Being Harassed with Threats of Restraining Order
My question involves restraining orders in the State of: California or Wisconsin
I'm in the middle of a very high conflict divorce. My husband is a Covert Narcissist Sociopath and this term is not used as slang. If you don't know what this means, imagine the devil himself dressed as a Boyscout. His method of choice to threaten me is using the law and the authorities. 5 years ago, he falsely accused me of domestic abuse and had me arrested. Charges were dropped.
Fast forward to now. He is currently "threatening" me by very carefully suggesting his girlfriend is or *might* file a restraining order against me. I haven't any contact with her except when I first found out about their affair. I emailed her and basically warned her about him. Nothing threatening. I followed her on Spotify for about 10 days because she had a public collaborative playlist with my husband called "divorce". This is how I found out about them in the first place. I flipped out a little, but nothing threatening, and I stopped shortly after. She never replied. Never wrote me back.
My husband threw a fit. Told me to stop following her. He said if I didn't that she was going to file a restraining order against me. Bottom line is that for years he is finding ways to threaten to get restraining orders or call the police, even though he doesn't have reason to do so. It's his method.
Girlfriend is in Wisconsin and I highly doubt she is going to file a restraining order. If she does, she's probably lying because I seriously doubt she is afraid of me. Husband still keeps *telling* me that she is going to file and then he's going to take the RO into our divorce along with my arrest history and ruin me.
I understand that in California, this doesn't mean much. But this is really messing with me. I have anxiety attacks and I'm frazzled and stressed out and his scare tactics and intimidations do work to some extent. So my question is this. Can I file a restraining order against him for threatening me with restraining orders all of the time? And if I can, can he file one back on me in retaliation? None of this is a good idea in the middle of what is already a crazy making divorce. But I'm falling apart over here. I just want this divorce over.
apologies if I'm posting this in the wrong forum. I wasn't sure if it should be under divorce or RO's
Re: Being Harassed with Threats of Restraining Order
He wants you to be frazzled and stressed and you are giving him exactly what he wants.
Stop listening to him and get yourself to a counselor ASAP.
Re: Being Harassed with Threats of Restraining Order
It is doubtful that an RO will be issued when you live half a nation away. It's kind of hard to argue that you are a real threat when you are 1,500 or so miles away.
Re: Being Harassed with Threats of Restraining Order
There's no point to worrying about his threats. He'll either file for an RO, or he won't. So far, he hasn't. No reason to believe tommorow will be any different. Stop communicating with them unless it has to do with any court ordered visitation with the child. He can only intmidate you for years like this if you LET him.