Do Visitation Restrictions Agains My Girlfriend Become Void Once We Are Married

To start, my ex hates me girlfriend of 5 years and has done everything she can to keep the kids away from her. My children and my girlfriend have a great relationship and the youngest is quite attached to her.

As of right now, there is a court order stating that my girlfriend cannot be left unsupervised with the kids, cannot post pictures of them, cannot sleep in the same bed as them, she cannot take them to the restroom if we go places or drive them anywhere.

A couple examples of issues are: My oldest daughter spent the night one weekend and we had a power outage. She got scared and climbed into be with me and my girlfriend. This caused my ex to go into a tail spin. One weekend my girlfriend and i took the children to the beach, afterwards my girlfriend helped them rinse off and change into their regular clothes, another tail spin. We went to dinner one night and my children had to use the restroom, my girlfriend took them to the restroom, another tail spin. We also took the children to the OC fair recently and instead of being able to send my girlfriend into the very busy public restroom with my daughter, I had to let her go in alone, this concerns me as fairs are very very busy. My children are girls and it I feel it is inappropriate to take them into the mens bathroom with me as my ex insists I do.

All of these issues have caused my ex to add all of these restrictions into the visitation requests and because my girlfriend and I are not married, the court granted it all. So, I was wondering if all of those restrictions go away when we are married? The judge made a statement to that effect when it came to posting pictures. He said that she cannot post anymore pictures but when we are married that makes her family and she can post whatever she wants. Does this same rule apply to the other restrictions as well? Also, my girlfriend is not allowed to be in the car when I pick up or drop off my children, also at the demand of my ex, will this change as well?

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Quoting Jesse0106

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To start, my ex hates me girlfriend of 5 years and has done everything she can to keep the kids away from her. My children and my girlfriend have a great relationship and the youngest is quite attached to her.

As of right now, there is a court order stating that my girlfriend cannot be left unsupervised with the kids, cannot post pictures of them, cannot sleep in the same bed as them, she cannot take them to the restroom if we go places or drive them anywhere.

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Mom evidently had at least some evidence...what was it?

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A couple examples of issues are: My oldest daughter spent the night one weekend and we had a power outage. She got scared and climbed into be with me and my girlfriend. This caused my ex to go into a tail spin. One weekend my girlfriend and i took the children to the beach, afterwards my girlfriend helped them rinse off and change into their regular clothes, another tail spin. We went to dinner one night and my children had to use the restroom, my girlfriend took them to the restroom, another tail spin. We also took the children to the OC fair recently and instead of being able to send my girlfriend into the very busy public restroom with my daughter, I had to let her go in alone, this concerns me as fairs are very very busy. My children are girls and it I feel it is inappropriate to take them into the mens bathroom with me as my ex insists I do.

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She's using common sense. Hopping into the men's room versus the lady's room is little more than a "Well..either I go...or I need to go into the bushes"

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All of these issues have caused my ex to add all of these restrictions into the visitation requests and because my girlfriend and I are not married, the court granted it all. So, I was wondering if all of those restrictions go away when we are married? The judge made a statement to that effect when it came to posting pictures. He said that she cannot post anymore pictures but when we are married that makes her family and she can post whatever she wants. Does this same rule apply to the other restrictions as well? Also, my girlfriend is not allowed to be in the car when I pick up or drop off my children, also at the demand of my ex, will this change as well?

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Seriously we need to know exactly what happened - the courts generally don't give a hoot about boyfriends and girlfriends unless there's a reason for doing so.

No evidence what so ever. She just does not like my girlfriend because she is still in love with me. She blames my girlfriend for her and I not being together anymore. The court has slowly realized that the only reason our custody battle has gone on for so long is because she cannot let go of me and our past relationship. She was recently ordered to participate is therapy sessions because of this.

When it comes to custody, she is just relentless and does not stop until she gets what she wants. She files and files and files. Every time she tries to demand that my girlfriend not be allowed near them at all the court has told her that all they will do is order that my girlfriend cannot be left unsupervised with them but that is it because she has no evidence to prove that there is any reason for my girlfriend to not be around them at all.

Believe me, I do not understand why or how the court has given her all of this, but it is what it is and I am just trying to find out if our marriage will change things. This has been going on for 5 years. She even went so far as to demand a trial because the court granted me overnight visitation and she didnt like that, because my girlfriend lives with me. She wants me to make my girlfriend leave our shared home when my kids spend that night.

You will look at the language of the order. If the language identifies your girlfriend specifically but does not mention the status of the relationship, odds are it continues to apply even if you're married. If the language speaks of people you're dating, without mention of any specific individual, odds are the language will no longer apply once you marry. We cannot tell you what the order means without knowing exactly what it says.

Well, if she was able to convince the court that your girlfriend shouldn't be unsupervised, marriage isn't going to change that.

You really do need to see an attorney though. To most people, that Mom was able to actually do this would cause concern and red flags.

(Just to make sure...by "OC" you mean Orange County, CA?)

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Quoting Mr. Knowitall

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You will look at the language of the order. If the language identifies your girlfriend specifically but does not mention the status of the relationship, odds are it continues to apply even if you're married. If the language speaks of people you're dating, without mention of any specific individual, odds are the language will no longer apply once you marry. We cannot tell you what the order means without knowing exactly what it says.

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The mediation report say's "Girlfriend" and the court order just adopts the mediation recommendation. She is trying to get it to specifically name her.

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Quoting Dogmatique

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Well, if she was able to convince the court that your girlfriend shouldn't be unsupervised, marriage isn't going to change that.

You really do need to see an attorney though. To most people, that Mom was able to actually do this would cause concern and red flags.

(Just to make sure...by "OC" you mean Orange County, CA?)

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Yes, OC meaning Orange County, CA. The case is in San Bernardino. And no, there are no concerns or red flags regarding her, my ex just drags everything out to the point of where the mediator had to give her something. And then the judge adopts the mediator report and if there is something she didnt like in the mediators reports she pushes it at the judge, and then will file for modification again if she didnt like the outcome. This last time she requested a trial because she didnt get what she wanted.