How Can a Fifteen-Year-Old Get Out of His Home

My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of:Alabama
I am 15 years old I will be 16 in July. My parents are not abusive. Though multiple slaps, hair pulling and being locked in a room occurred but I suppose eveyone goes through that. I need help getting out of my home. My parents are super difficult to live with. They have taken me out of school because there were too many black kids and put me in a private school. They wouldn't let me go to any school dances or ball because I would take my bf because he isn't white. And recently they have put me basically on house arrest. I haven't set foot out of my house except school for almost a month. I want to know what are my options. I know running away is not an option because that will put me at fault. I have friends I can live with. I do want to live with my bf but i know we are just dating and living with him is not an option and the state would never allow that. Could I go into foster care? Or be taken by my friend parents? I would be obliged and greatful if someone would be kind enough to go through with me the options I have as a 15 year old and after I'm 16. Please I wouldn't ask if I wasn't in dire need.
Thankyou very muxh.

There are no options available to you, or when you're 16.

This is partly why: http://www.expertlaw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=10634

Please read other threads about emancipation.

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Please I wouldn't ask if I wasn't in dire need

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Sweetheart, you're not in dire need. You're in dire WANT, and that's a completely different beast altogether. And it sucks.

I am not unsympathetic to your desires - I spent several years living with my grandparents after my parents tried to kill me. My Oma's favorite word was NO. I was not allowed to make or receive telephone calls. I was not permitted to have posters of Jesse Owens (my idol), Prince, Carl Lewis, Vanessa Williams...because they were Black. I was not permitted to have friends over to hang out in my room - we were only allowed to hang out in the back yard. I was not permitted to date. I was not permitted to cook for myself. I had to ask permission to bathe. I had to ask permission to wash my hair. I was not permitted to wear makeup at all. I was not permitted to wear pants to school, not even in frigid weather. Skirts and dresses only, and if I got frostbite, oh well. Even though I ran track, sang in the choir, and worked on the yearbook, I had to ask permission to attend every meet, sing in every concert, work on every deadline.

It sucked. I hated it. I wanted out. But the law's answer was "Tough noogies, kid. You're fed, housed, and clothed, and that's all that's required. Anything else is gravy that you don't have a legal right to." I got lucky and was rescued by a government scholarship to study abroad. I turned 17, then 18 while living abroad, and that was the end of my captivity.

As far as the law is concerned, you are the PROPERTY of your parents until you reach the age of majority. You do as you're told, you eat what you're told, you go to school where you're told, you date who you're permitted (if you're permitted to date at all). As long as you're adequately fed, clothed, and sheltered, and are not being abused, the law does not give one damn about what you want.

Your option is to suck it up for the next 2.5 years, get your ducks in a row, and move out at 12:01AM on your 18th birthday.

She's in Alabama. She gets to wait till her 19th birthday.

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Quoting Dogmatique

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There are no options available to you, or when you're 16.

This is partly why: http://www.expertlaw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=10634

Please read other threads about emancipation.

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I read the link you provided. It seems that if I run away I will be placed in foster care. Is foster care really that bad as they make it out to be. Would Foster care be a better option than living with my parents? Could I ask the social worker to put me with a friemds family rather than a completely new family. I can't thank you guys enough for replying.

Short answer: no

So that all? I just give up

You're parents aren't being abusive. You don't appreciate that private school education, but one day you will. As far as the racial thing, they are looking out for your best, you live in Alabama. You only have to live in your parents home, until you turn 19. You can get a job after school and on weekends now. You can save your money so that at 12am on the day you turn 19, you can leave your parents home and with the money you've saved up be able to get an apartment pay the deposit, first months rent, pay to get the utilities turned on, buy furniture, etc. Of course you will have to have a full time job then to be able to afford to not have to live in your parents home. But, with the private school education you're getting, you should be able to get a better job right out of high school than those with a public school education can. Not a lot better, but better, until you can find a way to continue to work full time and continue some form of education or training. You will also need the money you save up to pay for that. You will need to get an Eligibility to Work form if you get a job before you turn 16. You can get that form from your school.

I know kids your age who have put up with far worse than you can imagine, just to have the advatages of a private high school education.

I repeat: She's in Alabama. She doesn't hit the age of majority till 19.

If you run away, you may be placed in foster care or you may just get your spoiled little behind dragged back home where you belong. If you are placed in foster care, you may rest assured that you will have no say in where you are placed.

cbg, Thanks !