Absent Father Wants Legal Rights

I've spoken to him (bio-dad)about the information that I've been receiving here and I feel it's very useful with what were dealing and are trying to establish with our son. He says it's my responsibility to establish paternity because I pushed him away and I will have to waive child support because I'm married and he's got his own responsibilities. My husband feel really strong about the adoption now especially when my son already knows my husband as his father. Can we just start the adoption process? I am getting frustrated because I feel I've been very informative to my sons father regarding the information and proper procedures to follow and I'm willing to assist in any way but I feel he's not serious about anything and I'm not going to wait around for him to figure it out.

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Quoting godivaqueen

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I've spoken to him (bio-dad)about the information that I've been receiving here and I feel it's very useful with what were dealing and are trying to establish with our son. He says it's my responsibility to establish paternity because I pushed him away and I will have to waive child support because I'm married and he's got his own responsibilities. My husband feel really strong about the adoption now especially when my son already knows my husband as his father. Can we just start the adoption process? I am getting frustrated because I feel I've been very informative to my sons father regarding the information and proper procedures to follow and I'm willing to assist in any way but I feel he's not serious about anything and I'm not going to wait around for him to figure it out.

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Get a consult with an adoption attorney...or in he alternative, simply stop talking to your ex. He is clearly an idiot.

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Quoting godivaqueen

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I've spoken to him (bio-dad)about the information that I've been receiving here and I feel it's very useful with what were dealing and are trying to establish with our son. He says it's my responsibility to establish paternity because I pushed him away and I will have to waive child support because I'm married and he's got his own responsibilities. My husband feel really strong about the adoption now especially when my son already knows my husband as his father. Can we just start the adoption process? I am getting frustrated because I feel I've been very informative to my sons father regarding the information and proper procedures to follow and I'm willing to assist in any way but I feel he's not serious about anything and I'm not going to wait around for him to figure it out.

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Go get your husband, and plant the two of you in front of your computer. Repeat out loud what I'm saying here:

Ready?

Let's go.

BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA uh No Mr Ex - that's just not quite how it works. *snort*snorkle*can't type, laughing too hard*.

Repeat as you feel necessary, then grab some tissues to mop up the tears you're shedding from laughing so hard. Did he seriously tell you that he wouldn't have to pay child support because got married?! Using his logic, he has no rights to even glance at the child because, well, your husband is the one raising him.

I guess he's not really the most...thinking...person in the box.

God, that was funny.

Okay, carry on!

But please, all kidding aside, get thee to an attorney first thing in the morning. Because he's being a jerk, I wouldn't be surprised if his intent is purely about messing things up and/or creating trouble just to get at you.

I thought that with all the information we've been receiving here would be very helpful and especially beneficial for any man trying to establish a stable relationship with his child but I guess not with my ex.

We will start on finding an adoption attorney and hopefully they will point us in the right direction on where to begin and most definitely I have been ignoring him.

What will the process be like, does anyone know? Is there a website specifically for my state because I've been trying to find one but have only been able to find a few and they say it's from 1998.

What will most likely be the outcome if we file for adoption and my ex isn't on the bc and he objects just because he wants to get on my nerves? I just know it'll be something he's going to do out of spite. Ive had it with the nonsense and quit playing these childish games he plays.

@Dogmatique: thank you for the uplift. I'm sure I'll get a laugh out of it when all this is over. I hope.