal

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I have a question. This is concerning my boyfriends daughter who lives with us every other week. On the opposing week she lives with her mother. They share custody. Well, she just turned 14 this month, and for the past 4 months or so the mother has been letting her date a 20 year old that they know. We are not in agreement and have told the mother that this is just too much of an age difference, but it still continues. I am concerned that something bad is going to end up happening and it seems that we should be able to do something about this. Isnt their anything we can do aside from taking the mother back to court? The boy never comes over here , because they know that we are not in agreement with this, but the daughter continuously finds reasons to go to her mothers when it is her dads week. Is their not some way to get the law involved?
Crystal

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What is the name of the state where this is happening?

I will say unless he is doing something illegal, there isn't much you can do.

Also, dad doesn't have to agree to let her go to her mothers when it is his time.

I am not aware of any state that regulates dating.

If the relationship involves, say, mouth kissing and nothing more, I doubt that there is a criminal violation. But I am skeptical that a 20-year-old is interested in a platonic relationship with a 13- or 14-year-old child. If the father wants to end the relationship, he can probably convince the court which has jurisdiction over custody to order the mother to end contact - the judge will likely also be skeptical of any claim that "his intentions are pure." But it may be more sensible to start by consuting a mental health professional about how to approach the situation, as litigation is likely to get both his ex- and their daughter mad at him.

This is taking place in Ohio.
Thanks for the responses. I still am unsure of what to do. To take the ex wife back to court, wouldnt we have to pay and get a lawyer and all of that? I just think that their is no reason for a 20 year old to want to hang out with a 14 year old, except for one reason. And something bad may end up happening.

could someone give me the law concerning what would happen if a 20 year old has sex with a 14 year old, and their are charges against the 20 year old...like , how long of a sentence, etc. Thanks...

Q: To take the ex wife back to court, wouldnt we have to pay and get a lawyer and all of that?

A: Yes.

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could someone give me the law concerning what would happen if a 20 year old has sex with a 14 year old, and their are charges against the 20 year old...

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Ohio Code § 2907.04.

Also see: Criminal Sentences in Ohio

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I have a question. This is concerning my boyfriends daughterFirst [problem its not your child! who lives with us every other week. On the opposing week she lives with her mother. They share custody.Meaning its their shared problem Well, she just turned 14 this month, and for the past 4 months or so the mother has been letting her date a 20 year old that they know. WeThe 'we' part does not apply see other statements are not in agreement and have told the mother that this is just too much of an age difference, but it still continues.Father (your BF) should be dealign with this not you II (meanning you) does not apply its not your issue am concerned that something bad is going to end up happening and it seems that we should be able to do something about this. Isnt their anything we can do aside from taking the mother back to court? The boy never comes over here , because they know that we are not in agreement with this, but the daughter continuously finds reasons to go to her mothers when it is her dads week. Is their not some way to get the law involved?Yes your BF can take her to court
Crystal

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Simply put its not your problem. Now don't get me wrong there is a serious issue here but its not for you to deal with! Your BF can take her to court and he can file a CPS report as well! Furthermore if anything past kissing has occured charges could be filed! Thsi would include simple fondoling! If that has happened charges and a restrainning order could be put in place. Mother would then be forced to forbid this relationship! Earlier post gave you many option for your BF. Thsi is not something you need to want to be involved in! Whatever the outcome it will not do well for you and your relationship. Stay out of and just support BF.