Minor Child Wants Custody Changed

My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Arkansas and Georgia

This is a really long story but I need all of the help I can get so I turned to this site. It all started a couple of years ago. My parents were married but not happily. My dad was constantly emotionally abusive and sometimes physically abusive to my mother but never towards my sister and I. My mother began to take pain pills to deal with everything. She went to several sessions of rehab and she is now fine. My dad received sole custody of my sister and I. 8 years have passed and things are still terrible. In 2012 my dad relocated to Atlanta GA with my sister and I, taking us from our mother in Arkansas. My mom has tried to change custody only to be denied. She has been clean for 7 years but my dad insists that she is still using even though the lab results say otherwise. My sister and I have been in Atlanta for three years and things are terrible. I have been depressed after being emotionally abused several times. I have been told that I am pathetic, live a terrible existence, and I'm sick and twisted. I'm told not to infect my sister, put on a smile for people, and save my tears for someone who cares because he doesn't. We get to visit with our mother quite often but it's not the same. There is an upcoming court case in May but I can not wait that long. A couple of months ago I started cutting. It was a brief session but I fear that it may start up again. I hate my dad. I wish that he would die and quite often have dreams and thoughts of killing him myself. I just want it all to end. I know that emancipation is legal separation from both parents but I want to know if it's possible to separate myself from just him. My mom is quite able to care for us and already does most of what we need. Please help me. I don't know what else to do.

You aren't going to be emancipated- that's not going to happen.

If you are harming yourself and having thoughts of harming others, I urge you to get some help. If you can't discuss with Dad, please talk to someone at school, a counselor or trusted teacher. Tomorrow is Monday- do it first thing.

Eventually, you'll be old enough to move away (18) but if you don't have your head on straight, you'll find that life on your own is very difficult. You have a lot of anger that needs to be sorted out in a healthy manner, not by cutting yourself.

I know that this is a tough time in your life and it's hard to be away from a parent, but this really isn't your fight, it's between your parents. You can always refer your mom to this site for help.

Best of luck to you.

I understand that when I'm 18, I will be able to leave and trust me, I intend on doing that. After 18, I will have no further contact with my father, I guarantee that. But what I am asking is if there is anything I can do before then to get an immediate change of custody. I'm tired, I have been fighting this battle since I was 6. I know what I want but nothing has happened. I am now disgusted to walk into his house because just recently I found pictures of him and several women engaging in sexual actions in his home and on his boat, all places me and my 10 year old sister have to go. And he has also been threatening me with boarding school options, and has said that I will have nothing in his house, no phone, no computer, no TV, no drivers permit or license. I am falling behind in classes because I can't even contact my teachers or friends and the school relies heavily on technology. I really really need help. I think that he is sick, he needs help. The most important thing to him is his reputation and I am a "infected, depressed, miserable spot in his life".

The answer is still no.

Your mother is the only person with standing to request a modification and it looks like that's already been tried.

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Quoting Dogmatique

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The answer is still no.

Your mother is the only person with standing to request a modification and it looks like that's already been tried.

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However, I would seriously urge you to speak to your school counselor about how you are feeling and your thoughts.

Are you saying that a 14 year old child who has been emotionally abused several times can not be moved to the safety of another parent? Is this how adults help us minors? By saying that they will work something out? I know that I am a minor in every sense of the word. And there is an ongoing court case. I want to know if there is anything that I can do at this point? We are going to win the case. The attorneys have already said so. There is too much evidence against him but is there anything that I can do to speed it up?

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Quoting Ineedhelpmom

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Are you saying that a 14 year old child who has been emotionally abused several times can not be moved to the safety of another parent? Is this how adults help us minors? By saying that they will work something out? I know that I am a minor in every sense of the word. And there is an ongoing court case. I want to know if there is anything that I can do at this point? We are going to win the case. The attorneys have already said so. There is too much evidence against him but is there anything that I can do to speed it up?

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Then pay attention to the attorneys who are guaranteeing a ruling in your favor.